Begging for a date then throwing a tantrum over it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP here and I have an update!

I have not reached out to him since he blew up at me. Today he texted me asking me to go out tonight!

I ignored and blocked him. But this is so bizarre. Why yell at me you don’t want to date me, then turn around and ask me out a few days later??

OMFG with your headgames... You got what you wanted, and now you're going to stonewall the guy? You two deserve each other!

If someone only gives you "what you wanted" after being blocked and ignored, clearly they don't actually care that much.

Blocking and ignoring someone is headgames. Picking fights with people because you didn't get your way is headgames. OP is as much a party to this madness as the guy she's complaining about. No self-respecting person plays this fool's game to begin with, especially if they want to be cared about.

Care about yourself and have enough self-respect to not engage this clown in the first place.

Uh no. It's called trying to move on. You sound like a loser if you think someone blocking you means "theyre playing games, try harder" If a woman blocks you, just leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I have an update!

I have not reached out to him since he blew up at me. Today he texted me asking me to go out tonight!

I ignored and blocked him. But this is so bizarre. Why yell at me you don’t want to date me, then turn around and ask me out a few days later??

OMFG with your headgames... You got what you wanted, and now you're going to stonewall the guy? You two deserve each other!

If someone only gives you "what you wanted" after being blocked and ignored, clearly they don't actually care that much.

Blocking and ignoring someone is headgames. Picking fights with people because you didn't get your way is headgames. OP is as much a party to this madness as the guy she's complaining about. No self-respecting person plays this fool's game to begin with, especially if they want to be cared about.

Care about yourself and have enough self-respect to not engage this clown in the first place.

Uh no. It's called trying to move on. You sound like a loser if you think someone blocking you means "theyre playing games, try harder" If a woman blocks you, just leave her alone.

You sound like an abuser if you can't have a text conversation with a stranger without namecalling and nastiness.

Blocking and ignoring people you've been goading and baiting and cajoling is 100% headgames. Being clear from the start that you're not interested, and then blocking someone who persists (because you said what you meant and you meant what you said) would be totally fine, and that's not what OP did here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I have an update!

I have not reached out to him since he blew up at me. Today he texted me asking me to go out tonight!

I ignored and blocked him. But this is so bizarre. Why yell at me you don’t want to date me, then turn around and ask me out a few days later??

OMFG with your headgames... You got what you wanted, and now you're going to stonewall the guy? You two deserve each other!

If someone only gives you "what you wanted" after being blocked and ignored, clearly they don't actually care that much.

Blocking and ignoring someone is headgames. Picking fights with people because you didn't get your way is headgames. OP is as much a party to this madness as the guy she's complaining about. No self-respecting person plays this fool's game to begin with, especially if they want to be cared about.

Care about yourself and have enough self-respect to not engage this clown in the first place.

Uh no. It's called trying to move on. You sound like a loser if you think someone blocking you means "theyre playing games, try harder" If a woman blocks you, just leave her alone.

You sound like an abuser if you can't have a text conversation with a stranger without namecalling and nastiness.

Blocking and ignoring people you've been goading and baiting and cajoling is 100% headgames. Being clear from the start that you're not interested, and then blocking someone who persists (because you said what you meant and you meant what you said) would be totally fine, and that's not what OP did here.

Someone sounds like an abuser because they block an annoying misogynist? Hardly. Sorry you're so desperate to find attention in someone blocking you. What a sad life. I urge you again, if a woman blocks you, just leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a guy in my friend group who I’ve liked for a bit, and he liked me back. We ended up hooking up a few times, but I wanted more and he didn’t, and I always felt like I was chasing after him (he rarely initiated contact), so I ended things.

He spent days texting and calling me, promising me he would change, he would commit, he would start taking me on dates (which is a big deal for me, I love dates). I was hesitant - I don’t want to spend my time and energy on someone who isn’t into me - but decided to give him another chance.

Of course things went right back to the way they were, where he was distant and I had to pursue him. I tried to set a date with him, and when I tried to get him to plan a real date (not just hooking up), he blew up at me. Like legit blew up, yelling “I told you I don’t do that” and “you’re just going to end things again anyway”.

Point taken, I’m not going to bother with him again. But WHY spend days begging me nonstop for a second chance, then turn around and throw a fit when I expect him to fulfill on his promises?

You might wish to review the definition of insanity