Begging for a date then throwing a tantrum over it?
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Anonymous
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There’s a guy in my friend group who I’ve liked for a bit, and he liked me back. We ended up hooking up a few times, but I wanted more and he didn’t, and I always felt like I was chasing after him (he rarely initiated contact), so I ended things.
He spent days texting and calling me, promising me he would change, he would commit, he would start taking me on dates (which is a big deal for me, I love dates). I was hesitant - I don’t want to spend my time and energy on someone who isn’t into me - but decided to give him another chance. Of course things went right back to the way they were, where he was distant and I had to pursue him. I tried to set a date with him, and when I tried to get him to plan a real date (not just hooking up), he blew up at me. Like legit blew up, yelling “I told you I don’t do that” and “you’re just going to end things again anyway”. Point taken, I’m not going to bother with him again. But WHY spend days begging me nonstop for a second chance, then turn around and throw a fit when I expect him to fulfill on his promises? |
Anonymous
| You don’t buy the cow when you can beg the owner for free milk. |
Anonymous
| He sounds unstable. Run and don’t get sucked into his nonsense again. He just wants to have sex and he likes the feeling of you pursuing him. Know your worth and be done with this guy. |
Anonymous
OP. That’s what is weird, is I told him if it’s just sex, no problem. It can just be sex. But he insisted he wanted more. |
Anonymous
| He’s afraid of commitment. |
Anonymous
| Op - I came across several men like that . I think they are commitment phobic . I dumped them all |
Anonymous
| Don't try to find logic in someone like this. Who cares? He's damaged & he won't change. |
Anonymous
This is a lie and the opposite of what you wrote in your op. You were not dating at best you were FWBs and FWBs don't go on dates. He's not afraid of commitment he doesn't want to be committed to you . He wants you to be available to have sex with you whenever and was attempting to tell you what you wanted to hear to accomplish that. You want a boyfriend find that and stop pretending you are a down for whatever girl because you are not. |
Anonymous
It’s not even worth analyzing, because there’s no way you should even interact with this guy again in a romantic or sexual way; he’s a giant jerk, and sounds pretty messed up. |
Anonymous
DP. Whether or not he’s scared of commitment, he’s shown himself to be disrespectful jerk. So there’s no need to make this OP’s fault. |
Anonymous
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Because for some odd reason, men are turned on when a woman turns her back on them.
Men love a good chase that is for sure. This guy sounds like a common dud. 😲 Do not give him another chance. |
Anonymous
| Who cares about the why, stop trying to make sense out of nonsense. |
Anonymous
P.S. the quicker you learn how to just move on from bullsh** and not waste energy trying to understand it, the better your life will be in the end. |
Anonymous
| It's a capacity issue. Don't ask him something he can't give you. No wonder he gets frustrated. |
Anonymous
| The important question isn’t why he’s like that. The important question is why you keep chasing him when he is not offering what you want. |