Is there any reason my husband of 20 years would order an STI test other than he cheated?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw the order in a folder on his desk. A few months ago I had some strange blisters and burning you know where. It went away pretty quickly. I had mentioned it to him and he gave it a shrug. Now I find this piece of paper from a lab for STI testing. This is bad, right?

Yes, he slept with someone other than you.

[Anonymous]

My gyn’s office offers this test every time I’ve gone for my annual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw the order in a folder on his desk. A few months ago I had some strange blisters and burning you know where. It went away pretty quickly. I had mentioned it to him and he gave it a shrug. Now I find this piece of paper from a lab for STI testing. This is bad, right?

He either cheated or is going to say to a judge that you cheated. Be prepared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My gyn’s office offers this test every time I’ve gone for my annual.

Mine never has. Maybe you are promiscuous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sharing all the complete, exact information, dates, etc. because I'm almost positive that he comes on here. The order for the test is dated from before I ever had symptoms (I have a reason to chalk symptoms like that up to other things and had no reason to be super worried--mostly because I assumed I had been exposed only to him in over 25 years). It just so happens I found the test order recently--months after the "episode."

He cheated. I'm sorry.

I thought I had an STD about a year ago. I readily told my DH about it, because under very rare circumstances you can get it from things other than sexual contact -- and I knew for sure I hadn't had any sexual contact. DH is asexual and hasn't been interested in years, and I wasn't doing it with anyone else.

My point is that if you think you need an STD test, and know you aren't guilty, it's not the kind of thing you hide. It's the "This is so weird! I think I have this! WTF?" Or, alternatively, given that you are sexually active, it's the "We really need to talk, I'm having these symptoms and need to know what the hell is going on...are you cheating?" conversation. Either way, it's not kept secret. If it's kept secret ... he's cheating.

Get yourself to the doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope he didn't give you genital herpes.

Sounds to me like he might have.

I know a woman who got it from her DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gyn’s office offers this test every time I’ve gone for my annual.

Mine never has. Maybe you are promiscuous?

Mine does. I turn it down since I’ve been married 20 years and don’t have any reason to think my spouse has cheated.

Fwiw I’m a physician and we’re taught to offer it to everyone because you never know when someone might want testing but be hesitant to bring it up on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gyn’s office offers this test every time I’ve gone for my annual.

Mine never has. Maybe you are promiscuous?

Is your gyn the only one on the planet? LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gyn’s office offers this test every time I’ve gone for my annual.

Mine never has. Maybe you are promiscuous?

They know a wrinkled old prune like you isn’t getting any so why bother?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, you had some strange blisters and burning and YOU didn't get an STI test?

This. You need a test OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sharing all the complete, exact information, dates, etc. because I'm almost positive that he comes on here. The order for the test is dated from before I ever had symptoms (I have a reason to chalk symptoms like that up to other things and had no reason to be super worried--mostly because I assumed I had been exposed only to him in over 25 years). It just so happens I found the test order recently--months after the "episode."

He cheated. I'm sorry.

I thought I had an STD about a year ago. I readily told my DH about it, because under very rare circumstances you can get it from things other than sexual contact -- and I knew for sure I hadn't had any sexual contact. DH is asexual and hasn't been interested in years, and I wasn't doing it with anyone else.

My point is that if you think you need an STD test, and know you aren't guilty, it's not the kind of thing you hide. It's the "This is so weird! I think I have this! WTF?" Or, alternatively, given that you are sexually active, it's the "We really need to talk, I'm having these symptoms and need to know what the hell is going on...are you cheating?" conversation. Either way, it's not kept secret. If it's kept secret ... he's cheating.

Get yourself to the doctor.

Uhh, only extraordinarily gullible people fall for this. This is like...never true. Your "asexual" husband was totally having sex with men.

[Anonymous]

Maybe a regular UTI not from sex?