6th grader wants to wear off shoulder and belly button showing tops

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think a belly button is sexual. Nor a shoulder. I let my dd wear these things because she’s comfortable in her body and I never was, I’m glad she has that confidence. If another kid gets turned on by her shoulder that’s not something I can control. People have foot fetishes but we all wear sandals and flip flops in the summer.

Ok keep telling yourself this while the boy moms think your daughter looks like a ho.

Uhhh mom of a middle school boy here. Definitely would not think this. In fact, was reading this trying to figure out why off the shoulder was such a big deal. A midriff shirt I get, but off the shoulders?

You think it’s ok for anyone to have their behind cheeks hanging out of their clothes at school or anywhere besides the beach for the matter. No one wants to sit where people have their bare behinds on the seat. I bet they won’t even sit on a toilet seat. It’s gross and not appropriate to walk around almost naked in public. It’s just not.

I mentioned off the shoulder shirts and maybe a midriff shirt. Same as OP. No one mentioned butt cheeks hanging out so I have no idea why you're saying I think it's ok for that to happen. And even if I did see one of DS' classmates wearing tiny shorts, I wouldn't think she was a ho. Appropriate? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:these should be against dress code.

In our middle school crop tops are not allowed. I haven’t heard them talk about shirts that are off the shoulders. I also have a son. I don’t think I have ever noticed anything egregious so either what they are wearing is nothing major, or I am not paying attention when I am at the school.
I have a younger daughter and I don’t plan on letting her wear them to school, but during summer/on weekends would be ok.

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Anonymous wrote:Always thought it odd in the USA how dress codes for kids are so strict for regular students, but cheerleaders get to wear super short skirts and do flips showing off their undies and such, and the later is acceptable.

They are doing a sport. Similar to dance. Requires a certain uniform.

Why THAT particular very sexualized uniform, PP?

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I would not take advice from the 60 year old WASPs of DCUM, OP.

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Of course we don't want to sexualize 12-13 yos but that doesn't mean the creeper teacher, neighbor, teen boys don't. Gotta protect them they don't know what's out there and we can't pretend like it doesn't exist and be all "my body is so positive look at my ass cheeks, it's just an ass not sexual at all". Give me a break. There is clothes that's appropriate and you can still be confident in yourself without showing so much skin.

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Anonymous wrote:She insists that this is the fashion in her school.

Do middle schoolers that young actually wear these things? The kids I have seen haven't in the bus stops.

Yes they do...my 7th grader boy reports these things regularly. As well as the oversize sweatshirts with an extra short bottom underneath that makes it look like they aren't wearing any.

I tell him all kids that age experiment, and to myself I add that my daughter (currently in 4th grade ) won't be allowed to wear that.

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It’s my job to protect them. If they dressed like that, they’d be a target or victim. Absolutely not.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s my job to protect them. If they dressed like that, they’d be a target or victim. Absolutely not.

We have really strict modesty standards in our home, but absolutely for fricking no will I blame any girl or woman's outfits for them being a target or a victim. We have our standards because of self-respect, not because I think any woman (or man) ever asks to be assaulted. Assailants are the problem, not those attacked. Good grief people.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s my job to protect them. If they dressed like that, they’d be a target or victim. Absolutely not.

I’m curious what you think you are protecting them from. Do you really think a predatory adult is more likely to prey on a 13 year old wearing a skirt from aerie over a girl in sweatpants? Because I don’t think that is how predators work. I do think that girls who look “younger” may be less likely to have a 16-18 year old boy flirt with them. But I also think most 16-18 year olds would be horrified when they learn the girl is 12 or 13. And if they are not horrified, then again, I don’t think the problem is actually what the younger girl was wearing.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes my sixth grader wears such things. Though generally an off the shoulder top would be worn with a tank top under. And no super shirt crop tops but yes her midriff is sometimes exposed an inch or two

I don’t believe in weird policing or over sexualizing of girls bodies.

Exposing midriff not at all sexualizing. Dumb ass.

Are you sure about that? Why do you think they want to show off their stomach?

DP, but seriously? My kid just likes the way something feels or looks. Nothing sexual. I think you have an issue. Kid doesn't like the way longer shirts cover her shorts, doesn't like the way they feel when tucked in. So a cropped top that hits the mid is perfect.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes my sixth grader wears such things. Though generally an off the shoulder top would be worn with a tank top under. And no super shirt crop tops but yes her midriff is sometimes exposed an inch or two

I don’t believe in weird policing or over sexualizing of girls bodies.

Exposing midriff not at all sexualizing. Dumb ass.

Are you sure about that? Why do you think they want to show off their stomach?

DP, but seriously? My kid just likes the way something feels or looks. Nothing sexual. I think you have an issue. Kid doesn't like the way longer shirts cover her shorts, doesn't like the way they feel when tucked in. So a cropped top that hits the mid is perfect.

lol. it is sexual. your kids are sexual beings. they have urges. they want sexual attention. they are immature. they equate attention as love. you are the parent and your job is to protect them and teach them to be discerning.

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Anonymous wrote:Always thought it odd in the USA how dress codes for kids are so strict for regular students, but cheerleaders get to wear super short skirts and do flips showing off their undies and such, and the later is acceptable.

They are doing a sport. Similar to dance. Requires a certain uniform.

So what has nothing to do with the skirt being short. If you complain about short skirts and your kid is a cheer or dance kid then you are a hypocrite.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes my sixth grader wears such things. Though generally an off the shoulder top would be worn with a tank top under. And no super shirt crop tops but yes her midriff is sometimes exposed an inch or two

I don’t believe in weird policing or over sexualizing of girls bodies.

Exposing midriff not at all sexualizing. Dumb ass.

Are you sure about that? Why do you think they want to show off their stomach?

DP, but seriously? My kid just likes the way something feels or looks. Nothing sexual. I think you have an issue. Kid doesn't like the way longer shirts cover her shorts, doesn't like the way they feel when tucked in. So a cropped top that hits the mid is perfect.

lol. it is sexual. your kids are sexual beings. they have urges. they want sexual attention. they are immature. they equate attention as love. you are the parent and your job is to protect them and teach them to be discerning.

No bible thumper no.

Get your mind out of the gutter.

The only ones who think this is sexual are the GOP who voted in red states for 10 year old girls to be able to marry.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes my sixth grader wears such things. Though generally an off the shoulder top would be worn with a tank top under. And no super shirt crop tops but yes her midriff is sometimes exposed an inch or two

I don’t believe in weird policing or over sexualizing of girls bodies.

Exposing midriff not at all sexualizing. Dumb ass.

Are you sure about that? Why do you think they want to show off their stomach?

DP, but seriously? My kid just likes the way something feels or looks. Nothing sexual. I think you have an issue. Kid doesn't like the way longer shirts cover her shorts, doesn't like the way they feel when tucked in. So a cropped top that hits the mid is perfect.

Given the apparent sensory issues and the unfamiliarity with the connotations of clothes, I am going to assume your daughter is on the spectrum.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes my sixth grader wears such things. Though generally an off the shoulder top would be worn with a tank top under. And no super shirt crop tops but yes her midriff is sometimes exposed an inch or two

I don’t believe in weird policing or over sexualizing of girls bodies.

Exposing midriff not at all sexualizing. Dumb ass.

Are you sure about that? Why do you think they want to show off their stomach?

DP, but seriously? My kid just likes the way something feels or looks. Nothing sexual. I think you have an issue. Kid doesn't like the way longer shirts cover her shorts, doesn't like the way they feel when tucked in. So a cropped top that hits the mid is perfect.

lol. it is sexual. your kids are sexual beings. they have urges. they want sexual attention. they are immature. they equate attention as love. you are the parent and your job is to protect them and teach them to be discerning.

No bible thumper no.

Get your mind out of the gutter.

The only ones who think this is sexual are the GOP who voted in red states for 10 year old girls to be able to marry.

Some children will be easier prey than others. I will protect mine. You are using your kid as a fodder for some reason but it is your choice. It does have the potential to be a tragedy but it will not be my personal tragedy.