Husband scores wife an 8. Wife scorns him for months.

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Anonymous wrote:In this thread: Men pretending to be women

I'm relatively new to this site (several months), but I really don't get why guys would be on here. It seems to be mostly wives complaining about their husbands.

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I mean, if Gisele is a 10, I'll take an 8. I have always had plenty of male attention so I know I'm attractive. Maybe the woman's problem is that she is insecure already. I wouldn't expect DH to call me a 10. I would know he's being disingenuous.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't need my husband to offer me an objective, unvarnished assessment on my relative attractiveness.

I already have a mother.

Damn. My mother would never have commented on my appearance like that. I know it's common but that would mess me up. I'm sorry. 100% projection on her part.

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Don't tell my wife but she is a 3 at best. If she fixes her personality such a low bar she would be an 11 because she is still gorgeous at 52. But the personality man aye aye 0

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Anonymous wrote:"For one thing, “an eight” for most of us isn’t just a compliment; it’s sweet and awww-inspiring grade inflation."

What world does Carolyn live in that being an "eight" is grade inflation?

What world do you live in where there are all these 8s, 9s, and 10s?

I mean I think I'm an 8 so if someone said that I was I would just say thank you. But I am not a 20yo boy so I don't rate women on a 1-10 scale.

If you were actually an 8, you would be way too busy to be on the website

Yeah. Only uggos slack off at work lol.

If she was an 8, she wouldn't be working

Maybe she likes to work? Margot Robbie is a ten and she works.

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if you think my wife is beautiful now, you should have seen her ten years ago!

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Anonymous wrote:In this thread: Men pretending to be women

I'm relatively new to this site (several months), but I really don't get why guys would be on here. It seems to be mostly wives complaining about their husbands.

Maybe it's their way to get inside the minds of women. Like that Mel Gibson movie.

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A true case of f around and find out

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. My mom did that to my dad decades ago. They were in their 50s, on vacation, and I think he said “9” …and she was in tears. As a teen I just didn’t get why she would ask or why she was upset with his response (he was a very honest guy so it was quite the compliment!).

Apparently the only women asking their DH's this question has gutter level self esteem and only want to hear 10. It would never occur to me to set this type of trap on my DH.

I don’t understand this response. If my DH asked, I’d tell him he was an 11. The woman says her husband says he was making a joke. My response would make my DH laugh.

My point is that a secure woman doesn’t give a sh*t about some random 1-10 rating. So before she’s even said the words, they’ve both lost the game to her terrible self esteem.

I am not a 10. If my DH said I was, I’d know he was pandering to me. But I’d also never ASK this question bc I know I have SO MUCH VALUE that goes beyond my chest/waist/hips measurements.

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Anonymous wrote:The guy is a moron. If you love someone you say you’re a10, 11 or 12 or off the charts or whatever. Never say anything less.

Not at all. DH and I are scientists and I'd rather he be honest. I'm honest with him. We value accuracy in this household, not that we apply it to such drivel, but if he started saying I was a 12, I'd look at him weird.

Agree. Let’s be rational here. An 8 should be way over an average.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. My mom did that to my dad decades ago. They were in their 50s, on vacation, and I think he said “9” …and she was in tears. As a teen I just didn’t get why she would ask or why she was upset with his response (he was a very honest guy so it was quite the compliment!).

Apparently the only women asking their DH's this question has gutter level self esteem and only want to hear 10. It would never occur to me to set this type of trap on my DH.

I don’t understand this response. If my DH asked, I’d tell him he was an 11. The woman says her husband says he was making a joke. My response would make my DH laugh.

My point is that a secure woman doesn’t give a sh*t about some random 1-10 rating. So before she’s even said the words, they’ve both lost the game to her terrible self esteem.

I am not a 10. If my DH said I was, I’d know he was pandering to me. But I’d also never ASK this question bc I know I have SO MUCH VALUE that goes beyond my chest/waist/hips measurements.

Life is long, few people feel confident in their looks all the time for their whole life.

I used to feel very confident about my looks. In my 20s/30s, I didn't need anyone to buck me up about it -- I know I looked good. I got a lot of compliments from people, men were interested in me.

I became a SAHM for 2 years and then worked from home for two years after that. Now I'm heading back to an office job at 44. I feel so insecure! I am still figuring out how to dress, how much makeup to wear. It's like being a teen again. I need support to rebuild my confidence. If I asked my DH to tell me how I looked (I personally would never ask for a rating), I absolutely hope he'd just tell be how great I looked, no qualifications. It's what I need to hear for now.

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People still read her column?! I am astonished. Her writing rates a 3.

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Anonymous wrote:People still read her column?! I am astonished. Her writing rates a 3.

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Anonymous wrote:PS - the husband absolutely wrote that letter to Hax, pretending to be the wife.

LOL. No. Men don't think, let along behave that way. It would never occur to us to do something like that.

I have some news for you about your brothers . . .

Yes, some us are femme gay who engage with Carolyn Hax.

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Anonymous wrote:In this thread: Men pretending to be women

I'm relatively new to this site (several months), but I really don't get why guys would be on here. It seems to be mostly wives complaining about their husbands.

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