S/O "doggy bags" on early dates

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Threads like this make me so glad I’m married and can just be myself. Today I ate a leftover chicken nugget off my kids plate - was that rude? Probably, but it was abandoned and no one cared.

One assumes that you’re not trying to get in your kid’s pants.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

No they don't.

I have a colleague who met her husband on Tinder and went on a dinner date with him because she just wanted a free meal (grad student at the time). She ended up liking him.

Totally common. Just like pretty young women who go to bars with the intention of not paying for a single drink.

Nobody is forcing these guys to buy drinks or dinner for pretty women.

But now you’re admitting that it does happen.

Tell the rest of the loons in this thread who insist “women don’t have time to go on dates just for a free meal!”

They say we are lying, but it’s absolutely the truth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's rude, but I did most of my dating in my 20s when it was understood we were all trying to stretch a dollar. I still remember a date with one guy who asked for his to be boxed up and asked if he could have mine too. I thought it was a little presumptuous but I didn't really have a "full" lunch/meal left so I gave it to him. He gave the bag to a homeless guy on our walk back to the subway and I was really impressed.

Was the chemistry just missing? I would have been strongly inclined to marry that person, myself.

Although I should add that the very jaded part of me suspects it could have been a 'move' intended to get him laid.

He just didn't want you to get fat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Threads like this make me so glad I’m married and can just be myself. Today I ate a leftover chicken nugget off my kids plate - was that rude? Probably, but it was abandoned and no one cared.

One assumes that you’re not trying to get in your kid’s pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is very rude to order an entire entree and not/hardly eat it with the intention of taking it home if you are not offering to pay. You are using that person for a free meal and it is rude and inconsiderate.

Taking home the remaining portion after eating an entire meal (too much food, large portions) is fine in my opinion.

But it's the same amount of food whether you eat a little or a lot of it at dinner.

[Anonymous]

This is fine to do, but you have to invite your date to join you for leftovers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

No they don't.

I have a colleague who met her husband on Tinder and went on a dinner date with him because she just wanted a free meal (grad student at the time). She ended up liking him.

Totally common. Just like pretty young women who go to bars with the intention of not paying for a single drink.

Nobody is forcing these guys to buy drinks or dinner for pretty women.

But now you’re admitting that it does happen.

Tell the rest of the loons in this thread who insist “women don’t have time to go on dates just for a free meal!”

They say we are lying, but it’s absolutely the truth.

+1

I was the poster PP was responding to. The presumption that there isn’t a big population of women who have their hand out for a freebie is naive. It’s like assuming there aren’t a lot of pickpockets in a tourist trap. Many people try to get something extra through sleight of hand/sneakiness or trading on their beauty or whatever. I’m not interested in saying whether any of these folks have moral faults or it’s totally acceptable because everyone knows what they are getting or whatever.

It’s just ludicrous to suggest that it doesn’t happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

No they don't.

DP here: yes, there are some women who do this on OLD. It's more common in NYC and LA, but I imagine there are probably some here in DC too.

No matter how much you want to deny it - and it may certainly not happen in your friend group - there are a non-zero number of women on OLD in major cities who dinner-date a few days per week. And men are more likely to encounter these women because of these women have a high frequency of meeting men for dinner.

For men in NYC, women on OLD will frequently ask that the man send the woman an Uber or Lyft to pick them up and bring them home. I've literally read the messages myself; it's absurd.

No this is just some BS that incels make up.

Woman here. It definitely happens. Women post about it on social media allllll the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

I think this is urban myth. No one wants to sit through a crappy date just for "free meals."

[Anonymous]

I would find it awkward at best if I were on a date and someone had leftover food and asked for a doggy bag. I doubt I'd go out with them again. It's not appropriate given the context -- if you were in a nice restaurant with clients and you had a bit of food left, would you ask for a doggy bag? No. The only people here who would say that they would do so have never been in a nice restaurant with clients. It's a similar thing. If you are with your sibling, fine. Spouse, fine. Even bff, fine. But an early date? No. Business clients? No.

There are rules, people. And if you tell me "I don't care about things like that," I'll know your social skills are far below par. So, I guess you don't really have to care about that because you would be on dates with people at your level -- like 6 and below? -- who aren't in any position to be annoyed or not about doggy bags.

[Anonymous]

My hot take: normal people come on dates reasonably hungry, order according to their appetite and eat it all. Full stop. It may be a salad if you aren’t hungry but no, a normal, emotionally and mentally healthy person doesn’t order what he or she doesn’t eat.
I don’t care what your issue is but if you aren’t ordering one item and finishing it (well maybe leaving a few bites) you are not the one for me.
No doggie bags and no huge leftovers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

No they don't.

I have a colleague who met her husband on Tinder and went on a dinner date with him because she just wanted a free meal (grad student at the time). She ended up liking him.

Totally common. Just like pretty young women who go to bars with the intention of not paying for a single drink.

Nobody is forcing these guys to buy drinks or dinner for pretty women.

But now you’re admitting that it does happen.

Tell the rest of the loons in this thread who insist “women don’t have time to go on dates just for a free meal!”

They say we are lying, but it’s absolutely the truth.

+1

I was the poster PP was responding to. The presumption that there isn’t a big population of women who have their hand out for a freebie is naive. It’s like assuming there aren’t a lot of pickpockets in a tourist trap. Many people try to get something extra through sleight of hand/sneakiness or trading on their beauty or whatever. I’m not interested in saying whether any of these folks have moral faults or it’s totally acceptable because everyone knows what they are getting or whatever.

It’s just ludicrous to suggest that it doesn’t happen.

People who complain about women using men for dinner and drinks on dates assume that most women are extremely hot and not actually interested in a relationship. The 99% of women who cannot make a living based on getting men to get them freebies don't exist to these people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My hot take: normal people come on dates reasonably hungry, order according to their appetite and eat it all. Full stop. It may be a salad if you aren’t hungry but no, a normal, emotionally and mentally healthy person doesn’t order what he or she doesn’t eat.
I don’t care what your issue is but if you aren’t ordering one item and finishing it (well maybe leaving a few bites) you are not the one for me.
No doggie bags and no huge leftovers.

Wow I bet you're a fun date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't get a doggy bag if you are on a date, at a work dinner, or generally not with a close friend or family.

Once I asked for a doggy bag at a work dinner. I obliterated my food and there were only bones left which the waiter pointed out. I told him I have an actual dog which my coworkers well knew but it was funny

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

No they don't.

I have a colleague who met her husband on Tinder and went on a dinner date with him because she just wanted a free meal (grad student at the time). She ended up liking him.

Totally common. Just like pretty young women who go to bars with the intention of not paying for a single drink.

Nobody is forcing these guys to buy drinks or dinner for pretty women.

But now you’re admitting that it does happen.

Tell the rest of the loons in this thread who insist “women don’t have time to go on dates just for a free meal!”

They say we are lying, but it’s absolutely the truth.

It does happen, but only because men go along with it. They don’t have to. They buy the pretty woman’s dinner because they know that if they don’t, there are 25 other guys lining up to take her out and treat her.

Less attractive women don’t really have those expectations or opportunities, but men want to date the hottest woman who’ll have them.