Why are so many younger men trying to date women 30s and up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there have always been men who are drawn to older women, but they felt it was taboo or embarrassing. Now it’s more out in the open and more accepted, which makes it more noticeable and also more common.

I’ve dated some younger men in the past several years (as much as 15 years younger) and none of them has gone on to date younger. They just seem to prefer older women.

100%. Now it's a bit of a badge of honor. "Dude, you got a MILF?" Reminds me of the rapper Yung Gravy, who has openly spoken about how he loves to date older women (he dated Addison Rae's mom). He's tall (6'6), blonde, blue eyed, handsome, and famous mainly with Gen Z, but he deliberately goes after older women. Harry Styles is another one who has almost exclusively dated older women despite being able to land whatever young woman he wanted. I think for a certain type of young guy it's also seen as more of a challenge? Because older women are a bit more demanding and know what they want, so if you're 25 and can keep a 35 year old interested, you must be doing something right...

[Anonymous]

After I got divorced at 42 I almost always dated older women usually 45-55. They were empty nesters, generally financially stable and not interested in marriage. I think they enjoyed having a younger companion for a bunch of reasons. Now at 60 that’s still the ideal range for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Easy, low stakes sex.

Women in their mid to late 30s - especially a busy divorced mom - just want to have a nice date + have sex in their rare spare time. That woman has been sexually active for 15-20 years of her life and thus has seen & done it all.

Women in their mid to late 30s, even if they want to have a child, don’t want to get impregnated by a man in his 20s. So she’s keen to see the relationship as short term in nature and not putting any serious significance upon the relationship. That’s great for a guy in his 20s who wants to have fun and still get laid.

So yes, they are respectful gentlemen because their mama’s trained them well. But they are clued-in enough know that a woman in her late 30s likely wants something that is low stakes and casual and these men are happy to oblige. Their peer women expect serious relationships after sex and are very marriage and “next step” focused.

Yes, I think this is all true. None of my divorced mom friends are interested in getting remarried or merging households, they don’t want more kids, and they just generally don’t have time or energy for the exhausting task of going on a ton of dates trying to meet a good candidate for a serious relationship. But that doesn’t mean they don’t have physical needs! And as previously mentioned, men in their 20s are full of energy and ready to meet those needs pretty much any time. Seems like a win-win

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Low hanging fruit.

+1. Especially if the woman is never married and has no children.

And older women generally have good jobs (AKA more money), a home of their own, food in the house, are more sexually confident etc etc etc compared to early 20s women. They are basically male sugar babies, providing the BF experience.

Definitely not the same as a sugar baby/sugar daddy. The number of women in their 30s who are willing to bankroll 20 something men is pretty low. That dynamic pretty much flows in one direction only...

You are nuts. Women flush with cash are very much willing to bankroll the hot men they are sleeping with, it just doesn’t look like “funding a lifestyle”. But they will buy gifts, pay for concerts and trips, and permit many other forms of mooching and top it off with the cherry of easy sex at the end of the night. How could a 22 year old man possibly afford to take a 35 year old woman on a date at the level she is accustom to?

Him not taking her on a fancy date ≠ her bankrolling him. Very few women are going to give allowances to men no what his age, and most women in America still expect men to pay for dates and other things. But there are broke/cheap men in every age group.

I'm a woman and when in exclusive relationship I do alternate paying for dates, even if a man is making same or more than myself and older than me. This is just what a decent person would do. Don't see it as "bankrolling". If approach is alternating/splitting paying, I would rather be with a younger man

[Anonymous]

I have a few divorced friends in their late 30s who have FWB relationships with younger men. They don’t have the time or motivation to seek out a LTR but they like to have fun and sex. These are definitely no strings attached relationships and if both parties are getting what they want they both win. Being under a nice hard body sounds pretty attractive!

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No strings attached. It’s that simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a phenomenon I've noticed myself as I'm in my mid-late 30s and my friends have as well. I recently got back into dating after a LTR ended and my inbox is flooded with requests from men in their early 20s especially (sometimes mid-late 20s as well). They are overwhelmingly the ones who pursue me and theyre very aggressive. I thought maybe they were just into sex but I agreed to go on dates with two separate ones and both times they took me out to nice restaurants, were very gentlemanly, paid the bill, etc, and seemed very relationship oriented.

I guess I'm wondering... what's going on? Is it just me and my friend group? Have men in their 20s always wanted older women or is this a new phenomenon? Every time I get a message request on the dating app I think to myself "I bet he's 22" and voila! He is. Why is this happening?

They’ve all heard about dirty 30.
Enjoy it while it lasts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of guys are into older women, and always have been. The MILF category, which has become shorthand for "women above 30", fluctuates in popularity from #2 in the world to $6. Plenty of guys are attracted to women in their 30s, 40s, and even 50s. There's a reason "The Graduate" was a huge hit back in the 60s.

Popularity in what?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of guys are into older women, and always have been. The MILF category, which has become shorthand for "women above 30", fluctuates in popularity from #2 in the world to $6. Plenty of guys are attracted to women in their 30s, 40s, and even 50s. There's a reason "The Graduate" was a huge hit back in the 60s.

Popularity in what?

I think he is talking about pornography. The “MILF” category is popular in pornography. When I catch DH’s porn it is always MILFs or “mature.”

[Anonymous]

Went on OLD at 40. Got lots of requests from the young men so raised my minimum from 30 to 32... 29 year olds were asking if I'd make an exception! I hooked up with one 32 year old and asked how high he went. He said he didn't remember exactly, but raised it because "what if there's someone amazing?" He was just looking for a casual relationship. For a casual relationship, men don't care as long as the woman looks good. And a good looking 40 year old is much better than an average 20-something who is "too needy" (one of his complaints about someone he'd matched with, we were comparing experiences as OLD first-timers).

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Women in their mid 30s to early 40s love to f#ck. It’s that simple.

[Anonymous]

Think it's pretty simple. Women in their thirties, forties, even fifties, are pretty good looking these days.

And they tend to be fitter and healthier than the twenty-somethings.

Also - way more interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women in their mid 30s to early 40s love to f#ck. It’s that simple.

That’s because they are on borrowed time. Once peri-menopause starts it could go either way libido wise

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of guys are into older women, and always have been. The MILF category, which has become shorthand for "women above 30", fluctuates in popularity from #2 in the world to $6. Plenty of guys are attracted to women in their 30s, 40s, and even 50s. There's a reason "The Graduate" was a huge hit back in the 60s.

Popularity in what?

Adult entertainment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think it's pretty simple. Women in their thirties, forties, even fifties, are pretty good looking these days.

And they tend to be fitter and healthier than the twenty-somethings.

Also - way more interesting.

That's true and the conversation is better. I can remember being in my 20s and feeling sick of the conversation/focus being on who was hooking up with who, what bar we were going to, how drunk Larla got at the club last night, etc. There can be something really lovely and comforting and just RELAXED about an older, more settled energy, and oftentimes they have cool stories/have lived life. If something is physically attractive AND they have that more mature quality to them it's truly a win win