Why are so many younger men trying to date women 30s and up?

[Anonymous]

This is a phenomenon I've noticed myself as I'm in my mid-late 30s and my friends have as well. I recently got back into dating after a LTR ended and my inbox is flooded with requests from men in their early 20s especially (sometimes mid-late 20s as well). They are overwhelmingly the ones who pursue me and theyre very aggressive. I thought maybe they were just into sex but I agreed to go on dates with two separate ones and both times they took me out to nice restaurants, were very gentlemanly, paid the bill, etc, and seemed very relationship oriented.

I guess I'm wondering... what's going on? Is it just me and my friend group? Have men in their 20s always wanted older women or is this a new phenomenon? Every time I get a message request on the dating app I think to myself "I bet he's 22" and voila! He is. Why is this happening?

[Anonymous]

I hate to say it, but did they go to college?

If yes and you are employed, then student loan debt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate to say it, but did they go to college?

If yes and you are employed, then student loan debt.

One of them did and one of them didn't. But I dont have a high paying job and one of them makes more money than I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate to say it, but did they go to college?

If yes and you are employed, then student loan debt.

One of them did and one of them didn't. But I dont have a high paying job and one of them makes more money than I do.

I still think it has to do with finances. You are stable financially, right?

Also, just because they claim to make more money than you do, that in no way means they are financially stable.

It’s not necessarily a problem- women do this all the time when dating older men- but it’s some social media thing they all talk about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate to say it, but did they go to college?

If yes and you are employed, then student loan debt.

One of them did and one of them didn't. But I dont have a high paying job and one of them makes more money than I do.

I still think it has to do with finances. You are stable financially, right?

Also, just because they claim to make more money than you do, that in no way means they are financially stable.

It’s not necessarily a problem- women do this all the time when dating older men- but it’s some social media thing they all talk about.

I wouldn't say I'm super financially stable, I dont have any savings for example. The guy who makes more than me has a much better job and makes a lot more. Also both of them paid for everything

[Anonymous]

Low hanging fruit.

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys are into older women, and always have been. The MILF category, which has become shorthand for "women above 30", fluctuates in popularity from #2 in the world to $6. Plenty of guys are attracted to women in their 30s, 40s, and even 50s. There's a reason "The Graduate" was a huge hit back in the 60s.

[Anonymous]

When I married my husband, at 23, he claimed to be most attracted to women in their 40s. He had no reason to tell me this if it wasn’t true. He just came from a culture in which this is very taboo so he didn’t pursue it.

[Anonymous]

I got hit on several guys in late twenties and early thirties. One who walked the same direction and tried to pick me up late night was 21. I told him that I could be his mother, but he said:" but you are not". True.
There are several things happening I think. Girls their age want a model and/or a rich guy.
Women in late 30s and 40s look better than previous generations. I asked several of them how old they think I was and most were off ten year or even more.
Most were complete gentelmen. Three walked me to my car which was two miles away and paid for the empanadas in Adams Morgan as we were all starving.
Not going out with any of them, but definitely dancing and talking if they come up to me in a bar.

[Anonymous]

Women in their late twenties want to get married. If a late 20s man is not ready for that, then he'd have to date much younger or much older. Much younger is very risky since you might end up getting a woman who is looking to have a child and get child support for 18 years.

So a safer bet would be to date women in their 40s who have already had their children. If an unintentional pregnancy were to happen with a 40+ year old who can hold her own financially and who has other things going for her, and she decided to keep it, at least you are not stuck paying for everything.

[Anonymous]

Why not ask

Aaron Taylor Johnson
Harry Styles
Jason Momoa
Chris Hemsworth
Hugh Jackman
Nick Jonas
Ryan Gosling
Nick Offerman
Blake Shelton
Patrick Dempsey
Tom Kaulitz
Ashton Kutcher
Kurt Russel
Adam Driver
Dwayne Wade

Need I go on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Low hanging fruit.

+1. Especially if the woman is never married and has no children.

And older women generally have good jobs (AKA more money), a home of their own, food in the house, are more sexually confident etc etc etc compared to early 20s women. They are basically male sugar babies, providing the BF experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low hanging fruit.

+1. Especially if the woman is never married and has no children.

And older women generally have good jobs (AKA more money), a home of their own, food in the house, are more sexually confident etc etc etc compared to early 20s women. They are basically male sugar babies, providing the BF experience.

Definitely not the same as a sugar baby/sugar daddy. The number of women in their 30s who are willing to bankroll 20 something men is pretty low. That dynamic pretty much flows in one direction only...

[Anonymous]

Money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Money

How many times do men have to tell you on here that they dont care about money/dont give an F about a woman's job? In fact, a woman making lots of money can even work against her sometimes... men want the kindergarten teacher, not the CEO.