Vent: My husband told me he wants a divorce!

[Anonymous]

We've been married for three years and have one child together. He told me he loves me more than anything, but the reason he wants to divorce is because he's been spending a lot of time with his brother (who just recently finalized his divorce) and sees how happy he is enjoying the single life that it made my husband miss the single life! I can't help but think there's more to it than that! I'm so angry and blind sided by this news! He's already started moving his things out and told me he's going to stay with his brother until he finds a place. I swear I really didn't see this coming at all...

[Anonymous]

There's something inauthentic about this post.

[Anonymous]

Yea, there's more to it than that. He is very immature. Shoulda thought about all the fun he is missing before he had a kid. Does the brother have a kid?

Wipe him out financially. Then let him see how fun life is.

I'm so sorry. I'm angry for you.

[Anonymous]

This is a vent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's something inauthentic about this post.

IDK... my ex BIL was kind of like this. Had a kid, but didn't want a real job. Floated around and let his wife (my sister) with a 1 yr old deal with a store he started (not her idea) but didn't want to deal with anymore. I was even glad when they divorced. He's still floating around, and has ex #2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea, there's more to it than that. He is very immature. Shoulda thought about all the fun he is missing before he had a kid. Does the brother have a kid?

Wipe him out financially. Then let him see how fun life is.

I'm so sorry. I'm angry for you.

His brother has two kids.

[Anonymous]

Look to see if your husband is on Ashley Madison! It's posted at Fairfax Underground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a vent?

Yes and no. I just wanted to get it off my chest. I haven't told my family and friends about it yet, but I needed to get my frustrations out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, there's more to it than that. He is very immature. Shoulda thought about all the fun he is missing before he had a kid. Does the brother have a kid?

Wipe him out financially. Then let him see how fun life is.

I'm so sorry. I'm angry for you.

His brother has two kids.

Does the brother have joint custody, pay support? Does your DH make a lot of money? Do you think you'd get spousal/child support?

Most people who don't make a huge amount of money seem to struggle financially when they are divorced, trying to keep two households running.

I'm so sorry OP. I hope you clean him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, there's more to it than that. He is very immature. Shoulda thought about all the fun he is missing before he had a kid. Does the brother have a kid?

Wipe him out financially. Then let him see how fun life is.

I'm so sorry. I'm angry for you.

His brother has two kids.

Does the brother have joint custody, pay support? Does your DH make a lot of money? Do you think you'd get spousal/child support?

Most people who don't make a huge amount of money seem to struggle financially when they are divorced, trying to keep two households running.

I'm so sorry OP. I hope you clean him out.

His brother pays child support. DH makes decent money, I hope I'll be able to get child support. We'll both end up struggling when we divorce to be honest.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the wipe him out comments. She'll get a set amount for child support based on his income. If she works, she won't get any spousal support. What am I missing- how does she have any legal ground to 'clean him out'? Not saying he doesn't deserve it, but how does that work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've been married for three years and have one child together. He told me he loves me more than anything, but the reason he wants to divorce is because he's been spending a lot of time with his brother (who just recently finalized his divorce) and sees how happy he is enjoying the single life that it made my husband miss the single life! I can't help but think there's more to it than that! I'm so angry and blind sided by this news! He's already started moving his things out and told me he's going to stay with his brother until he finds a place. I swear I really didn't see this coming at all...

I think the missing part is he has been spending time with his newly single brother and he has either met someone else or wants to continue hooking up casually but do it guilt free.

[Anonymous]

This is a terrible position to be in, I'm sorry OP. Before you start telling people about it, figure out how you feel and how you want to proceed. I imagine your friends and family will have lots of opinions on this so really ground yourself first.

[Anonymous]

Good for your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a terrible position to be in, I'm sorry OP. Before you start telling people about it, figure out how you feel and how you want to proceed. I imagine your friends and family will have lots of opinions on this so really ground yourself first.

That's why I haven't told them yet because I'm not ready to hear everyone's opinions!