Vent: My husband told me he wants a divorce!

[Anonymous]

OP - I am so sorry you are going through this. The first years after having kid are tough, but your husband seems very immature in the way he's handling his relationship with you. Regardless of how this ends, I'm sure you'll be able to deal with it, and come out a stronger woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, how engaged does your soon to be ex want to be with your child? Assuming he is a decent father and wants to be involved, don't allow your hurt and anger to take over and try to full custody. Your child needs his/her father and you'll need the alone time...time for YOU to have fun, pursue new interests and relationships.

He wants to be involved in our child's life and wants to have some weekends with her.

Wants to have "some weekends" with her? How generous of him...I mean weekends are probably what he uses for bar crawls and adult kickball games. Fuck him.

That is how custody works. He won't get every weekend with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how engaged does your soon to be ex want to be with your child? Assuming he is a decent father and wants to be involved, don't allow your hurt and anger to take over and try to full custody. Your child needs his/her father and you'll need the alone time...time for YOU to have fun, pursue new interests and relationships.

He wants to be involved in our child's life and wants to have some weekends with her.

Wants to have "some weekends" with her? How generous of him...I mean weekends are probably what he uses for bar crawls and adult kickball games. Fuck him.

That is how custody works. He won't get every weekend with her.

Well, maybe. But many custody arrangements include one weeknight for the non-custodial parent as well. Or there is always joint custody, which is what I would aim for if my DH ever decided to leave.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I would go to F&F first