Vent: My husband told me he wants a divorce!
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Anonymous
| OP, something similar happened to a friend of mine. They married young and had a child young so her DH gelt like he missed out on something. He left her and moved in with a single friend. After a few months he tealized it wasnt all that fun and girls were not exactly lining up. Oh and no one did his laundry or cooked his meals... So he came back. She took him back for the sake of the child. Also once he saw grass was not greener on the other side he became more invested in the marriage and they are still happy together. |
Anonymous
| Let him go, OP. He is telling you that he still loves you because he wants to maintain the option of coming back later once he's had his fun single time. He does not love you. He loves himself more than you or your child. That is clear. Do not try to convince him to stay or to come back...if you do, and he does, you will no longer have a husband and partner but another child to take care of. While this is so hurtful and sad to you know, thank your lucky stars that he dropped this bomb now and you can move on. I'm so sorry for your child. |
Anonymous
| Oh, what a situation to be in. I'm so sorry OP. Let him go, Don't fight, don't argue, don't try. Let him go. Trust me on this. He is immature. And he's gonna drive you crazy if he stays. So let him go, let him do what he wants, and when he comes back and he will, you decide if he's worth taking back, or you realized that the single life is better for you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Please do not let the pain dictate how you act and simply let go, I wish I had. |
Anonymous
| And I'm sure your BIL has encouraged this because misery loves company (and by misery, I mean the guilt the BIL probably feels when he's not partying and having fun). So BIL is probably giddy at the idea of having a partner in crime because its makes his decision to shirk his responsibilities easier. I have to wonder how shitty their parents were to raise two such selfish, self-indulgent and narcissistic adult men. Anyway, while I'm positve the bro encouraged this, do not shift blame away from your husband. He is making this decision, not his brother. |
Anonymous
| OP, I am sorry you are in this situation. How old is your DH? This is unbelievable. |
Anonymous
| OP - stay strong - take good care of yourself , don't fight him on his decision to leave or try to argue against it, let him go and if he really loves you (And if you want him back) he will come back. Better to have his true colors come out now than later when you are older o rhave a second child and things get more complicated over time..... be your own best self now, keep the family residence, make him move out (sounds like he is) and happiness is the best revenge if you can find it. |
Anonymous
| OP, how engaged does your soon to be ex want to be with your child? Assuming he is a decent father and wants to be involved, don't allow your hurt and anger to take over and try to full custody. Your child needs his/her father and you'll need the alone time...time for YOU to have fun, pursue new interests and relationships. |
Anonymous
I'm sure he encouraged this too. |
Anonymous
He's 32. |
Anonymous
He wants to be involved in our child's life and wants to have some weekends with her. |
Anonymous
Wants to have "some weekends" with her? How generous of him...I mean weekends are probably what he uses for bar crawls and adult kickball games. Fuck him. |
Anonymous
+- I think it's all the !!!!!!!!!! |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
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Did you have a kid soon after getting married? Small kids are tough. I'm sorry OP. He will probably be begging to come back, if what he says is true.
I can't imagine that he loves you and is doing this to you though. |
Anonymous
| Maybe he is gay |