How to stop other travellers eat your food supplies?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be happy to donate a few extra boxes of pancake mix so you can feed the other kids. You can make the pancakes the night before and reheat them in the microwave or oven. Or, bring a waffle maker and reheat the waffles in the oven/toaster.

LOL it's so true. We should start a gofundme so OP can scrape together the $10 required for her to be a good guest. I'm feeling generous so I'll pitch in 10 cents which should put a nice dent in things

I don't like the idea of standing at the stove making breakfast for that long, while the other parents don't offer to help, but that is just me. It's my vacation.

OP, it seems the other parents are angling to make you the bad guy for not wanting to "serve them", this is a terrible dynamic that you have set up by not speaking up.

Don't vacation with people who can't take care of their own kids.

Most of us are thinking it doesn’t take a whole lot of effort to cook a few extra slices of bacon when you’re already cooking it. Nor does it take any effort on the OPs part for the teenagers to help themselves to the cereal box. She claims it’s not about money, it’s about serving others during her vacation. But most of us can see through that lame argument. What, 10 extra seconds to put 5 more slices of bacon on the cooking sheet? And unless she is serving it like it’s a five course meal, it is no effort. The kids come grab a slice off the plate with all the bacon. Easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be happy to donate a few extra boxes of pancake mix so you can feed the other kids. You can make the pancakes the night before and reheat them in the microwave or oven. Or, bring a waffle maker and reheat the waffles in the oven/toaster.

LOL it's so true. We should start a gofundme so OP can scrape together the $10 required for her to be a good guest. I'm feeling generous so I'll pitch in 10 cents which should put a nice dent in things

I don't like the idea of standing at the stove making breakfast for that long, while the other parents don't offer to help, but that is just me. It's my vacation.

OP, it seems the other parents are angling to make you the bad guy for not wanting to "serve them", this is a terrible dynamic that you have set up by not speaking up.

Don't vacation with people who can't take care of their own kids.

Most of us are thinking it doesn’t take a whole lot of effort to cook a few extra slices of bacon when you’re already cooking it. Nor does it take any effort on the OPs part for the teenagers to help themselves to the cereal box. She claims it’s not about money, it’s about serving others during her vacation. But most of us can see through that lame argument. What, 10 extra seconds to put 5 more slices of bacon on the cooking sheet? And unless she is serving it like it’s a five course meal, it is no effort. The kids come grab a slice off the plate with all the bacon. Easy.

I think on the OP is annoyed about having to cook an extra batch of bacon for the kids. I bet the entire time she’s opening up a second package and frying up the bacon she’s getting resentful that she can’t sit down to eat her food... For people used to cooking for 3, doing twice or three times as much work feels like a lot.

Meanwhile, the other parents are rolling their eyes at OP’s gross smelling heart attack and hoping they don’t have to deal with it every day. The kids asking for a serving is a welcome relief so everyone can get it out of their system that day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I don't follow the racist thing and it's the second time now this thread. Is someone trying to say it's racist to make generalizations about WASPS? Are they being facetious?

Just replace JEW or BLACK where they say WASP. Racist? Of course it is.

I don’t think any Jews would be offended if someone complained about how messy latkes are. Same with fried okra or other soul food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whoever said this thread had potential: good one! Shall we reference this as the traveller bacon thread from now on. OP is traveller bacon lady.

Yep.

The Traveler Bacon thread.

Also known as the “No food for you!!!” thread (shouted in the Seinfeld soup nazi character’s voice).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be happy to donate a few extra boxes of pancake mix so you can feed the other kids. You can make the pancakes the night before and reheat them in the microwave or oven. Or, bring a waffle maker and reheat the waffles in the oven/toaster.

LOL it's so true. We should start a gofundme so OP can scrape together the $10 required for her to be a good guest. I'm feeling generous so I'll pitch in 10 cents which should put a nice dent in things

I don't like the idea of standing at the stove making breakfast for that long, while the other parents don't offer to help, but that is just me. It's my vacation.

OP, it seems the other parents are angling to make you the bad guy for not wanting to "serve them", this is a terrible dynamic that you have set up by not speaking up.

Don't vacation with people who can't take care of their own kids.

Most of us are thinking it doesn’t take a whole lot of effort to cook a few extra slices of bacon when you’re already cooking it. Nor does it take any effort on the OPs part for the teenagers to help themselves to the cereal box. She claims it’s not about money, it’s about serving others during her vacation. But most of us can see through that lame argument. What, 10 extra seconds to put 5 more slices of bacon on the cooking sheet? And unless she is serving it like it’s a five course meal, it is no effort. The kids come grab a slice off the plate with all the bacon. Easy.

I think on the OP is annoyed about having to cook an extra batch of bacon for the kids. I bet the entire time she’s opening up a second package and frying up the bacon she’s getting resentful that she can’t sit down to eat her food... For people used to cooking for 3, doing twice or three times as much work feels like a lot.

Meanwhile, the other parents are rolling their eyes at OP’s gross smelling heart attack and hoping they don’t have to deal with it every day. The kids asking for a serving is a welcome relief so everyone can get it out of their system that day.

Regardless of whether resentment is building, there is where you would hope that an adult would have the life skills not to work themselves into a tizzy over having a child ask them for food, or having to cook a bit extra. This is where therapy, medication, or just acceptance of basic social graces helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I don't follow the racist thing and it's the second time now this thread. Is someone trying to say it's racist to make generalizations about WASPS? Are they being facetious?

Just replace JEW or BLACK where they say WASP. Racist? Of course it is.

I don’t think any Jews would be offended if someone complained about how messy latkes are. Same with fried okra or other soul food.

Man, I could really go for some latkes right now!

Doesn’t latkes with bacon sound magical? I know it’s not a traditional Jewish pairing, but now I’m craving it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I don't follow the racist thing and it's the second time now this thread. Is someone trying to say it's racist to make generalizations about WASPS? Are they being facetious?

Just replace JEW or BLACK where they say WASP. Racist? Of course it is.

I don’t think any Jews would be offended if someone complained about how messy latkes are. Same with fried okra or other soul food.

I dont think anyone was saying WASP food was messy, doubt anyone would care. More like they were saying WASPs are stingy and awful. I'm sure a Jewish person or person of any ethnic heritage would be offended to be called that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I don't follow the racist thing and it's the second time now this thread. Is someone trying to say it's racist to make generalizations about WASPS? Are they being facetious?

Just replace JEW or BLACK where they say WASP. Racist? Of course it is.

I don’t think any Jews would be offended if someone complained about how messy latkes are. Same with fried okra or other soul food.

Man, I could really go for some latkes right now!

Doesn’t latkes with bacon sound magical? I know it’s not a traditional Jewish pairing, but now I’m craving it.

It totally does! Latkes, bacon, some apples, sour cream, and maybe a bit of raspberry jam syrup in a decorative plate swirl! Now we are cooking, and plating! And fusioning!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be happy to donate a few extra boxes of pancake mix so you can feed the other kids. You can make the pancakes the night before and reheat them in the microwave or oven. Or, bring a waffle maker and reheat the waffles in the oven/toaster.

LOL it's so true. We should start a gofundme so OP can scrape together the $10 required for her to be a good guest. I'm feeling generous so I'll pitch in 10 cents which should put a nice dent in things

I don't like the idea of standing at the stove making breakfast for that long, while the other parents don't offer to help, but that is just me. It's my vacation.

OP, it seems the other parents are angling to make you the bad guy for not wanting to "serve them", this is a terrible dynamic that you have set up by not speaking up.

Don't vacation with people who can't take care of their own kids.

Most of us are thinking it doesn’t take a whole lot of effort to cook a few extra slices of bacon when you’re already cooking it. Nor does it take any effort on the OPs part for the teenagers to help themselves to the cereal box. She claims it’s not about money, it’s about serving others during her vacation. But most of us can see through that lame argument. What, 10 extra seconds to put 5 more slices of bacon on the cooking sheet? And unless she is serving it like it’s a five course meal, it is no effort. The kids come grab a slice off the plate with all the bacon. Easy.

Perfectly stated!

[Anonymous]

This reminds me of traveling with my parents. My parents are up at 5am and my kids are thrilled to have someone up early to eat with. So my kids wake earlier and earlier. And my parents are annoyed Dh and I sleep until 8. It’s so annoying having everyone up at the crack of dawn and then we’re tired and everyone is mad at us. My parents whine about cooking for my kids. When we travel with just our kids everyone sleeps until 8.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I don't follow the racist thing and it's the second time now this thread. Is someone trying to say it's racist to make generalizations about WASPS? Are they being facetious?

Just replace JEW or BLACK where they say WASP. Racist? Of course it is.

I don’t think any Jews would be offended if someone complained about how messy latkes are. Same with fried okra or other soul food.

I dont think anyone was saying WASP food was messy, doubt anyone would care. More like they were saying WASPs are stingy and awful. I'm sure a Jewish person or person of any ethnic heritage would be offended to be called that.

My ancestors (dad's side) are scots Presbyterians who have been kicking around in America since before the revolutionary war.

I'll take one for the team: calling WASPs stingy /= to calling Jews stingy

What measurable harm have WASPs suffered from a cultural stereotype that they are stingy? So little as to not be measurable-people may make jokes, maybe individual non-WASPs don't care for WASPs.
What measurable harm have Jews suffered from a cultural stereotype that they are stingy? Jews have been persecuted throughout time and place, pushed into professions involving money, and then despised, expelled, murdered because of those stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I don't follow the racist thing and it's the second time now this thread. Is someone trying to say it's racist to make generalizations about WASPS? Are they being facetious?

Just replace JEW or BLACK where they say WASP. Racist? Of course it is.

I don’t think any Jews would be offended if someone complained about how messy latkes are. Same with fried okra or other soul food.

I dont think anyone was saying WASP food was messy, doubt anyone would care. More like they were saying WASPs are stingy and awful. I'm sure a Jewish person or person of any ethnic heritage would be offended to be called that.

My ancestors (dad's side) are scots Presbyterians who have been kicking around in America since before the revolutionary war.

I'll take one for the team: calling WASPs stingy /= to calling Jews stingy

What measurable harm have WASPs suffered from a cultural stereotype that they are stingy? So little as to not be measurable-people may make jokes, maybe individual non-WASPs don't care for WASPs.
What measurable harm have Jews suffered from a cultural stereotype that they are stingy? Jews have been persecuted throughout time and place, pushed into professions involving money, and then despised, expelled, murdered because of those stereotypes.

Give it a rest. Jews have not suffered more than anyone else in the planet. Enough already.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is the BEST argument for my policy of only traveling with my DH and kids. Thank you!

It seems like that would be the best policy for OP as well. She comes off as too uptight to have a good time with anyway.

We go to Delaware every year with 3 other families. Eight adults and seven kids. It's a communal effort to feed everyone. But, honestly, it's no more effort to pour cereal for my two kids or all of the kids at the same time. Grilling steaks for 8 people or making a big pot of pasta with meat sauce for the group isn't much more work than just feeding my own family. People make trips to the grocery store/liquor store/CVS/Wal-Mart as needed throughout the week, and we sort it all out at the end of the week. And if I'm about to take my kids to the ice cream shop on the corner, I'll take any other kids who are around as well (who may be the kids from the house next door). It's just weird to me that someone would rent a house with other families, and expect everyone to only eat their own food. It also seems really inefficient.

I've seen a few threads on here where people seem to have weird issues with sharing food, even with supposedly close friends. That kind of strikes me as a WASP issue, based on my experiences growing up. I grew up in a neighborhood with lots of white ethnic people, many of them immigrants. Food was always shared with guests, neighbors, kids passing through, and whoever else happened to be in the house at the time. For some reason, the more WASPy people had a more formal approach to food and eating with people outside of the family.

Racist

This is crazy. I am a WASP and no one in my family would ever THINK of denying food to anyone. In fact, it's a WASP thing to argue over the check every time and insist on paying- this always happens at the end of all my family or friend dinners. We are a bit more formal in general, so yeah- my family would probably raise eyebrows if, say, my grandmother had her maid passing around hors d'oeuvres and someone stood up and grabbed a bunch. WASP culture is just more formal because it derives from English culture aka stiff upper lip and cultural stuff like that. It's not like Italy which is very informal and everything served family style. But never in a million years would anyone in my family think of only packing food for themselves and leaving everyone else out. It's so gauche.

Educate yourself before speaking.

Nah. Wasps are all about the alcohol and no food receptions. It is so sad! Their parties are thumbs down.

You're not invited to the good ones so you wouldn't know.

Oh yes, I just love WASP food. There are so many notable restaurants that serve WASP cuisine...said no one ever. Face it, PP, WASPs just aren’t known for their food.

-WASP on one side, Italian on the other.

No but we're known for other things. I happen to love the caviar and other hors d'oeuvres that get served at my family parties. We usually pay for someone to come and cook anyway, so it's great stuff. Sorry, like I said, you dont get invited to the real thing. Oh well. Closed doors, I guess.

Other hors d’oeuvres like Triscuits, you mean? Mmm, sooo classy. Guess you need something to sop up all the booze. You only think your little WASP parties are great because you’re so blitzed you can’t remember them in the morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is the BEST argument for my policy of only traveling with my DH and kids. Thank you!

It seems like that would be the best policy for OP as well. She comes off as too uptight to have a good time with anyway.

We go to Delaware every year with 3 other families. Eight adults and seven kids. It's a communal effort to feed everyone. But, honestly, it's no more effort to pour cereal for my two kids or all of the kids at the same time. Grilling steaks for 8 people or making a big pot of pasta with meat sauce for the group isn't much more work than just feeding my own family. People make trips to the grocery store/liquor store/CVS/Wal-Mart as needed throughout the week, and we sort it all out at the end of the week. And if I'm about to take my kids to the ice cream shop on the corner, I'll take any other kids who are around as well (who may be the kids from the house next door). It's just weird to me that someone would rent a house with other families, and expect everyone to only eat their own food. It also seems really inefficient.

I've seen a few threads on here where people seem to have weird issues with sharing food, even with supposedly close friends. That kind of strikes me as a WASP issue, based on my experiences growing up. I grew up in a neighborhood with lots of white ethnic people, many of them immigrants. Food was always shared with guests, neighbors, kids passing through, and whoever else happened to be in the house at the time. For some reason, the more WASPy people had a more formal approach to food and eating with people outside of the family.

Racist

This is crazy. I am a WASP and no one in my family would ever THINK of denying food to anyone. In fact, it's a WASP thing to argue over the check every time and insist on paying- this always happens at the end of all my family or friend dinners. We are a bit more formal in general, so yeah- my family would probably raise eyebrows if, say, my grandmother had her maid passing around hors d'oeuvres and someone stood up and grabbed a bunch. WASP culture is just more formal because it derives from English culture aka stiff upper lip and cultural stuff like that. It's not like Italy which is very informal and everything served family style. But never in a million years would anyone in my family think of only packing food for themselves and leaving everyone else out. It's so gauche.

Educate yourself before speaking.

Nah. Wasps are all about the alcohol and no food receptions. It is so sad! Their parties are thumbs down.

You're not invited to the good ones so you wouldn't know.

Oh yes, I just love WASP food. There are so many notable restaurants that serve WASP cuisine...said no one ever. Face it, PP, WASPs just aren’t known for their food.

-WASP on one side, Italian on the other.

No but we're known for other things. I happen to love the caviar and other hors d'oeuvres that get served at my family parties. We usually pay for someone to come and cook anyway, so it's great stuff. Sorry, like I said, you dont get invited to the real thing. Oh well. Closed doors, I guess.

Other hors d’oeuvres like Triscuits, you mean? Mmm, sooo classy. Guess you need something to sop up all the booze. You only think your little WASP parties are great because you’re so blitzed you can’t remember them in the morning.

Oops, someone's childhood trauma is popping up strongly again! Sorry no one wanted to invite you to the caviar or catered parties- though surely at this point in your life you've been excluded enough that you understand why?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I don't follow the racist thing and it's the second time now this thread. Is someone trying to say it's racist to make generalizations about WASPS? Are they being facetious?

Just replace JEW or BLACK where they say WASP. Racist? Of course it is.

I don’t think any Jews would be offended if someone complained about how messy latkes are. Same with fried okra or other soul food.

I dont think anyone was saying WASP food was messy, doubt anyone would care. More like they were saying WASPs are stingy and awful. I'm sure a Jewish person or person of any ethnic heritage would be offended to be called that.

My ancestors (dad's side) are scots Presbyterians who have been kicking around in America since before the revolutionary war.

I'll take one for the team: calling WASPs stingy /= to calling Jews stingy

What measurable harm have WASPs suffered from a cultural stereotype that they are stingy? So little as to not be measurable-people may make jokes, maybe individual non-WASPs don't care for WASPs.
What measurable harm have Jews suffered from a cultural stereotype that they are stingy? Jews have been persecuted throughout time and place, pushed into professions involving money, and then despised, expelled, murdered because of those stereotypes.

Regardless, it's still not okay. People really need to stop showing their ass and making disgusting, disparaging stereotypes about large groups of people. It's 2020 people. Not a good look.