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Anonymous
Some girls are counseled out, yes. DD had a friend from LS who slogged her way through MS with the help of tutors and by 8th grade the family/school agreed she needed something different for HS. Obviously the counseling out process is easier when the parents are on the same page. There’s no hard and fast rubric for determining who stays or goes, but, speaking generally, they need to see a clear path toward success in US—be it the most rigorous or the least. Even in the less rigorous classes, there’s still quite a bit of work. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
Are girls often counseled out before HS? Or is this a rare thing? |
Anonymous
In our grade it was 3-4, they had all been on academic probation at some point in the prior year or two and were struggling to get Bs or Cs. The high school is more rigorous than the middle school so they don’t want girls to stay who won’t be successful. |
Anonymous
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They don’t want to have to provide the supports so girls, who have been part of the warm and inclusive community and could succeed with the right help, can stay there with their friends.
“Counsel out” is right up there with “re-class” in the euphemism rankings. |
Anonymous
This is not true. For the girl I know she had tons of support throughout middle school, both from private tutors and the in school academic team. Even with a lot of extra help she was working extremely hard to earn Cs. The high school is a step up in rigor from the middle school and they had a series of honest conversations with the family to talk about whether this was really the best fit for their daughter. I don’t know why anyone would want to put their kid in a position where they would likely fail, but none of these schools is exactly the right place for everyone and the school that might have been good at age 6 might not be for high school. |
Anonymous
| "Rigor", meaning performative levels of HW |
Anonymous
| There is a clique of meangirls starting trouble amongst the class of 2029. What’s the best way for handle? |
Anonymous
This group has always started trouble. Maybe high school has emboldened them. People complain about the 28s, but the 29s are filled with mean girls and moms. Reaching out to the moms will probably make things worse and administration is unlikely to do anything. So sorry, I hope you aren’t new. |
Anonymous
Care to be more specific? |
Anonymous
This has to be a troll. If not give examples. Half the class is new. How could it start this quickly? |
Anonymous
The question is what is the admin doing about it? They do not have a good track record of addressing this sort of behavior. Just a shrug most of the time. Especially bad in MS. |
Anonymous
Yes, one of the Mom's has a son in my son's class at another nearby school and we don't have mean Mom's except for her. I can't imagine being in a class with her daughter...it's got be be even worse if she has buddies to gang up with. |
Anonymous
| Just so we are all on the same page—what behavior constitutes a mean mom? I have older DD and there are definitely moms who are not my cup of tea but I don’t think I know someone I’d actively label as “mean.” Maybe I’m oblivious or maybe our class is different… |
Anonymous
Response from daughter: "The "blonde squad" is this group of girls who are mean to others and get super mad when they get called out. Today they got in trouble for disturbing classes cause they kept yell and eating in places they weren't supposed to and went to go and do it again today. In english yesterday one girl who I knew when I was like five shoved me looked back at me then laughed. " She had problems with these group of girls in the past. She is new in 9th grade (But knew a few in elementary school) and has a negative bias towards them which is why her tone is that way. But I hope her point gets across. |