Boyfriend threw shirt in my face

[Anonymous]

This morning, as I was still sleeping and my boyfriend was getting ready for work, he took a shirt off and immediately threw it in my face. He said "that's not mine, it must be your other boyfriend's". Confused, I say "excuse me?" and follow him out our bedroom door. "I say are you serious?" and he says I guess so and leaves.

We've been living together for three months, and no I've never had another guy over or been with anyone else while we were dating.

However, I lived with someone before we started dating, and the man has left behind socks and that shirt very well could've been left behind as well. That happens, I get i should've thrown it out but once my current boyfriend started staying over he left his own white shirts everywhere so when we started packing to move in together I assume it was mixed in with both our things (assuming it was current bf's).

I am constantly feeling like i'm being disrespected. Just last night we went out together (apps, dinner, drinks) and he more or less ignored me the whole time, staring off at everything and everyone but me. When we got home he went straight to bed.

He apologized, because I told him i'm sick of his disrespect and won't tolerate it anymore and told him he is making me feel like he wants me to break up with him.
However, he apologized for throwing the shirt NEAR my face, when he threw it at it.

I want to break up with him. So badly. But we have a lease that ends in April, a cat and a dog together.

Am I right in feeling this way?

[Anonymous]

Would he be able to afford the rent on his own? Would you? What is the penalty for breaking the lease early?

It sounds like your relationship is in trouble from both side. I would be interested to hear his version of the events you've described (the shirt incident, dinner last night). It sounds like he's upset about something and is not communicating that to you.

[Anonymous]

Listen to your gut. You need to break up. Work out some way of doing it. I'm trying really hard not to say something about getting a cat and a dog when you've only been living together 3 months ....

But yes, break up. His behavior towards you is a really bad sign and it will not get better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This morning, as I was still sleeping and my boyfriend was getting ready for work, he took a shirt off and immediately threw it in my face. He said "that's not mine, it must be your other boyfriend's". Confused, I say "excuse me?" and follow him out our bedroom door. "I say are you serious?" and he says I guess so and leaves.

We've been living together for three months, and no I've never had another guy over or been with anyone else while we were dating.

However, I lived with someone before we started dating, and the man has left behind socks and that shirt very well could've been left behind as well. That happens, I get i should've thrown it out but once my current boyfriend started staying over he left his own white shirts everywhere so when we started packing to move in together I assume it was mixed in with both our things (assuming it was current bf's).

I am constantly feeling like i'm being disrespected. Just last night we went out together (apps, dinner, drinks) and he more or less ignored me the whole time, staring off at everything and everyone but me. When we got home he went straight to bed.

He apologized, because I told him i'm sick of his disrespect and won't tolerate it anymore and told him he is making me feel like he wants me to break up with him.
However, he apologized for throwing the shirt NEAR my face, when he threw it at it.

I want to break up with him. So badly. But we have a lease that ends in April, a cat and a dog together.

Am I right in feeling this way?

Mistake #1 was intertwining yourself with him financially. That's over and done.

Don't make mistake #2, which would be staying with him for financial reasons. If you want to break up with him badly, then break up with him. If you take a financial hit, learn from that and don't get yourself in that position again.

[Anonymous]

I've BTDT. The shirt incident is enough. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT and kick his ass to the curb. I encountered this kind of behavior early in my former abusive relationship and I ignored my inclination (to leave). I wish I had. Don't make the same mistake! It will only get worse!!

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you move in with men too quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you move in with men too quickly.

She said they have been living together 3 months, doesn't say how long they have been together.

[Anonymous]

You need to run. NOW. It's only going to get worse.

[Anonymous]

You are right to feel this way. It sounds like he wants you to pull the plug and breakup- in this case, I'd give him what he wants. This treatment won't improve over time.

[Anonymous]

We moved in after a little over a year of dating. We spent every day and night together after going through an abortion together and getting a cat. That happened in July last year.

[Anonymous]

^^OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to run. NOW. It's only going to get worse.

Especially after he finds more old BF clothes a year and a half after the fact.

[Anonymous]

So I tried to break up with him.
He told me I over react and he still doesn't know where that shirt came from, even though I told him how it was most likely mixed up.
He said i'm clearly not going to change my mind and that I've got him all figured out, that he is a piece of shit (he has said that exact thing before, in many previous arguments).

He then laughs at me when I try to express myself about how he mistreats me.

It's a conversation that will be continued apparently, because he said he had to go we hung up.

[Anonymous]

You're both immature.

[Anonymous]

You've been together over a year, living together for months, and you just tried to break up with him over the phone?