Boyfriend threw shirt in my face

[Anonymous]

He still has lipstick in his car from 15 months ago? You both sound like hoarders.

[Anonymous]

You both sound difficult and clueless. OP, first thing I would assume is cheating. Throw or return the stuff. You don't keep it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't understand why your boyfriend would be upset that he found another man's clothing in your home? Hmm.....if you found a bra, wouldn't you be upset?

In any case, throwing an article of clothing at (or "near") someone crosses a boundary of respect and self-control.

I knew a guy who had a cousin who's girlfriend's sister lost an eye by a thrown tee-shirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You both sound difficult and clueless. OP, first thing I would assume is cheating. Throw or return the stuff. You don't keep it.

You never, NEVER throw shirts. Such things simply aren't done in polite company.

[Anonymous]

Too much is being made of the thrown t-shirt. I can visualize this scene and it seems immature, but not exactly earth shattering.

The bigger issue is how the two of you relate to one another, or rather, DON'T relate to one another. Take a good look OP. Do you see this potentially working out? If not, get out now.

[Anonymous]

I don't want to derail the thread entirely, but I'm interested in hearing what others think: how bad is it to throw at shirt in someone's face? Is that abusive?

My boyfriend did that to me once in anger and it felt....just.....bad to be hit in the face. It irritated my eye a little bit but I wasn't actually hurt.

[Anonymous]

Get out quickly! Breaking a lease is so much cheaper than staying with someone you don't love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to derail the thread entirely, but I'm interested in hearing what others think: how bad is it to throw at shirt in someone's face? Is that abusive?

My boyfriend did that to me once in anger and it felt....just.....bad to be hit in the face. It irritated my eye a little bit but I wasn't actually hurt.

Emotionally abusive, but not physical I think. If he threw something hard it would be different.

[Anonymous]

To be honest, OP, I would not hold on to this guy, if he is and did as you describe. The end, buddy. Things don't get better with someone like this. They get worse. He'll get more and more comfortable with you, issues will get more and more difficult due to normal life stuff, he'll get madder and madder, he'll do increasingly stupid and disrespectful stuff.

That's my opinion.

Dump. Carefully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to derail the thread entirely, but I'm interested in hearing what others think: how bad is it to throw at shirt in someone's face? Is that abusive?

My boyfriend did that to me once in anger and it felt....just.....bad to be hit in the face. It irritated my eye a little bit but I wasn't actually hurt.

I was kidding about losing an eye, and here you almost lost an eye! Don't I feel the fool?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to derail the thread entirely, but I'm interested in hearing what others think: how bad is it to throw at shirt in someone's face? Is that abusive?

My boyfriend did that to me once in anger and it felt....just.....bad to be hit in the face. It irritated my eye a little bit but I wasn't actually hurt.

Emotionally abusive, but not physical I think. If he threw something hard it would be different.

It is abusive. It's not life-threatening, but it is abusive. (My stepfather once threw a box of cereal at my mother in the kitchen - no, she wasn't going to die, but obviously that is not respectful behavior.)

[Anonymous]

Why the abortion OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to derail the thread entirely, but I'm interested in hearing what others think: how bad is it to throw at shirt in someone's face? Is that abusive?

My boyfriend did that to me once in anger and it felt....just.....bad to be hit in the face. It irritated my eye a little bit but I wasn't actually hurt.

Hard to say. Was it a purposeful "throw" directly at OP? Or was it a disgusted sideways toss in her direction that happened to land on OP? Both are immature, but the latter doesn't seem abusive. Just stupid.

Regardless, this relationship isn't off to a great start. Color me skeptical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This morning, as I was still sleeping and my boyfriend was getting ready for work, he took a shirt off and immediately threw it in my face. He said "that's not mine, it must be your other boyfriend's". Confused, I say "excuse me?" and follow him out our bedroom door. "I say are you serious?" and he says I guess so and leaves.

We've been living together for three months, and no I've never had another guy over or been with anyone else while we were dating.

However, I lived with someone before we started dating, and the man has left behind socks and that shirt very well could've been left behind as well. That happens, I get i should've thrown it out but once my current boyfriend started staying over he left his own white shirts everywhere so when we started packing to move in together I assume it was mixed in with both our things (assuming it was current bf's).

I am constantly feeling like i'm being disrespected. Just last night we went out together (apps, dinner, drinks) and he more or less ignored me the whole time, staring off at everything and everyone but me. When we got home he went straight to bed.

He apologized, because I told him i'm sick of his disrespect and won't tolerate it anymore and told him he is making me feel like he wants me to break up with him.
However, he apologized for throwing the shirt NEAR my face, when he threw it at it.

I want to break up with him. So badly. But we have a lease that ends in April, a cat and a dog together.

Am I right in feeling this way?

This is why

1) You pick better mates
2) You wait long enough for these type of issues to arise and subside BEFORE moving in with him
3) You don't get a cat and dog with a boyfriend
4) See #1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why the abortion OP?

Not OP, and I'm going out on a limb here, but I'm going to take a wild guess that she was pregnant and no longer wanted to be.