MIL vent

[Anonymous]

My MIL is very generous and "helpful". We are staying with her while we sell our house. Like I said, very generous. I realize we are lucky that she has welcomed us. That said, I just got home from work and she told me that there's a PTA meeting at my kids' school tonight and that DH is in the basement doing mortgage work on the computer. She said it like it would all be news to me. I know both of these things because it's my life. I know what is going on with my kids and DH. Ugh. And I just have to smile and be thankful that she's opened her house to us.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, op? I feel sorry for your mil. You are looking for problems where none exist. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Omg. You need to stop.

[Anonymous]

Yeah sorry but I just don't get what the problem is.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry--is there a "vent" here? I've pulled out my magnifying glass to look for one, but can't seem to find anything worth complaining about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is very generous and "helpful". We are staying with her while we sell our house. Like I said, very generous. I realize we are lucky that she has welcomed us. That said, I just got home from work and she told me that there's a PTA meeting at my kids' school tonight and that DH is in the basement doing mortgage work on the computer. She said it like it would all be news to me. I know both of these things because it's my life. I know what is going on with my kids and DH. Ugh. And I just have to smile and be thankful that she's opened her house to us.

You just got home, but were able to divine that your DH was in the basement doing mortgage work? Perhaps she just thought she'd be helpful and tell you what's going on rather than making you ask.

[Anonymous]

To expand, she oversteps bounds. Asked not to wash our clothes (I don't want her washing my undies, sorry) she just waits until, we're out of the house, goes in to our room and takes our dirty laundry and washes it. She gave permission to have a couple of friends over to her house and then told me I should change the menu for what I had planned. Backstory ... Sick kid at school, they call DH who is unavailable and he calls MIL to say he's calling me (but to give her a heads up that DC is sick). I leave work but she leaves her house without being asked to and picks up sick kid when I'm on my way there without being asked to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is very generous and "helpful". We are staying with her while we sell our house. Like I said, very generous. I realize we are lucky that she has welcomed us. That said, I just got home from work and she told me that there's a PTA meeting at my kids' school tonight and that DH is in the basement doing mortgage work on the computer. She said it like it would all be news to me. I know both of these things because it's my life. I know what is going on with my kids and DH. Ugh. And I just have to smile and be thankful that she's opened her house to us.

You just got home, but were able to divine that your DH was in the basement doing mortgage work? Perhaps she just thought she'd be helpful and tell you what's going on rather than making you ask.

I talk to my spouse frequently during the day. I didn't diving anything. We talk every day when I leave work.

[Anonymous]

Divine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is very generous and "helpful". We are staying with her while we sell our house. Like I said, very generous. I realize we are lucky that she has welcomed us. That said, I just got home from work and she told me that there's a PTA meeting at my kids' school tonight and that DH is in the basement doing mortgage work on the computer. She said it like it would all be news to me. I know both of these things because it's my life. I know what is going on with my kids and DH. Ugh. And I just have to smile and be thankful that she's opened her house to us.

You just got home, but were able to divine that your DH was in the basement doing mortgage work? Perhaps she just thought she'd be helpful and tell you what's going on rather than making you ask.

But that's the thing. We have a life and I know what's going on in my life without her trying to manage things for us. I sincerely appreciate that she's letting us in her home to stay right now but I can run my family without her taking over ...

[Anonymous]

She is probanly trying to show you that she is on top of things. I bet she even offered to help with your kids if you want to go to the pta meeting. Maybe she mentioned it as an indirect way to find out if you were going.
Its kind of her life too since its all playing out in her house. You sound very difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To expand, she oversteps bounds. Asked not to wash our clothes (I don't want her washing my undies, sorry) she just waits until, we're out of the house, goes in to our room and takes our dirty laundry and washes it. She gave permission to have a couple of friends over to her house and then told me I should change the menu for what I had planned. Backstory ... Sick kid at school, they call DH who is unavailable and he calls MIL to say he's calling me (but to give her a heads up that DC is sick). I leave work but she leaves her house without being asked to and picks up sick kid when I'm on my way there without being asked to.

If you're that aggrieved by the situation, then move out and pay for temporary housing. My MIL does things along these lines when she's babysitting our kids, but I shut my mouth and am grateful I have free childcare. Small price to pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To expand, she oversteps bounds. Asked not to wash our clothes (I don't want her washing my undies, sorry) she just waits until, we're out of the house, goes in to our room and takes our dirty laundry and washes it. She gave permission to have a couple of friends over to her house and then told me I should change the menu for what I had planned. Backstory ... Sick kid at school, they call DH who is unavailable and he calls MIL to say he's calling me (but to give her a heads up that DC is sick). I leave work but she leaves her house without being asked to and picks up sick kid when I'm on my way there without being asked to.

You are living at her house! I suggest renting your own place.

[Anonymous]

Then move your cheap ungrateful ass to a hotel.

OMG, the woman did your laundry? She should keep her paws off your delicates!

Seriously, you are just looking for issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is very generous and "helpful". We are staying with her while we sell our house. Like I said, very generous. I realize we are lucky that she has welcomed us. That said, I just got home from work and she told me that there's a PTA meeting at my kids' school tonight and that DH is in the basement doing mortgage work on the computer. She said it like it would all be news to me. I know both of these things because it's my life. I know what is going on with my kids and DH. Ugh. And I just have to smile and be thankful that she's opened her house to us.

You just got home, but were able to divine that your DH was in the basement doing mortgage work? Perhaps she just thought she'd be helpful and tell you what's going on rather than making you ask.

But that's the thing. We have a life and I know what's going on in my life without her trying to manage things for us. I sincerely appreciate that she's letting us in her home to stay right now but I can run my family without her taking over ...

Then move out! I pray my DILs are not like this.