MIL vent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then move your cheap ungrateful ass to a hotel.

OMG, the woman did your laundry? She should keep her paws off your delicates!

Seriously, you are just looking for issues.

My mother ALWAYS asks before touching DH's underwear. It's private and she's not related to me. I guess I'm just ungrateful and should let her take over my family because she's letting us stay with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then move your cheap ungrateful ass to a hotel.

OMG, the woman did your laundry? She should keep her paws off your delicates!

Seriously, you are just looking for issues.

My mother ALWAYS asks before touching DH's underwear. It's private and she's not related to me. I guess I'm just ungrateful and should let her take over my family because she's letting us stay with her.

Then move in with your mother.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I pray all of you have a DIL like me who vents on DCUM anonymously instead of to anyone who actually knows who you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then move your cheap ungrateful ass to a hotel.

OMG, the woman did your laundry? She should keep her paws off your delicates!

Seriously, you are just looking for issues.

My mother ALWAYS asks before touching DH's underwear. It's private and she's not related to me. I guess I'm just ungrateful and should let her take over my family because she's letting us stay with her.

Then move in with your mother.

She lives in another country.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's all part of the personality trait that makes her generous and kind. The same part of her that offered her house is the same one that tells you about things, offers to do laundry, etc.

She wants to be helpful. Approach this another way and think up something you'd like her to do that she'd also like to help with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's all part of the personality trait that makes her generous and kind. The same part of her that offered her house is the same one that tells you about things, offers to do laundry, etc.

She wants to be helpful. Approach this another way and think up something you'd like her to do that she'd also like to help with.

Thank you. I'll try to refocus my energy that way. I just want my home back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's all part of the personality trait that makes her generous and kind. The same part of her that offered her house is the same one that tells you about things, offers to do laundry, etc.

She wants to be helpful. Approach this another way and think up something you'd like her to do that she'd also like to help with.

This is a lovely way to look at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then move your cheap ungrateful ass to a hotel.

OMG, the woman did your laundry? She should keep her paws off your delicates!

Seriously, you are just looking for issues.

My mother ALWAYS asks before touching DH's underwear. It's private and she's not related to me. I guess I'm just ungrateful and should let her take over my family because she's letting us stay with her.

Take over your family? WTF. You're psycho.

[Anonymous]

Are you 12?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's all part of the personality trait that makes her generous and kind. The same part of her that offered her house is the same one that tells you about things, offers to do laundry, etc.

She wants to be helpful. Approach this another way and think up something you'd like her to do that she'd also like to help with.

Thank you. I'll try to refocus my energy that way. I just want my home back

OP, if it helps, those things would all run me the wrong way too. I think the above PP is right though, and best to channel that energy some way if you can. For instance, can she babysit so you and DH can get out a little? Win-win there to give you some space.

She will probably be glad to get her home back too--her routine is also disrupted and the over stepping may be her way of dealing with it, trying to manage what to her is an unpredictable situation.

This will pass. Be sure to give her a very nice thank you present!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's all part of the personality trait that makes her generous and kind. The same part of her that offered her house is the same one that tells you about things, offers to do laundry, etc.

She wants to be helpful. Approach this another way and think up something you'd like her to do that she'd also like to help with.

Thank you. I'll try to refocus my energy that way. I just want my home back

That may be the case but don't take that frustration out on the woman you are mooching from.

[Anonymous]

I was all ready to pile on, OP. But, I appreciate that you're willing to take a different look. I understand how it could rub you the wrong way but she does sound like she's a generous, helpful person. I wish I had family around like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was all ready to pile on, OP. But, I appreciate that you're willing to take a different look. I understand how it could rub you the wrong way but she does sound like she's a generous, helpful person. I wish I had family around like that.

I know I just need to take deep breaths. I do appreciate how generous she is being, it's just hard not having any personal time or space. Thanks for letting me vent somewhere where it won't impact her.

[Anonymous]

You can't have two women in one house. It just doesn't work. Be thankful it's temporary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's all part of the personality trait that makes her generous and kind. The same part of her that offered her house is the same one that tells you about things, offers to do laundry, etc.

She wants to be helpful. Approach this another way and think up something you'd like her to do that she'd also like to help with.

Thank you. I'll try to refocus my energy that way. I just want my home back

OP, if it helps, those things would all run me the wrong way too. I think the above PP is right though, and best to channel that energy some way if you can. For instance, can she babysit so you and DH can get out a little? Win-win there to give you some space.

She will probably be glad to get her home back too--her routine is also disrupted and the over stepping may be her way of dealing with it, trying to manage what to her is an unpredictable situation.

This will pass. Be sure to give her a very nice thank you present!

+1

It's the accretion of her being all up in every part of your life that's bugging you. Even your underwear is not safe from her! Look at it not as your MIL but as a mom who has her son under her roof again. And you can view her like your Jeeves, reminding you of appointments and so on. It's not permanent.