Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

I bet you're wrong, or that the variety they're eating in only happening because they're forced and will dry up once they are finally allowed to make their own choices.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

My kids try a little of everything at family meals at home. On holidays, they can eat what they please, within reason. I'm surprised some of you don't seem to grasp that this is a very common approach to holiday meals. (With kids AND adults!) Holidays should be fun celebrations, not a forced march through foods you darn well know you don't like. (Yes, I've tried green bean casserole...no, I never want to eat even a small bite of it again.)

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll start off.

This year, I will finally tell my FIL he cannot floss his teeth at the table.

Only Thanksgiving?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

I bet you're wrong, or that the variety they're eating in only happening because they're forced and will dry up once they are finally allowed to make their own choices.

Is this some kind of new parenting trope?? My kids are 6 and 8 and I make them TRY everything. I say "You're allowed to not like it but not until you taste it." Many times they end up admitting they like something they didn't want to eat. I made some curry yesterday that obviously didn't look good to them (orange slop on rice!) but they ended up devouring it. So we're supposed to let kids only eat what they like now? My kids would live on carbs.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL will not sit down for more than a few minutes. Puts a damper on everything and really rushes the meal. It’s been like this for the 20 years I’ve known her. We try to ignore but it’s tough because she’s practically clearing people’s plates and putting food away in containers right after everyone gets their food and sits. I am the one the does most of the cooking because her cooking has been deemed inedible by everyone (though she still makes a few things that go completely uneaten by anyone). So I’ll cook for hours and hours and have about ten minutes to eat. Hate it. I’ve stopped making the good stuff for their house and just host my own dinner with my immediate family and some friends the next day. Next year I’m just buying dinner from the store. Not worth the effort. This year was the last!

Why don't you let her pack everything up and then go take everything back out for a second round .... and make her pack it back up again.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

I bet you're wrong, or that the variety they're eating in only happening because they're forced and will dry up once they are finally allowed to make their own choices.

Is this some kind of new parenting trope?? My kids are 6 and 8 and I make them TRY everything. I say "You're allowed to not like it but not until you taste it." Many times they end up admitting they like something they didn't want to eat. I made some curry yesterday that obviously didn't look good to them (orange slop on rice!) but they ended up devouring it. So we're supposed to let kids only eat what they like now? My kids would live on carbs.

Well aren’t you special

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

I bet you're wrong, or that the variety they're eating in only happening because they're forced and will dry up once they are finally allowed to make their own choices.

Is this some kind of new parenting trope?? My kids are 6 and 8 and I make them TRY everything. I say "You're allowed to not like it but not until you taste it." Many times they end up admitting they like something they didn't want to eat. I made some curry yesterday that obviously didn't look good to them (orange slop on rice!) but they ended up devouring it. So we're supposed to let kids only eat what they like now? My kids would live on carbs.

It's not a trope. Forcing kids to try things isn't the only way they will eat a variety of foods.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

I bet you're wrong, or that the variety they're eating in only happening because they're forced and will dry up once they are finally allowed to make their own choices.

Is this some kind of new parenting trope?? My kids are 6 and 8 and I make them TRY everything. I say "You're allowed to not like it but not until you taste it." Many times they end up admitting they like something they didn't want to eat. I made some curry yesterday that obviously didn't look good to them (orange slop on rice!) but they ended up devouring it. So we're supposed to let kids only eat what they like now? My kids would live on carbs.

What's wrong with your parenting that your kids don't like vegetables and protein-rich foods? My kids would happily choose vegetables, meat, cheese, and a broad variety of dishes on their own. They wouldn't "live on carbs."

(See, PP? We can all pick apart each other's parenting.)

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

I bet you're wrong, or that the variety they're eating in only happening because they're forced and will dry up once they are finally allowed to make their own choices.

Is this some kind of new parenting trope?? My kids are 6 and 8 and I make them TRY everything. I say "You're allowed to not like it but not until you taste it." Many times they end up admitting they like something they didn't want to eat. I made some curry yesterday that obviously didn't look good to them (orange slop on rice!) but they ended up devouring it. So we're supposed to let kids only eat what they like now? My kids would live on carbs.

In Girl Scouts this as known as the No Thank You Helping. In other words if you said no thank you, you still got a small spoonful to try.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

I bet you're wrong, or that the variety they're eating in only happening because they're forced and will dry up once they are finally allowed to make their own choices.

Is this some kind of new parenting trope?? My kids are 6 and 8 and I make them TRY everything. I say "You're allowed to not like it but not until you taste it." Many times they end up admitting they like something they didn't want to eat. I made some curry yesterday that obviously didn't look good to them (orange slop on rice!) but they ended up devouring it. So we're supposed to let kids only eat what they like now? My kids would live on carbs.

No, this is the evidence-based approach to raising healthy kids, with some exceptions for kids who have a diagnosed feeding issue.

My kids are in college now. They can eat whatever they want. They eat a balanced diet because they've learned how to eat and exercise to feel good.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate?

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food.

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it.

I bet you're wrong, or that the variety they're eating in only happening because they're forced and will dry up once they are finally allowed to make their own choices.

Is this some kind of new parenting trope?? My kids are 6 and 8 and I make them TRY everything. I say "You're allowed to not like it but not until you taste it." Many times they end up admitting they like something they didn't want to eat. I made some curry yesterday that obviously didn't look good to them (orange slop on rice!) but they ended up devouring it. So we're supposed to let kids only eat what they like now? My kids would live on carbs.

In Girl Scouts this as known as the No Thank You Helping. In other words if you said no thank you, you still got a small spoonful to try.

So you advocate for teaching Girl Scouts that when they say "no," they are forced to take just a little?

I'll let you sit with that.

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Anonymous wrote:Elderly MIL cooked a large meal (3 meats, a ton of sides, and 4 deserts) for 7 people (my strange SIL didn’t eat so there 6 people). Barely anything was done when we got there so I did the Mac & Cheese. She was still working on the other sides. I watched her do the stuffing and she put water, broth, salt and sugar in it so it came out soggy. Everything except the Mac & Cheese tasted terrible. The deserts were store bought and even they didn’t taste good. We all had diarrhea the next day.

I want to tell her that she doesn’t have to do Thanksgiving anymore but she insists just to prove she can do it. I want to go out next year. I know it’s petty but I had to tell someone.

Clue: a daughter who won’t eat her elderly mother’s food is not “strange,” she’s smart. Clue: watching MIL do weird stuff to food like put sugar in stuffing = MAYBE DON’T EAT IT. Your SIL is not the “strange” one in this scenario, dummy.

The pp put it a lot better/nicer than you did. But congrats on being a B I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:I give a little bit of grace to UMC boomers who grew up in the very toxic peak of the diet culture. It was way, way worse back in their day. It's hard to shake off that messaging that has been ingrained into their brains for so long.

And, they think flat butts are attractive and something to strive for. They didn't get the memo.

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Anonymous wrote:FIL burps (and farts) at the table, and picks teeth with pick. Would totally pull apart bird with hands (and has). Coughs without covering mouth. No one has ever told him not to do these things. I think that part may annoy me most of all (tell him ffs). But mainly I am annoyed that whole ILs family is like this and when I feel judgy it makes me feel guilty and like a snob, and also like it is my fault that I married into a family that is so socially different from my own and made my life much harder as a consequence. Then I feel both guilty, mad at myself and like a huge snob. And grossed out. I would love to enjoy one holiday where I could eat canapes and have a drink without feeling like a grossed out, self loathing, snobby a******.

Why oh why can't old people COVER their mouths? Why is this a thing with old people? I am baffled.

Having manners should not make you feel guilty. There are wealthy, educated people who happen to be all about "decorum" who behave like absolute selfish, socially inept slobs (like they are above it all), and there are poor people who come from literally nothing, but are warm, welcoming, considerate, cultured and well mannered.

In some countries, belching at the table is a compliment to the chef. The U.S. is not one of those countries. MIL I am talking to you.

Any why do they refuse to wash their hands, ever? I hate hearing a flush and the door open, especially before someone cooks for other people.