Love is Blind Season 3 - Dallas

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Anonymous wrote:Bartise is gaslighting scum. Go, Nancy!

Also, he is so unattractive and she looked beautiful.

I DESPISE Bartise, but if I'm just judging his looks I think he's very attractive.

Ugh no. And his hair is so dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:I love how Vanessa Lachey seems to be aging naturally. She has forehead wrinkles! She can move her forehead! No fillers, and it appears not even botox? Love a natural queen.

Raven is the opposite of a natural queen. She looked like an alien at the reunion.

I love how Vanessa Lachey is aging as well. It’s refreshing to see. I hope she will continue to age naturally.

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Anonymous wrote:The "cuties" footage at the end of the finale very, very clearly proved that Zanab is batshit insane and rewrites things to make her to be a perpetual victim. Cole did absolutely nothing wrong in that scene.

You're nuts.

What did he say or do wrong? Truly?

Zanab was projecting her own insecurities onto her restriction so she could fit into her dress, and blamed him. That's on her.

He said "are you really going to eat two?" Why the eff did he say that then? What is that, 70 calories? I think he started backtracking when he remembered the cameras were on.

He did not say that. He said: "Are you about to eat two of those?" There was no hostility or judgment in his voice (unless you're projecting, obviously) and then Zanab followed up about WHY she is voluntarily choosing to restrict herself (for her dress).

Jesus, as a woman who's struggled with weight and judgment most of my life, his question was completely and totally benign. It was his flighty curious question, and nothing more.

Ugh! I hate to take up for him because he does have some maturing to do but I didn’t think he meant anything about the comment. Maybe this comment coupled with others gave it teeth. But alone ? Hmmmm. I guess you had to be there.

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Anonymous wrote:The more Colleen and Matt continue to talk about how much they love each other, the less I believe it. She looks so upset/uncomfortable the entire time like she's afraid to say the wrong thing because he'll blow up later. Colleen and Matt are such an odd faux couple.

They are both baby dumb dumbs who can’t have an actual conversation. Their entire dialogue is just “Love you babe” and “I’m so lucky. I love you, cheers to us.” They literally have nothing to talk about.

Agreed and she perpetually looks scared and trying to convince herself she is happy.

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Anonymous wrote:The "cuties" footage at the end of the finale very, very clearly proved that Zanab is batshit insane and rewrites things to make her to be a perpetual victim. Cole did absolutely nothing wrong in that scene.

You're nuts.

What did he say or do wrong? Truly?

Zanab was projecting her own insecurities onto her restriction so she could fit into her dress, and blamed him. That's on her.

He said "are you really going to eat two?" Why the eff did he say that then? What is that, 70 calories? I think he started backtracking when he remembered the cameras were on.

He did not say that. He said: "Are you about to eat two of those?" There was no hostility or judgment in his voice (unless you're projecting, obviously) and then Zanab followed up about WHY she is voluntarily choosing to restrict herself (for her dress).

Jesus, as a woman who's struggled with weight and judgment most of my life, his question was completely and totally benign. It was his flighty curious question, and nothing more.

And what if he does that all the time like she said? Constant questions like that about what she’s eating? Your head is in the sand if you think that’s innocent and not damaging.

Well, how about they air the footage? The one they did, it was all about Zanab hearing what she heard in her own head, and not having a good handle on the context or tone.

Cole isn't perfect, his convo with Colleen was awful. But Zanab is a messed up person in her own right, and so unnecessarily blaming Cole for everything. She takes zero accountability for her own crappy behavior.

These food comments are right on the heels of him telling his new fiancé that she’s not the type of woman he’s normally attracted to, that Colleen is a 10 while she’s a 9, that she looks so different without makeup. You might to willing to dismiss isolated clips, but taken as a whole in context, he’s an ass. He may not be consciously pressuring her to change her body, that I can give him. But intent is not the same as impact. All of those moments together have an impact. He seemed to realize it towards the end of the reunion. Bartise, who did the same thing to Nancy, did not.

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I think both share some responsibility. I am insecure and I see myself in Zay. You can’t “fish” for comments about what you look like with makeup off, and ask to be rated by someone who is immature and doesn’t care to tell you what you want to hear and then get mad because you didn’t hear what you wanted to hear. I used to fish for compliments all the time by being self deprecating and it backfired many times so I speak from experience. Zay also has some work to do as she needs a lot of affirmation.

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I am so glad that cuties clip was shown. The way Zay treated Cole by twisting his words and publicly humiliating and attacking him not once but twice on national TV is disturbing. If the situation was reversed and cole was a woman, there is no way that her behavior would have been tolerated. It would have been characterized as abusive and I think there is a serious double standard here. It was heartbreaking to hear him go on and on about how to include her family overseas in England into their union and for her to diminish him. She was clearly unable to receive his love and affection and pushed him away at his attempts to nurture her. I think his intuition was telling him that she was mentally ill and that’s why he asked if she was bipolar. As others have said, she appears to have some serious trust and attachment issues. I think the fact that he allowed her to treat him in this way is so sad and America allowing it too is upsetting. She villanized him and smeared his character while projecting all her deepest insecurities on to him and the cast and crew allowed it. If anything, he’s the real victim here ..my opinion as a female mental health professional.

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Random wedding day thoughts -

They really need to put down a carpet runner.
Almost everyone practically ran down the aisle.
I couldn't get over Alexa's dad smacking away and chewing gum during the entire wedding.
I laughed that the show literally had another Barnett (Season 1 was Matt Barnett) - maybe he and Cole are cousins!

I agree with PP who said Colleen looked wooden and maybe even like she was trying to avoid triggering Matt, that Nancy treated the engagement like a business contract, that Z is very insecure/avoidantly attached, and more.

I still don't buy Alexa and Brennan - maybe she's planning on reaping rewards from it like Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner from MAFS Season 1?

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I think the cities scenes was completely ambiguous and could be exactly how they each represented it as seen through their own lens.

The real deciding factor would be whether he actually asked someone for their number at the bachelor party because one of them is lying about that.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say this about Zanab. Having watched the finale and the show. I think they communicated over each other. For sure. I do not think Cole is perfect.

My mom is a borderline personality disorder person. And watching Cole at that reunion I felt like...that was so relatable. That is what she does, she isn't even lying. She decides she is going to do something that is hurtful but that she wants to do. And she creates in her head an elaborate narrative, she entirely twists things that happened and she rallies everyone around her against the person who she's going to wrong. And truthfully she doesn't think she is lying. She can't accept wrongdoing in herself, she is also incredibly insecure, and her defense mechanism is deciding the world is against her and lashing out.

The stuff with the cuties, the stuff with the makeup that they did show with her entirely twisting something he said jokingly to be extremely critical. I believe him fully about the bachelor party. I also think she thinks she is telling the truth.

I think he is immature, but I think she is the villain in that story.

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Zeneb definitely gives BPD vibes. Cole's not perfect, but she's detached from reality. She has already made her own reality in her own head.

Really, she made up Cole starting she was less attractive than some of her costars, and she made up the fact he told others he was emotionally attracted to her but physically attracted to Colleen? How do you think she felt watching that pool scene?

Nobody's saying that the pool scene was great. It wasn't. But it doesn't negate Zaneb's major, major personal issues and transgressions. She obviously has her own lying/manipulation/story-making problems.

Cole did a stupid thing for sure. Zenab did things that demonstrate serious mental health issues on her end.

Once he planted the seed that she didn't live up to her costars' looks, every comment he made about food or her body became interpreted through that lens. Perfectly understandable. I do think she's a nag who'd be hard to live with though. Of course is such a sloppy man child, he'd be even harder to live with!

No, it's not "perfectly understandable." It displayed her inability to move on, to accept apologies, to get a solid grasp on reality. Cole made a mistake, but those are all Zanab's issues that she alone is responsible for.

Cole is the only person responsible for his own reckless and hurtful words. He has no boundaries and sounds and operates like a 15 year old child.

DP. Ita.

I honestly am baffled anyone can watch the cities scene and think Cole was the problem

I agree with you. And thankfully, so do 99% of people who watch this show (according to IG, twitter, reddit, etc).

Interesting claim, since she now has twice as many Insta followers as he does.

Do you not know that you can EASILY buy IG followers?

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Anonymous wrote:I think the cities scenes was completely ambiguous and could be exactly how they each represented it as seen through their own lens.

The real deciding factor would be whether he actually asked someone for their number at the bachelor party because one of them is lying about that.

100% agree.

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The one positive is I felt the show was not scripted especially the reactions of the parents at the weddings. Cole is a sweetheart and still wanted to be with Z. I wish she would have comforted him when he was very upset. For her to sit there unmoved made her seem abusive in my eyes ( making him cry with accusations and then saying, it’s ok - I’m not mad at you) She clearly has relationship issues, evident in her behavior and never having shared her space with a boyfriend, (see ya, now leave). I am surprised she even went on this show. She answered her own question why she was never approached or asked out: her energy is negative and is a true “heart eater”.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the cities scenes was completely ambiguous and could be exactly how they each represented it as seen through their own lens.

The real deciding factor would be whether he actually asked someone for their number at the bachelor party because one of them is lying about that.

I honestly believe him. The guys' bachelor party involved no girls. If he had done anything like that one of the other guys would have sold him out that they had gone out afterwards. All of them looked confused.

Another thing that REALLY stood out to me at the wedding AND at the reunion was how Zay was not particularly emotional EXCEPT being nervous about walking down the aisle. She was nervous, like she had a big moment coming up. That was 1000% a planned and rehearsed speech. At the reunion he is saying she's lying and she's not even getting that upset. He is on one side crying, and his emotion came off extraordinarily genuine to me both day of wedding and reunion, and she is coldly just burying him deeper. Is someone who's confidence is completely shattered able to cooly dig the knife in again and again and again? In my opinion no.

I honestly believe Zay knew she wasn't going to marry him, decided she wanted to be the Deepti of the season and executed a pretty calculated plan to make it happen. I was pretty upset honestly after watching the finale being really triggered by just how much her behavior is like an immediate family member who is extremely emotionally abusive while also being extremely successful and no one outside our family would know she is that way. Cole is not a perfect person, but she is the abusive person in that relationship. And in a calculated and intentional way that was honestly really distressing to watch.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say this about Zanab. Having watched the finale and the show. I think they communicated over each other. For sure. I do not think Cole is perfect.

My mom is a borderline personality disorder person. And watching Cole at that reunion I felt like...that was so relatable. That is what she does, she isn't even lying. She decides she is going to do something that is hurtful but that she wants to do. And she creates in her head an elaborate narrative, she entirely twists things that happened and she rallies everyone around her against the person who she's going to wrong. And truthfully she doesn't think she is lying. She can't accept wrongdoing in herself, she is also incredibly insecure, and her defense mechanism is deciding the world is against her and lashing out.

The stuff with the cuties, the stuff with the makeup that they did show with her entirely twisting something he said jokingly to be extremely critical. I believe him fully about the bachelor party. I also think she thinks she is telling the truth.

I think he is immature, but I think she is the villain in that story.

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Zeneb definitely gives BPD vibes. Cole's not perfect, but she's detached from reality. She has already made her own reality in her own head.

Really, she made up Cole starting she was less attractive than some of her costars, and she made up the fact he told others he was emotionally attracted to her but physically attracted to Colleen? How do you think she felt watching that pool scene?

Nobody's saying that the pool scene was great. It wasn't. But it doesn't negate Zaneb's major, major personal issues and transgressions. She obviously has her own lying/manipulation/story-making problems.

Cole did a stupid thing for sure. Zenab did things that demonstrate serious mental health issues on her end.

Once he planted the seed that she didn't live up to her costars' looks, every comment he made about food or her body became interpreted through that lens. Perfectly understandable. I do think she's a nag who'd be hard to live with though. Of course is such a sloppy man child, he'd be even harder to live with!

No, it's not "perfectly understandable." It displayed her inability to move on, to accept apologies, to get a solid grasp on reality. Cole made a mistake, but those are all Zanab's issues that she alone is responsible for.

Cole is the only person responsible for his own reckless and hurtful words. He has no boundaries and sounds and operates like a 15 year old child.

DP. Ita.

I honestly am baffled anyone can watch the cities scene and think Cole was the problem

I agree with you. And thankfully, so do 99% of people who watch this show (according to IG, twitter, reddit, etc).

Interesting claim, since she now has twice as many Insta followers as he does.

I actually feel like this speaks to how she's the villain TBH. He, a year later, is still emotionally wrecked by this and by his own account has not dated and has retreated into work. She on the other hand you can tell by insta is clearly using this for clout and to cultivate a following. Which is fine honestly, except I think she basically abused him to position herself as the Deepti to get that clout.

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Anonymous wrote:I love how Vanessa Lachey seems to be aging naturally. She has forehead wrinkles! She can move her forehead! No fillers, and it appears not even botox? Love a natural queen.

Raven is the opposite of a natural queen. She looked like an alien at the reunion.

I love how Vanessa Lachey is aging as well. It’s refreshing to see. I hope she will continue to age naturally.

Vanessa is awesome as a host. She asks the hard questions and her and Nick talk openly about their relationship. She married a divorced man who had a highly publicized relationship with Jessica Simpson. I'm also going to give him MOST of the credit for reality shows being so popular. It was their show and the Osbourne's that popularized them.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the cities scenes was completely ambiguous and could be exactly how they each represented it as seen through their own lens.

The real deciding factor would be whether he actually asked someone for their number at the bachelor party because one of them is lying about that.

I honestly believe him. The guys' bachelor party involved no girls. If he had done anything like that one of the other guys would have sold him out that they had gone out afterwards. All of them looked confused.

Another thing that REALLY stood out to me at the wedding AND at the reunion was how Zay was not particularly emotional EXCEPT being nervous about walking down the aisle. She was nervous, like she had a big moment coming up. That was 1000% a planned and rehearsed speech. At the reunion he is saying she's lying and she's not even getting that upset. He is on one side crying, and his emotion came off extraordinarily genuine to me both day of wedding and reunion, and she is coldly just burying him deeper. Is someone who's confidence is completely shattered able to cooly dig the knife in again and again and again? In my opinion no.

I honestly believe Zay knew she wasn't going to marry him, decided she wanted to be the Deepti of the season and executed a pretty calculated plan to make it happen. I was pretty upset honestly after watching the finale being really triggered by just how much her behavior is like an immediate family member who is extremely emotionally abusive while also being extremely successful and no one outside our family would know she is that way. Cole is not a perfect person, but she is the abusive person in that relationship. And in a calculated and intentional way that was honestly really distressing to watch.

Of course you believe him. I don't. And Brennon didn't seem to either.