Where does a young single early 30's woman meet guys if she's shy?

[Anonymous]

It's hard to meet guys for me because I have always been awkwardly shy around them but it's only because when I start conversations with guys there immediately develops a sexual tension between us and they assume my being friendly means I want them then they start being flirty and checking body so I can never make friends easily with men. I'm also non aggressive. Grew up with old values that the woman never pursues the man and I'm too shy to do that anyway. Too add to that I don't look my age but much younger so meeting a younger man is okay with me. Where or how can I meet guys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to meet guys for me because I have always been awkwardly shy around them but it's only because when I start conversations with guys there immediately develops a sexual tension between us and they assume my being friendly means I want them then they start being flirty and checking body so I can never make friends easily with men. I'm also non aggressive. Grew up with old values that the woman never pursues the man and I'm too shy to do that anyway. Too add to that I don't look my age but much younger so meeting a younger man is okay with me. Where or how can I meet guys?

If you are good looking men are always gonna check you out and flirt with you. It's nothing you are doing to make them do that. You just need to learn to tactfully shut that down if you arent interested in the guy.
Meetup groups. If you are too shy to go alone, bring a friend.

[Anonymous]

You can meet a nice boy in church.

[Anonymous]

have you tried meetup?
Go to any event that interests you and meet dozens of people.

[Anonymous]

How about some self-work with a good therapist instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How about some self-work with a good therapist instead?

Why do people -especially americans- always suggest therapy for everything? In a lot of countries therapy is unheard of yet they seem happiest of all.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you need therapy because you're shy and don't pursue men. Simply sign up for match and try to meet men. It is a numbers game. Be friendly and think of it as trying to make friends.

[Anonymous]

I was in your shoes over a decade ago. I wound up meeting my husband off the internet, along with a few other people at the same time. Work is another option but I wasn't comfortable dating someone at work because I wanted to keep business and pleasure separate. The thing is, men don't seek out women as much if they do not put out the signals by showing an interest or flirting. So your selection might be reduced by being shy.

[Anonymous]

volunteer work or political campaigns.

[Anonymous]

Okcupid if your looking for a Bobcat poacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How about some self-work with a good therapist instead?

+1 You are in your 30ties. Time to get over your shyness.

[Anonymous]

I met DH on OkCupid. DH is super shy. Online dating allows you to take things at your own speed. Just don't let the sheer number of jerks surprise you. Just wade through the idiots and you'll find some great guys out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How about some self-work with a good therapist instead?

Why do people -especially americans- always suggest therapy for everything? In a lot of countries therapy is unheard of yet they seem happiest of all.

I'm a social worker by training. Sorry! Habit.

[Anonymous]

Steve Harvey show

[Anonymous]

Try online dating... If anyhing it will give you some experience dating and hopefully boost some confidence to use in Other social settings with me