Where does a young single early 30's woman meet guys if she's shy?

[Anonymous]

Both my husband and I are shy introverts. We met each other online (Eharmony)

[Anonymous]

Do you have any single friends? If so, that is great.

Then you can attend single functions in your area.

Or does your church offer any singles bible studies or groups?

Lastly, have you thought about meeting someone online? It is not for everyone so don't feel bad if it freaks you out just thinking about it.

I find online dating to be a great "last resort" option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. Guys, especially in a town like DC, are pretty aggressive. Just try finding the online profiles of the guys who have a better chance of being the nice guys. They are out there. Look to the geeky types, etc.

Pretty much all guys here are nerdy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A little Shyness is a personality trait - nothing that requires therapy - good grief!!

Unless you're in your thirties and stressing about meeting people. If it's a hindrance to her happiness she should address it.

It's only about meeting a significant other. I have tried online dating but 95 percent of the guys are the same as in person. They just want to sleep with me! I don't dress in a provocative way either and I'm friendly with everyone I meet. I don't think the problem is me but maybe the type of people I attract. I notice that the women who are in relationships easier and faster are the types to be more open sexually and who are aggressive or just very loud and outgoing. I'm not though. In other areas of life, like for business, I am very aggressive and a natural people person. I get along with about all types I meet. So is this therapist a dating coach? or maybe I should just try my luck in another country.

Yes. A therapist.

[Anonymous]

Eharmony

Eharmony

Eharmony

Eharmony

Eharmony


There. Fixed your problem.

Its an excellent tool for finding someone you're compatible with. Site would likely set you up with 30 something, introverted guys who share your traditional value set, sex drive, drug and alcohol use/avoidance, interests and are equally as aggressive as you are at work. Plus its one of the more expensive sites so you'll weed out a ton of losers who are just looking for a quick hookup with anyone.

Now go find yourself a husband.

(At least sign up for it and see who they match you with...you dont have to actually meet any of them but at least you'll see men who are similar to you).

Saved you a trip to the therapist.

[Anonymous]

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I didn't think so before but now I do think a trip to the therapist would be beneficial.

Lot of pill poppers on here making suggestions.

Nope, not a pill popper. I just know signs of potential deeper issues when I see them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eharmony

Eharmony

Eharmony

Eharmony

Eharmony


There. Fixed your problem.

Its an excellent tool for finding someone you're compatible with. Site would likely set you up with 30 something, introverted guys who share your traditional value set, sex drive, drug and alcohol use/avoidance, interests and are equally as aggressive as you are at work. Plus its one of the more expensive sites so you'll weed out a ton of losers who are just looking for a quick hookup with anyone.

Now go find yourself a husband.

(At least sign up for it and see who they match you with...you dont have to actually meet any of them but at least you'll see men who are similar to you).

Saved you a trip to the therapist.

I was looking for the same sort of guy. EH was pretty useless for me and had the same ten local guys who were on Match, OKC, PoF,
and every other site, but a more cumbersome interface for communicating.

Ultimately I found DH on a specialty dating site geared toward our religion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eharmony

Eharmony

Eharmony

Eharmony

Eharmony


There. Fixed your problem.

Its an excellent tool for finding someone you're compatible with. Site would likely set you up with 30 something, introverted guys who share your traditional value set, sex drive, drug and alcohol use/avoidance, interests and are equally as aggressive as you are at work. Plus its one of the more expensive sites so you'll weed out a ton of losers who are just looking for a quick hookup with anyone.

Now go find yourself a husband.

(At least sign up for it and see who they match you with...you dont have to actually meet any of them but at least you'll see men who are similar to you).

Saved you a trip to the therapist.

I was looking for the same sort of guy. EH was pretty useless for me and had the same ten local guys who were on Match, OKC, PoF,
and every other site, but a more cumbersome interface for communicating.

Ultimately I found DH on a specialty dating site geared toward our religion.

PP here...forgot to add that I am not actually religious.

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same boat as OP. I found online dating to be full of guys who just wanted to hook up or just weren't interested in pursuing a relationship with me. I have given up.

[Anonymous]

Word of advice. If you go on OKCupid, do not fill out any of the sex questions that reveal any kind of intention or promiscuity. Just fill out the ones that DO broadcast your intentions (would have sex on the first date, how long will it take you to have sex with a new partner, etc).

For the guys who look at those questions, that alert them that you are unlikely on there just for a hookup. And then for guys that contact you, look at their answers to those questions and you can find the ones with similar values.

[Anonymous]

I met my dh at a meetup event (a pub crawl). I actually had good luck joining a women's group first and making friends with some single women. It was great for networking as well as having like-minded friends to attend events with. Since the focus of events isn't dating, there's a lot less pressure. Some of the women I met are still very close friends. Many of them also met their husbands at meetups. Another plus is that most meetups are free to join.

[Anonymous]

My super shy virgin cousin met a guy on eharmony.

[Anonymous]

Several museums have/had social "mixer" event series. Smithsonian, Corcoran (before the GW & Smithsonian acquisition).
Social events sponsored by bookstores and coffee shop plus places (e.g. Politics & Prose bookstore, Busboys and Poets coffee shop, etc.)

University alumni associations, young professional organizations, outfits like Friends of the Potomac Gorge/ Appalachian Trail/ Rock Creek Park, etc.

You might also find social connections through things like biking , running , rowing , hiking club-type organizations.

Do tell if any of the above are a possibility or (better) help.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

volunteer, join groups where you're doing something you enjoy - running or weaving or whatever

somewhere you can be yourself but preferably not online

its mostly for hook ups these days - gone are those late 1990s when people fell in love for real

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can meet a nice boy in church.

+1 Also, political groups, volunteer organizations, internet match-making, and lastly--groups that rescue labs and golden retrievers--and I'm not kidding about the latter, based on what I hear from young women at work!