Jen Hatmaker

[Anonymous]

The dynamic of this relationship is so lopsided. Jen presents a "teach me, oh perpetually oppressed marginalized man" and he is more than willing to inhabit that role. She gives and he takes and then buys her coffee creamer and puts in an appearance at her talks, in his current town.

May you all be blessed with friends who speak truth to your life, even when it hurts, to spare you years of embarrassment and heartache. As the Proverb goes- the wounds of a friend are faithful....

[Anonymous]

Jen never intended to be single in her late forties. She said she was prepared to ride out her marriage to the death despite the addiction, deception and celibacy. Had he not had the affair they might still be together in their hidden hell.

Her overachiever ethos had hurt her with post divorce recovery. Cause for her to have value she needs to be winning and the very best at all the things. So rather than slowly wading into dating Tyler she decided they were all whole and healthy and this was it for the rest of their lives. When things got intense and messy with him she determined she could work extra hard to keep it together. Those of us who didn’t marry our first love at 19 could have told her it shouldn’t be this hard this early in a romance, run baby run. There’s way more fish in that sea. It’s not failure to cut bait on a bad catch it’s wisdom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jen never intended to be single in her late forties. She said she was prepared to ride out her marriage to the death despite the addiction, deception and celibacy. Had he not had the affair they might still be together in their hidden hell.

Her overachiever ethos had hurt her with post divorce recovery. Cause for her to have value she needs to be winning and the very best at all the things. So rather than slowly wading into dating Tyler she decided they were all whole and healthy and this was it for the rest of their lives. When things got intense and messy with him she determined she could work extra hard to keep it together. Those of us who didn’t marry our first love at 19 could have told her it shouldn’t be this hard this early in a romance, run baby run. There’s way more fish in that sea. It’s not failure to cut bait on a bad catch it’s wisdom.

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[Anonymous]

The Jen+Tyler thing is the cringiest “romance” ever.
The sooner she cuts bait with this guy the better. She’s just feeding his narcissism fuel at this point. Why can’t she see it?

[Anonymous]

Jen needs to find a quiet, stable guy who isn’t like her. Someone who’s super thirst for constant public affirmation and praise and who isn’t always performing in one way or another. Tyler is basically the male version of herself but even more calculating.

[Anonymous]

Super feminist alpha girl boss Jen is basically doing all the work and desperate heavy lifting in the “relationship” while he just sits back passively and let’s her. Like a couple from the 50s. Jen is making sure Tyler’s slippers are near the door and a roast is in the oven when he comes home.

[Anonymous]

He replied he got his cookbook (because she gave it to him) and her ig reply to him: this was a love purchase by a lactose intolerant vegetarian

On a vacation, she brought him a copy and posted about him reading it. She’s desperate to take any micro action of his and spin it into a love action. It’s cringe.

[Anonymous]

Brace yourselves: Her newest podcast episode has posted. It’s just her, giving relationship advice to all, and gushing about herself and Tyler. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Like a couple from the 50s. Jen is making sure Tyler’s slippers are near the door and a roast is in the oven when he comes home.

Yes, but at least Ward Cleaver made good money and came home and kept order and complimented June on her cooking and work at home.

Her overachiever ethos had hurt her with post divorce recovery. Cause for her to have value she needs to be winning and the very best at all the things. So rather than slowly wading into dating Tyler she decided they were all whole and healthy and this was it for the rest of their lives. When things got intense and messy with him she determined she could work extra hard to keep it together. Those of us who didn’t marry our first love at 19 could have told her it shouldn’t be this hard this early in a romance, run baby run. There’s way more fish in that sea. It’s not failure to cut bait on a bad catch it’s wisdom.

1000%


But as high-achieving as Jen is, she lacks so much wisdom. Tell me at least one of her friends said that she needed to cool it on the Tyler "relationship". Are her friends not speaking up or is she not listening?

[Anonymous]

Many of you need to look yourselves in the mirror and question “where does my anti-miscegenation bias come from?”, “what makes me so uncomfortable with romantic love between a White woman and Black man that I need to invalidate their relationship any way I can?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many of you need to look yourselves in the mirror and question “where does my anti-miscegenation bias come from?”, “what makes me so uncomfortable with romantic love between a White woman and Black man that I need to invalidate their relationship any way I can?”

Please. Insert any rage you want into The Tyler Merritt “Project” and the reality would be the same.

[Anonymous]

Race not rage.

[Anonymous]

Can someone please recap for me what is so bad about her relationship with Tyler? Aside from how she rushed into it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please recap for me what is so bad about her relationship with Tyler? Aside from how she rushed into it?

It’s just that it’s Loo sided

She’s all in (see book dedication)
He does not reciprocate her public affection and instead negs and disparages her in a “funny” way (typical for an insecure ego w someone he knows is more accomplished and acclaimed)
He’s selfish-bachelor until 45. She goes to him or his preference nyc. Rarely is he seen in her space and she’d promote it for sure
He doesn’t even reply to her ig comments directed at or about him
When they’re in camera together, he corrects her a lot bc he wants to prove himself to her crowd I think
She actually looks uncomfortable and backs down for him

It’s just pathetic and not authentic and she so desperately wants it to be as real as she speaks about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: It’s just that most people don’t have to process their breakups, trauma, and rebounds so publicly.

Jen doesn't have to either. She's chosen this. It's not like she's a child star being forced to live in the public eye. Everything she has shared with the world about her rebound relationship was 100% her choice.