Male Acquaintance Claims He Was Raped by His Girlfriend
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Anonymous
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I am a woman. I have a male acquaintance, distant friends of friends. I have had some rather odd interactions with him at lunches or dinner or happy hour gatherings. I recently learned that a few years ago while serving in the U.S. military as enlisted, he tried to report a rape while he was passed out from too much drinking. At first, I thought he was sexually assaulted or sodomized by another man, and he claimed the authorities refused to take his statement.
However, I have since learned that his claim is that a woman at his house raped him when he was too tired to refuse. He says they then went to her house, where she raped him again. He then claims she used guilt to make her be his girlfriend for months, using the guilt of the rape. He claims he specifically told her he did not want to have sex with her that night and he did not want to be in a relationship with her. However, he claims that he was essentially forced to have a relationship with her as boyfriend/girlfriend because she used the guilt of forcing him to have sex with her that one night, against his will at his house and then later at her house. I find his rape claim, and his years spent as a victim of rape, very troubling. I also don't believe him. If it matters, this is a man who weighs over 200 pounds and is over six feet tall. My perspective is that perhaps he was victimized as a child, and this event was a trigger event for him. Or, perhaps he was actually the one who raped her, and thought he would claim she raped him instead. Or, he believes his story. Perhaps he doesn't understand the legal definition of rape or sodomy. What is your opinion? Is this a normal or healthy way for a grown man to process this event? |
Anonymous
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The man is clearly mentally ill. Probably suffered with child neglect or abuse.
Ask about his childhood. |
Anonymous
| I really wouldn't think about this strange man, or his weird stories, anymore. |
Anonymous
| Men can be raped by females. |
Anonymous
| If he didn't consent to sex, she raped him. |
Anonymous
| Why the hell is he confiding in you w that OP? You're acquaintances through a mutual friend? Wtf? |
Anonymous
He is Facebook friends of my friends. And he posts about it on his FB page. He has made it public. I somehow stumbled on the postings from my friends. |
Anonymous
| If a guy sleeping with a drunk female who is black out drunk can be considered rape then I see no reason why the same doesn't apply. Double standards cannot exist in these scenarios. If you're too drunk to consent and that's considered rape, it does not matter if they are male or female. |
Anonymous
| How does a guy have sex when he's passed out drunk? |
Anonymous
| His size and weight are irrelevant. Men are also victims of domestic violence from much smaller women, as are women who under normal circumstances would be physically able to withstand their abusive male spouses. |
Anonymous
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Is he naming the woman in his FB page? Is it common knowledge who she is?
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Anonymous
I suppose people know she was his girlfriend for months, which he claims he was forced into a relationship with her against his will after the night she raped him. |
Anonymous
| I despise the way male rape victims are treated. The statistics for justice through the courts is dismal. |
Anonymous
It can "be considered" nothing else. Same here. If he was too drunk to consent, it's rape. What I find incredibly odd about his story isn't the rape. I can't get around pretending to be her boyfriend for months. That's just too bizarre to contemplate. |
Anonymous
| What about double rape? When both people are too drunk to consent, but so it anyways and feel terrible the next day. what do two rapes make? |