Male Acquaintance Claims He Was Raped by His Girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about double rape? When both people are too drunk to consent, but so it anyways and feel terrible the next day. what do two rapes make?

Blame the man of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about double rape? When both people are too drunk to consent, but so it anyways and feel terrible the next day. what do two rapes make?

Walk of shame? That's what they used to call it when you got drunk and hooked up with the undesirable female.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about double rape? When both people are too drunk to consent, but so it anyways and feel terrible the next day. what do two rapes make?

Blame the man of course.

I'm serious. I want to know what these people think. If both are too drunk to give consent (had happened to be and don't feel I was raped, but was not happy about my poor choice) therefore both are rapists, how does this work? How would charges play out?

[Anonymous]

I have an old friend (now just a FB friend) who makes a similar claim, only it is in a religious rather than military context - he was considering a vocation as a priest, dated a female clergy member, and has accused her of raping him.

I think it's possible for a man to be raoed by a woman, but I have a hard time believing his claims, mostly because he and I had a sexually ambivalent friendship and he turned out to have major, major sex and body issues and guilt and hang ups and all kinds of layers and layers of weird things going on. I can totally see him wrapping his head in a pretzel and believing himself to have been raoe through coercion when he would clearly have consented to the sex as far as his girlfriend was concerned. I have empathy for the pain he is in but I feel awful for the woman he accused, who has faced enormous public attention because if the rape accusation.

[Anonymous]

Could it be true? Sure. But he does sound like he could be from the land of Makeeupea.

[Anonymous]

I'm just struggling with the physicalities of male rape. Like is she pinning him down and riding it? He had no thrust - and was saying "stop" and she still "forced herself on him"?

I guess I can see that - but isn't it more likely he said no - then got physically aroused and then he moved forward with sex? I can see how if you flip the roles it's still rape so I guess I should extend that to him, but it's tough right? I mean the physical act if intercourse - HE is penetrating HER makes it hard to feel too awful for him.

[Anonymous]

And ya - rape aside a the pretending to be boyfriend thing is just kookoo

[Anonymous]

I would just steer clear of this person, whatever the truth may be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does a guy have sex when he's passed out drunk?

Anyone?

[Anonymous]

I have been raped by a woman...but it was a different circumstance, and was statutory (I was 13, she was in her 30's and the mother of a friend...).

But, this sounds like BS.

[Anonymous]

Is he an MRA guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just steer clear of this person, whatever the truth may be.

So victims of rape (especially male) are pariahs who deserve to be shunned?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he an MRA guy?

What's that?

[Anonymous]

I don't think he's saying he was passed out - he was "too tired" to resist.

[Anonymous]

This may not be PC to say, but as a Female, I don't see how a man can be raped physically. I mean, wouldn't he have to sustain an erection for the duration of intercourse? And to sustain an erection, wouldn't he have to be aroused and orgasm?

Also, this guy stated he was "passed out drunk."

So how the heck can he remember anything that happened at all if he was out stone cold?