So ladies, would you date a virgin?

[Anonymous]

This is a bit hypothetical obviously so bear with me. Say you have a man in his 30's or 40's and he's still a virgin, indeed has never been kissed or had a girlfriend before. He doesn't want to wait till marriage but was raised in a religious family and had self-esteem issues growing up. He's now trying to break out of his shell and start dating. Would you date him?

[Anonymous]

If I were still single, yes.

[Anonymous]

could be incredibly erotic, but I'd have to know more about him.

[Anonymous]

It's not a deal breaker, if he has a lot of other things going for him.

I'd MUCH rather date a virgin who had some hurdles getting his self esteem in line, and got to it later than average in life, than a 30/40 year old momma's boy who still pampers and takes care of her baby boy.

[Anonymous]

Yes, no bad habits to break.

[Anonymous]

Sounds kind of hot to me.

[Anonymous]

Huge red flag. No.

[Anonymous]

No way. I've been having sex for twenty years, I don't have time to go through those awkward growing pains.

I just can't imagine the kind of emotional baggage that would come from someone being a 40 year old virgin. No, no, no.

[Anonymous]

No way. Sounds like he has intimacy issues.

[Anonymous]

I dated a 40 year old virgin. He was very successful and ultra religious and conservative. Like many in that category he had some weird sexual hang ups. At first I found him fun but it got boring pretty fast because he could only function under certain circumstances. Luckily I wasn't looking for anything serious. Don't expect anything serious and don't stick around too long. Recognize the red flags for what they are.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't even consider it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a bit hypothetical obviously so bear with me. Say you have a man in his 30's or 40's and he's still a virgin, indeed has never been kissed or had a girlfriend before. He doesn't want to wait till marriage but was raised in a religious family and had self-esteem issues growing up. He's now trying to break out of his shell and start dating. Would you date him?

Aside from his inexperience in the bedroom, is he ambitious and funny? smart? independent?

There are other qualities to look for in a man, too.

I'd ask those questions if I were single.

[Anonymous]

Yes. My husband was a virgin (34yo) when I met him. We have a great relationship, married 8 years now.

[Anonymous]

I did. I was a virgin, too. We're happily married, 2.5 kids.

[Anonymous]

This is an irrelevant detail for me. There are many other factors that I look at and this isn't one of them. His current feelings regarding religion would be more important than the status of his sex life.