So ladies, would you date a virgin?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he looked like Chris Hemsworth, sure.

Short of that, HELL to the naw.

LOL. x2.

[Anonymous]

No way. Seems like a red flag to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. As long as he did not have a problem with me not being a virgin, and was open to learning about sex and intimacy.

How is the person in his 30-40s can be open to learn about sex if he didn't care to learn about it in past 10 years? People don't change much at that age.

[Anonymous]

I married one like this. I thought his unwillingness to do certain things was inexperience, but no, it was his huge hang ups that probably had a lot to do with why he was a virgin at 30. His ability to satisfy me helped ruin the marriage. I am talking about basic stuff here.

[Anonymous]

I would if everything else fell in place. It would definitely be a red flag for me, but not a deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

No way. I hope you recognize that his virgin status is a mere symptom of much larger problems!

[Anonymous]

A lot of these Hell Nos would become Hell Maybes upon learning that Mr. Virgin had other, positive, stuff going on for him, that helped balance out the strangeness, and maybe had just finished up therapy and getting his emotional issues in order, so he's ready to move on.

I think the assumption is just that a virgin must either be hideous, or have an obnoxious personality, or must have cucku religious beliefs. He would have to demonstrate otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of these Hell Nos would become Hell Maybes upon learning that Mr. Virgin had other, positive, stuff going on for him, that helped balance out the strangeness, and maybe had just finished up therapy and getting his emotional issues in order, so he's ready to move on.

I think the assumption is just that a virgin must either be hideous, or have an obnoxious personality, or must have cucku religious beliefs. He would have to demonstrate otherwise.

There are no amount of positive qualities that would make me date a 35/40 year old man who has never even been kissed, let alone had sex with a woman. Luckily I'm not the only woman in the world, so I'm sure he'll find someone. It just wouldn't be me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. As long as he did not have a problem with me not being a virgin, and was open to learning about sex and intimacy.

How is the person in his 30-40s can be open to learn about sex if he didn't care to learn about it in past 10 years? People don't change much at that age.

I will not assume things. I will need to know for myself if he is open or not, because he could be a very nice person and have many good qualities and I would not want to miss out on that.

In short, I would treat him exactly like I treat all other men I date. I do not assume anything and I find out for myself if that person is worth my time or not.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Because I've had enough lovers in my lifetime that it could be an issue for an inexperienced guy. I've been down that road before, and it didn't end well. (the guy was very jealous of my perceived greater experience, though I pointed out to him that with his 4 previous 2-3 year relationships, he'd probably had more actual sex than I had in my spottier history.)

the answer might be different if I was in my 20's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Because I've had enough lovers in my lifetime that it could be an issue for an inexperienced guy. I've been down that road before, and it didn't end well. (the guy was very jealous of my perceived greater experience, though I pointed out to him that with his 4 previous 2-3 year relationships, he'd probably had more actual sex than I had in my spottier history.)

the answer might be different if I was in my 20's.

I'm the guy with the history you mention and my wife has probably been with over 25 men. I think we have taught each other some things and personally, some of her stories turn me on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of these Hell Nos would become Hell Maybes upon learning that Mr. Virgin had other, positive, stuff going on for him, that helped balance out the strangeness, and maybe had just finished up therapy and getting his emotional issues in order, so he's ready to move on.

I think the assumption is just that a virgin must either be hideous, or have an obnoxious personality, or must have cucku religious beliefs. He would have to demonstrate otherwise.

I'm a NP, but I'm a "No", and it wouldn't change if he had other great qualities. I invested 15 years of my life into a man with intimacy issues, and it has brought me incredible pain. If we divorce, and I ever date again, I will not go anywhere near a man with intimacy issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Because I've had enough lovers in my lifetime that it could be an issue for an inexperienced guy. I've been down that road before, and it didn't end well. (the guy was very jealous of my perceived greater experience, though I pointed out to him that with his 4 previous 2-3 year relationships, he'd probably had more actual sex than I had in my spottier history.)

the answer might be different if I was in my 20's.

This sounds like a different issue. Your bf was uptight about you not being near-virginal. That can happen, even if the guy is a total slut, due to double standards. Presumably, an old virgin would be not be so quick to throe stones, given his own situation.

[Anonymous]

The virginity issue would be a red flag for me about intimacy issues but I would consider dating if he was really awesome.

The dealbreaker for me would be that he had never kissed anyone. Even if he had a really conservative family and some self esteem issues, making to age 30 or 40 without even a kiss would scare me away.