Is your husband inconsiderate with food?

[Anonymous]

How would you handle it if your DH constantly ate all the food in the house? He doesn't sleep at night and is up at all hours. I will wake up to find entire boxes of granola bars, pop tarts, etc. gone. If I pack lunch or tell him I am saving something for myself later it is guaranteed to be gone. We live with my mom and he eats her food as well and that causes tension. I had wrapped candy as a gift and I found it opened and gone. I drink coffee in the mornings and he used the last of the creamer without saying anything. Even if I make a pot of coffee he will drink the entire thing before I can even get to a second cup. He doesn't have a weight problem. Only thing I can think of is he recreationally smokes pot (another disagreement) and maybe that makes him too hungry. He isn't fat. He's skinny because he refuses to eat normal meals during the day but then does this at night for the most part. I'm considering putting a lock on the cabinet and putting my own food in it so he can't touch it. Is anyone else's husband like this? I am so frustrated.

[Anonymous]

I think this is a way bigger issue than food.

[Anonymous]

I am s dh and do all the food shopping. So no I am not inconsiderate with food or I would have to get more. Your husband sounds like a loser though.

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like your husband has an eating disorder. He sounds very much like me when I had bulimia. The fact that he can't control himself when he knows you want/need a particular food the next day is telling. So is the fact that he gets into the wrapped candy that you intended as a gift. Red flags.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, this sounds a lot more than being inconsiderate. Time to sit down and have a serious talk (preferably when he's not high).

[Anonymous]

So you both aren't eating dinner together? Or sleeping together? Because he's too busy up eating. Huge issues.

Why isn't he sleeping?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you both aren't eating dinner together? Or sleeping together? Because he's too busy up eating. Huge issues.

Why isn't he sleeping?

He doesn't eat during the day because he doesn't have a car and works from home and can't go anywhere. When we grocery shop he buys himself mostly junk no matter what I say. Then he skips dinner because he doesn't want to eat at the table with my mom because they don't get along. I don't know why he doesn't sleep at night or how to fix it. He tries unisom etc but they don't help him at all.

[Anonymous]

Eating disorder person again. He stays up all night in order to binge and purge.

The marijuana may have been the trigger for this. The fact that he doesn't eat meals is very telling. So is the fact that he eats only junk, but is thin. C'mon.

[Anonymous]

Also: he drinks the entire pot of coffee before you can even get a second cup -- another sign of bulimia.

[Anonymous]

OP, does your husband really work during the day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you both aren't eating dinner together? Or sleeping together? Because he's too busy up eating. Huge issues.

Why isn't he sleeping?

He doesn't eat during the day because he doesn't have a car and works from home and can't go anywhere. When we grocery shop he buys himself mostly junk no matter what I say. Then he skips dinner because he doesn't want to eat at the table with my mom because they don't get along. I don't know why he doesn't sleep at night or how to fix it. He tries unisom etc but they don't help him at all.

I think you need to speak to a doctor. Prescription sleep aids like ambien work a lot better than unisom. He also needs to see a doctor for his blood workup, cholesterol, etc.

I'm with the person who thinks he might be purging. Are his teeth bad?

[Anonymous]

Do you all love each other? He sounds like a major mooch. Doesn't respect your mom, eats all your food and doesn't sleep in your bed. I think I could put up with that 6 months tops before he's kicked to the curb.

[Anonymous]

His story makes no sense.

If he is up all night and working all day he never sleeps, ever. He "needs" to eat junk food because he can't eat at the table with you mother? He needs to open your candy and eat your mother's food?

OP, look at your toilets. How much time does he spend in the bathroom.

Get up in the night. What is happening?

What happens after he drains the coffee pot? Does he go into the bathroom?

[Anonymous]

The short answer to your question is no.

[Anonymous]

You have serious, serious problems. I would start locking food up, but that won't solve the problems. Look into getting him medical help and marriage counselling, stat. Unwrapping a gift and eating it is more than just hungry and lazy. He uses drugs, disrespects your mother, doesn't eat meals with you or sleep in your room? Food is the least of your problems.