This age discrepancy due to "redshirting" is ridiculous

[Anonymous]

That's not happening.

[Anonymous]

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OK, here we go, again, HOW MANY NON Aug/Sept kids are being red-shirted? Not many! This is just a non-issue and the only ones complaining are the ones sending their AUG/SEP birthday kid. And to that I say, make a choice and respect others' choices. Amen! If your kid is not an Aug/Sep birthday, please stop threading about this issue as it in NO WAY impacts your DC.

Great statement.

Except it's false.

Of course, it impacts my children. It changes the standards and expectations of the elementary school classroom. I'm not wild about my children going to middle school with 15 year-olds and to high school with 20-year-olds.

If, as a parent, you believe that your child is too young for the curriculum as it stands, then you can choose to send your child a year later. It is your right and can be a good move for many children. Don't let people tell you you have to send your 4 year old just because he or she turns five before 30 September.

(I have yet to see large numbers of 15 year olds in middle schools or 20 year olds in high schools, so that"s not a big factor to worry about.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's not fair is sending a 4 yr old to full day kindergarten.

So by your logic, a child should never go to day care at an early age and very limited preschool if any. The child is basically five, give or take a few weeks. Either a child is ready or not but to hold them back over a few weeks makes no sense. I have a September child so this does impact us and our plan is to send him. What ever skills he is behind on, we will work with him at home and help him "catch up." Academics come easy as he's reading at 3 and starting to write. He can spend hours doing school work and loves the structured activities at preschool. What would not be fair to him is to have to move him as he cannot stay at 5 at his preschool to a play based preschool where there are few academics being taught. At that point, Kumon, playground and other activities would better meet his needs. He needs to be in a structured learning program and parents today are anti-learning at earlier ages so there are very few private programs around that would meet his needs. Hence, K. is the right choice. Some kids aren't ready. Some kids are. Let those kids ready go. How does it harm your child by having a 4 year old/11 months start with your 5 year 5 month child? It doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OK, here we go, again, HOW MANY NON Aug/Sept kids are being red-shirted? Not many! This is just a non-issue and the only ones complaining are the ones sending their AUG/SEP birthday kid. And to that I say, make a choice and respect others' choices. Amen! If your kid is not an Aug/Sep birthday, please stop threading about this issue as it in NO WAY impacts your DC.

Great statement.

Except it's false.

Of course, it impacts my children. It changes the standards and expectations of the elementary school classroom. I'm not wild about my children going to middle school with 15 year-olds and to high school with 20-year-olds.

OMG. Stop being so ridiculous. Go get a hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's not fair is sending a 4 yr old to full day kindergarten.

So by your logic, a child should never go to day care at an early age and very limited preschool if any. The child is basically five, give or take a few weeks. Either a child is ready or not but to hold them back over a few weeks makes no sense. I have a September child so this does impact us and our plan is to send him. What ever skills he is behind on, we will work with him at home and help him "catch up." Academics come easy as he's reading at 3 and starting to write. He can spend hours doing school work and loves the structured activities at preschool. What would not be fair to him is to have to move him as he cannot stay at 5 at his preschool to a play based preschool where there are few academics being taught. At that point, Kumon, playground and other activities would better meet his needs. He needs to be in a structured learning program and parents today are anti-learning at earlier ages so there are very few private programs around that would meet his needs. Hence, K. is the right choice. Some kids aren't ready. Some kids are. Let those kids ready go. How does it harm your child by having a 4 year old/11 months start with your 5 year 5 month child? It doesn't.

Good God, lady. Take a breath. No need to freak out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OK, here we go, again, HOW MANY NON Aug/Sept kids are being red-shirted? Not many! This is just a non-issue and the only ones complaining are the ones sending their AUG/SEP birthday kid. And to that I say, make a choice and respect others' choices. Amen! If your kid is not an Aug/Sep birthday, please stop threading about this issue as it in NO WAY impacts your DC.

Great statement.

Except it's false.

Of course, it impacts my children. It changes the standards and expectations of the elementary school classroom. I'm not wild about my children going to middle school with 15 year-olds and to high school with 20-year-olds.

OMG. Stop being so ridiculous. Go get a hobby.

Hopefully your snowflakes will learn math skills outside the home. Break the I-don't-know-how-to-add cycle!

[Anonymous]

So by your logic, a child should never go to day care at an early age and very limited preschool if any. The child is basically five, give or take a few weeks. Either a child is ready or not but to hold them back over a few weeks makes no sense. I have a September child so this does impact us and our plan is to send him. What ever skills he is behind on, we will work with him at home and help him "catch up." Academics come easy as he's reading at 3 and starting to write. He can spend hours doing school work and loves the structured activities at preschool. What would not be fair to him is to have to move him as he cannot stay at 5 at his preschool to a play based preschool where there are few academics being taught. At that point, Kumon, playground and other activities would better meet his needs. He needs to be in a structured learning program and parents today are anti-learning at earlier ages so there are very few private programs around that would meet his needs. Hence, K. is the right choice. Some kids aren't ready. Some kids are. Let those kids ready go. How does it harm your child by having a 4 year old/11 months start with your 5 year 5 month child? It doesn't

I think the people on this board that have the problem are the ones that think everyone should send their child on time--ready or not.

[Anonymous]

Just because your child has the academics does not mean he is ready. However, if he is comfortable with his peer group and can sit and do structured activities, he may be fine. Good luck with high school.

[Anonymous]

How does a kid being 1 to 60 days OLDER impact your kid?? It doesn't!! Most kids being held are Aug/Sep birthdays and would have been 4 when KG began. Again, you are making an issue out of a kid being 15 days older than the next oldest child! What gives - what is your REAL issue???

[Anonymous]

The REAL issue is that some of them feel guilty about sending their children and want you to send yours so that they won't feel guilty.

[Anonymous]

That's what I thought! Very typical.

[Anonymous]

Or, if you keep your September kid back, then their October kid won't be the oldest!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The REAL issue is that some of them feel guilty about sending their children and want you to send yours so that they won't feel guilty.

Yep! If someone is unsure of their own decision, it is not uncommon to feel uncomfortable with those who have made a different choice. Seeing others making different choices makes people feel guilty about their own choices.

[Anonymous]

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(I have yet to see large numbers of 15 year olds in middle schools or 20 year olds in high schools, so that"s not a big factor to worry about.)

Was the trend as pronounced 10-15 years ago as it is now?

Though, I don't anticipate "large numbers" of children 2 years behind. I do anticipate large numbers of children one year behind (where large numbers equals >25% in a given environment). And a few outliers who are 2 years behind. It used to be only a few outliers were 1 year behind, so I am curious where things will stand in another 10-15 years.

I also wish I could flash forward and see what the children who were redshirted or not do with their own children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The REAL issue is that some of them feel guilty about sending their children and want you to send yours so that they won't feel guilty.

Or don't want to shell out for one more year if preschool...