NCS Parents - "I wish I had known x" type advice.

[Anonymous]

First of all 12:30 and 13:07 it was not the rigor of the school. Implying that those who document problems with the culture of the school just couldn't cut it academically, are ludicrous. Many of my child's friends were at or near the tippy top academically. Even if they weren't what is your point? Someone has to be in the bottom half. Someone needs to be in the middle third.

I am telling you, girls from every group were miserable and suffered mentally and physically or both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know it's difficult to admit that our DD is not up to the challenge, but did any of you disgruntled NCS moms consider the possibility that your daughters might be better off in a less rigorous school?

Exactly. My daughter has aspirations far beyond playing tennis and exercising to the latest Denise Austin video. If she can't survive high school imagine what a miserable failure she would be as a CEO or political leader. There are plenty of easy schools, NCS is not one of them.

Very interesting posting. I enjoyed the academic rigor of Ncs. However, I do think the school sent the message that you need to be a CEO or Secretary of State in order to be seen as successful. You can't just be a doctor – you have to be dean of the medical school or Surgeon General. You can't just be an attorney and have a career position at a not so sexy agency somewhere - You need to be Atty. Gen. Most people just have normal jobs and when they die no one knows they really existed other than the family or friends. And you know what? There is nothing wrong with that. You do not need to be a superstar. It is okay just to be family medicine doctor, or a law firm partner, or a
Attorney at the FCC. It took me a really long time to realize that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it's difficult to admit that our DD is not up to the challenge, but did any of you disgruntled NCS moms consider the possibility that your daughters might be better off in a less rigorous school?

Disgruntled NCS parent here. My DD had a very high GPA and concurrent confidence about her academic abilities. Her unhappiness was not at all related to the workload but to the competitive atmosphere. They are two different things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know it's difficult to admit that our DD is not up to the challenge, but did any of you disgruntled NCS moms consider the possibility that your daughters might be better off in a less rigorous school?

Exactly. My daughter has aspirations far beyond playing tennis and exercising to the latest Denise Austin video. If she can't survive high school imagine what a miserable failure she would be as a CEO or political leader. There are plenty of easy schools, NCS is not one of them.

I do not know any student at NCS who fits this description of aspiring only to play tennis and exercise to Denise Austin videos. not a one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:7:03 you seem so knowledgable, please do share your expertise on survivorship at NCS, no doubt your DD thriving?
Please share your positive experiences with the school! Without identifying yourself of course,I think you are a troll...or your daughter has not yet started at the school...let me guess, incoming....?

Of course, we are again back to this old trope: if your DD is doing well at NCS, you must be a troll, or mean yourself, or you DD just hasn't gotten into the mean grades yet. *yawn* So tiresome.

[Anonymous]

What's tiresome is you relentlessly defending a school known to have difficulties with its girls' competitiveness, crippling perfectionism, and self-consciousness. If you really want this thread to go away (and clearly you do), stop responding and bringing it back into discussion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's tiresome is you relentlessly defending a school known to have difficulties with its girls' competitiveness, crippling perfectionism, and self-consciousness. If you really want this thread to go away (and clearly you do), stop responding and bringing it back into discussion.

Please allow people to agree to disagree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's tiresome is you relentlessly defending a school known to have difficulties with its girls' competitiveness, crippling perfectionism, and self-consciousness. If you really want this thread to go away (and clearly you do), stop responding and bringing it back into discussion.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's tiresome is you relentlessly defending a school known to have difficulties with its girls' competitiveness, crippling perfectionism, and self-consciousness. If you really want this thread to go away (and clearly you do), stop responding and bringing it back into discussion.

I'm a disgruntled NCS who has posted several times on this thread but I would never argue with a parent who is happy. There are some, I don't know of any, but I'm sure they exist and they are entitled to their opinion. I'm glad there are some happy kids there. I wish there were more of them.

If there are any parents of girls in 11th and 12th grade, especially, who are happy, I would love to hear from them. When my daughter was younger I posted defenses of this school -- possibly on this thread because its been going on for so long.

[Anonymous]

I think that parents of some of these girls are what is driving the intensely competitive atmosphere--- not the school/administration itself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's tiresome is you relentlessly defending a school known to have difficulties with its girls' competitiveness, crippling perfectionism, and self-consciousness. If you really want this thread to go away (and clearly you do), stop responding and bringing it back into discussion.

I'm a disgruntled NCS who has posted several times on this thread but I would never argue with a parent who is happy. There are some, I don't know of any, but I'm sure they exist and they are entitled to their opinion. I'm glad there are some happy kids there. I wish there were more of them.

If there are any parents of girls in 11th and 12th grade, especially, who are happy, I would love to hear from them. When my daughter was younger I posted defenses of this school -- possibly on this thread because its been going on for so long.

Thanks for allowing that there might actually be happy girls as opposed to accusing anyone who says that of lying. It is refreshing that someone on this thread can actually admit that some girls can love the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that parents of some of these girls are what is driving the intensely competitive atmosphere--- not the school/administration itself.

Yes. Though the NCS moms are characterized as "mean moms," they are really uber competitive. I'll leave others to speculate about why. I just don't think it's a healthy environment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that parents of some of these girls are what is driving the intensely competitive atmosphere--- not the school/administration itself.

+ 1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's tiresome is you relentlessly defending a school known to have difficulties with its girls' competitiveness, crippling perfectionism, and self-consciousness. If you really want this thread to go away (and clearly you do), stop responding and bringing it back into discussion.

I'm a disgruntled NCS who has posted several times on this thread but I would never argue with a parent who is happy. There are some, I don't know of any, but I'm sure they exist and they are entitled to their opinion. I'm glad there are some happy kids there. I wish there were more of them.

If there are any parents of girls in 11th and 12th grade, especially, who are happy, I would love to hear from them. When my daughter was younger I posted defenses of this school -- possibly on this thread because its been going on for so long.

Thanks for allowing that there might actually be happy girls as opposed to accusing anyone who says that of lying. It is refreshing that someone on this thread can actually admit that some girls can love the school.

The question I have is this: Will those NCS apologists similarly allow that there are many unhappy girls at NCS, as opposed to accusing anyone who says so of lying, being unqualified, sour grapes, etc? It would be refreshing for the NCS defender to actually admit that many girls find the school's atmosphere difficult.

[Anonymous]

Which brings back the question, WHY ARE YOU THERE?