How do you find a guy worthy marrying at nearly 37?

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If you have that height rule, you need to move to Colorado or pnw, Idaho, Dakotas, Wyoming, etc

Dc is shorter than most places in the us.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Sloppy man alert. There is a reason he is divorced. Find a man who focused on career achievements vs early life marriage. No need to dumpster dive.

PP here, far from it, my friend is very successful, in part their careers being far apart made it hard for them (I'm friends with both of them).

But hey, being judgmental is a great way to never end up with anyone. I mean, what if they're divorced something must be wrong but if they're still single must be something wrong, so just give up?

No offense, but unless you have been in an intimate relationship with him you don't know how he ( or she is as a partner) there's a lot of great and successful people out there that make good friends, even great boyfrends, but terrible husbands.

I can absolutely understand throwing out guys with kids for obvious reasons. But a guy could be divorced in his upper 30s for plenty of reasons, some being that the wife was terrible. To restrict that potential dating pool seems foolhardy to me.

The pool of guys who are divorced in their late 30s just because their wife was terrible and through no fault of their own is extremly small Trust me on this.

Second wives are very good at convincing themselves that wife #1 was "terrible" because it makes them feel less like they are getting sloppy seconds. So I've heard this a lot.

What's funny is that most of these women should be thanking those first wives. I know a number of men who made all their stupid man mistakes in their first marriage. Then when they remarry, they understand very acutely aware of what it takes to be a good partner because the messed it up so badly the first time. I've seen this happen more than once. Some okay guy is a crappy husband to first wife, who gets fed up and dumps him, and then he suddenly gets it together for second wife when he realizes he is not capable or interesting enough to survive as a single person for long.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

I don't feel guilty about it. I have spent my life as the tall girl/woman and guys were not giving me a chance because she may be really nice even if she is a few inches taller than me. I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a guy who is at least my height in bare feet.

That’s your choice. I think you are really oblivious just how much your age has reduced your market power.

Even 37 year old leggy model, actress, “baddie” types have to compromise on baggage or height.

Hope it works out for you but the value of dcum is unvarnished truth — it is exceedingly rare that you will lock down a 5’9+, not-fat, never married, childless dude.

Yes I may as well die. I'm 37, just a bag of crap and should be willinb to accept anything with a penis at this point.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

I don't feel guilty about it. I have spent my life as the tall girl/woman and guys were not giving me a chance because she may be really nice even if she is a few inches taller than me. I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a guy who is at least my height in bare feet.

That’s your choice. I think you are really oblivious just how much your age has reduced your market power.

Even 37 year old leggy model, actress, “baddie” types have to compromise on baggage or height.

Hope it works out for you but the value of dcum is unvarnished truth — it is exceedingly rare that you will lock down a 5’9+, not-fat, never married, childless dude.

Yes I may as well die. I'm 37, just a bag of crap and should be willinb to accept anything with a penis at this point.

No you shouldn’t — that wasn’t the tone of my post at all.

We’re trying to help you here.

Have you looked to move out of dc? You need to go to the mountain west. Your height hang ups are way more satisfied out there.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

I don't feel guilty about it. I have spent my life as the tall girl/woman and guys were not giving me a chance because she may be really nice even if she is a few inches taller than me. I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a guy who is at least my height in bare feet.

That’s your choice. I think you are really oblivious just how much your age has reduced your market power.

Even 37 year old leggy model, actress, “baddie” types have to compromise on baggage or height.

Hope it works out for you but the value of dcum is unvarnished truth — it is exceedingly rare that you will lock down a 5’9+, not-fat, never married, childless dude.

Yes I may as well die. I'm 37, just a bag of crap and should be willinb to accept anything with a penis at this point.

This is a bit much. I’m 33 and have literally dated or talked to dozens of single guys meeting this criteria in the past few months. You may want better dating profile photos though, if you are doing dating apps.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

I don't feel guilty about it. I have spent my life as the tall girl/woman and guys were not giving me a chance because she may be really nice even if she is a few inches taller than me. I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a guy who is at least my height in bare feet.

That’s your choice. I think you are really oblivious just how much your age has reduced your market power.

Even 37 year old leggy model, actress, “baddie” types have to compromise on baggage or height.

Hope it works out for you but the value of dcum is unvarnished truth — it is exceedingly rare that you will lock down a 5’9+, not-fat, never married, childless dude.

Yes I may as well die. I'm 37, just a bag of crap and should be willinb to accept anything with a penis at this point.

This is a bit much. I’m 33 and have literally dated or talked to dozens of single guys meeting this criteria in the past few months. You may want better dating profile photos though, if you are doing dating apps.

33 isn’t 37.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

I don't feel guilty about it. I have spent my life as the tall girl/woman and guys were not giving me a chance because she may be really nice even if she is a few inches taller than me. I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a guy who is at least my height in bare feet.

That’s your choice. I think you are really oblivious just how much your age has reduced your market power.

Even 37 year old leggy model, actress, “baddie” types have to compromise on baggage or height.

Hope it works out for you but the value of dcum is unvarnished truth — it is exceedingly rare that you will lock down a 5’9+, not-fat, never married, childless dude.

Yes I may as well die. I'm 37, just a bag of crap and should be willinb to accept anything with a penis at this point.

This is a bit much. I’m 33 and have literally dated or talked to dozens of single guys meeting this criteria in the past few months. You may want better dating profile photos though, if you are doing dating apps.

33 isn’t 37.

Move along incel. Your schtick is boring.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

I don't feel guilty about it. I have spent my life as the tall girl/woman and guys were not giving me a chance because she may be really nice even if she is a few inches taller than me. I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a guy who is at least my height in bare feet.

That’s your choice. I think you are really oblivious just how much your age has reduced your market power.

Even 37 year old leggy model, actress, “baddie” types have to compromise on baggage or height.

Hope it works out for you but the value of dcum is unvarnished truth — it is exceedingly rare that you will lock down a 5’9+, not-fat, never married, childless dude.

Yes I may as well die. I'm 37, just a bag of crap and should be willinb to accept anything with a penis at this point.

No you shouldn’t — that wasn’t the tone of my post at all.

We’re trying to help you here.

Have you looked to move out of dc? You need to go to the mountain west. Your height hang ups are way more satisfied out there.

You are not beimg helpful. You are spouting incel nonsense talking points.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have that height rule, you need to move to Colorado or pnw, Idaho, Dakotas, Wyoming, etc

Dc is shorter than most places in the us.

There are no men in DC between 5 9" and 5'11. Interesting.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

I don't feel guilty about it. I have spent my life as the tall girl/woman and guys were not giving me a chance because she may be really nice even if she is a few inches taller than me. I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a guy who is at least my height in bare feet.

That’s your choice. I think you are really oblivious just how much your age has reduced your market power.

Even 37 year old leggy model, actress, “baddie” types have to compromise on baggage or height.

Hope it works out for you but the value of dcum is unvarnished truth — it is exceedingly rare that you will lock down a 5’9+, not-fat, never married, childless dude.

Yes I may as well die. I'm 37, just a bag of crap and should be willinb to accept anything with a penis at this point.

This is a bit much. I’m 33 and have literally dated or talked to dozens of single guys meeting this criteria in the past few months. You may want better dating profile photos though, if you are doing dating apps.

This is true. I just use selfies and photos done with friends etc, no professional photos.

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OP, of course keep looking online. Percentages these days says that’s where you’ll meet. But keep doing activities you enjoy with an eye open to meeting someone.

Just as an aside, do not use professional photos on dating sites. There are so many catfish and scammers that do, that anyone else who does is unconsciously filtered into that bucket.

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What were you doing at 27 or 30?

Most men are snatched up by 37. DH was married with 3 kids at 37. Most decent men are married in their 30s. You should open up your criteria to divorced men or men with kids.

I recently met a beautiful tall successful single woman. I doubt she would just settle for some random loser. Apparently she wasted her prime years on a relationship that didn’t work out. She goes on dates almost every night.

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Just keep at it on the apps. Date like it's your job. Make sure you have great pics that show you in a fun light. I had a pic of me with a friend's dog licking my face that got a lot of positive comments from guys when I was dating.

You will meet him eventually.

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Anonymous wrote:What were you doing at 27 or 30?

Most men are snatched up by 37. DH was married with 3 kids at 37. Most decent men are married in their 30s. You should open up your criteria to divorced men or men with kids.

I recently met a beautiful tall successful single woman. I doubt she would just settle for some random loser. Apparently she wasted her prime years on a relationship that didn’t work out. She goes on dates almost every night.

Oh, come on. Lots of us were doing our best at 27 or 30 and things just didn't work out. My boyfriend at 30 finally admitted he actually did not want kids. Glad I didn't marry him just because I was 30! 10 years later, he never had kids (I did - it was important to me).

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What places? I'm a happily married man, but I have single male friends in that age range.

Primarily dating apps and websites. Meeting people in person is extremely difficult.

What's difficult about meeting in person? My single male friends in that age range often don't use apps. The reason is they assume (correctly or not) that any woman on there is getting inundated with messages from guys, and it's also less personal.

Try in person.

It’s harder post covid due to masking. That’s a huge barrier to serendipitous meeting

This has gotta be a troll. OP laments there are no good men, then has an excuse for every suggestion.

I was in some bars on Friday that had outdoor terraces. Everyone was unmasked. I even walked up and talked to random people. Amazing!