How do you find a guy worthy marrying at nearly 37?

[Anonymous]

Seems all the good ones are already married.

[Anonymous]

By that line of thinking all the good potential wives are already married. Are you trying to marry up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By that line of thinking all the good potential wives are already married. Are you trying to marry up?

I mean, it does seem that both statements are probably true. Desirable partners are definitely snatched up by somebody before their childbearing years are sunsetting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By that line of thinking all the good potential wives are already married. Are you trying to marry up?

I'm trying to marry a good man. I don't care that much about salary or social standing. But it seems all the normally suggested places are full of not good guys and the good ones are already married so where does one look?

[Anonymous]

There should be some good ones back on the market after they get divorces.

[Anonymous]

You’re going to get a lot of replies from people who don’t know that in 2021 all dating happens online. I got married at 27 (I’m 36 now). I was in the very last months of meeting people somehow other than online. At this point no one chats potential dates up at coffee shops or bars anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By that line of thinking all the good potential wives are already married. Are you trying to marry up?

I'm trying to marry a good man. I don't care that much about salary or social standing. But it seems all the normally suggested places are full of not good guys and the good ones are already married so where does one look?

What places? I'm a happily married man, but I have single male friends in that age range.

[Anonymous]

My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Unfortunately, I haven't had a lot of success with the guys online. They have been very skeevy or flakey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By that line of thinking all the good potential wives are already married. Are you trying to marry up?

I'm trying to marry a good man. I don't care that much about salary or social standing. But it seems all the normally suggested places are full of not good guys and the good ones are already married so where does one look?

What places? I'm a happily married man, but I have single male friends in that age range.

Primarily dating apps and websites. Meeting people in person is extremely difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Unfortunately, I haven't had a lot of success with the guys online. They have been very skeevy or flakey.

You need to weed them out better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re going to get a lot of replies from people who don’t know that in 2021 all dating happens online. I got married at 27 (I’m 36 now). I was in the very last months of meeting people somehow other than online. At this point no one chats potential dates up at coffee shops or bars anymore.

+1 you need to online date. There are plenty of men late 30s/early 40s. Plenty. You can’t sit around hoping you will meet them in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Unfortunately, I haven't had a lot of success with the guys online. They have been very skeevy or flakey.

Keep looking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Unfortunately, I haven't had a lot of success with the guys online. They have been very skeevy or flakey.

You need to weed them out better.

+1

[Anonymous]

Get off DCUM. Get off the internet/social media in general.
Talk to 3 new men each day. Around your age. Try to be smart about it and look to see that they don't obviously have a wedding ring. Talk and converse smartly so you are in a particular situation where you aren't likely to put yourself in danger.

Ask your most stable, responsible friends to set you up.