How do you find a guy worthy marrying at nearly 37?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Sloppy man alert. There is a reason he is divorced. Find a man who focused on career achievements vs early life marriage. No need to dumpster dive.

PP here, far from it, my friend is very successful, in part their careers being far apart made it hard for them (I'm friends with both of them).

But hey, being judgmental is a great way to never end up with anyone. I mean, what if they're divorced something must be wrong but if they're still single must be something wrong, so just give up?

No offense, but unless you have been in an intimate relationship with him you don't know how he ( or she is as a partner) there's a lot of great and successful people out there that make good friends, even great boyfrends, but terrible husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There should be some good ones back on the market after they get divorces.

It's probably silly of me, but I don't want to date a divorced guy. I'm sure there are some great ones out there. But I just don't think I'm ready to go down that road of ex-wives, step kids etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Then change to 6’ and up and you will get some that are 5’9” and up

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Sloppy man alert. There is a reason he is divorced. Find a man who focused on career achievements vs early life marriage. No need to dumpster dive.

PP here, far from it, my friend is very successful, in part their careers being far apart made it hard for them (I'm friends with both of them).

But hey, being judgmental is a great way to never end up with anyone. I mean, what if they're divorced something must be wrong but if they're still single must be something wrong, so just give up?

No offense, but unless you have been in an intimate relationship with him you don't know how he ( or she is as a partner) there's a lot of great and successful people out there that make good friends, even great boyfrends, but terrible husbands.

So, so true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There should be some good ones back on the market after they get divorces.

It's probably silly of me, but I don't want to date a divorced guy. I'm sure there are some great ones out there. But I just don't think I'm ready to go down that road of ex-wives, step kids etc.

I would try expanding your search criteria for a month, including height, and see who you meet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Ok. Your preference. You will miss great guys because of it though.

Go where the guys are. Martial arts, rock climbing or whatever hobby fits your lifestyle. Take a class. Whatever. You could have your religious group set you up if you are religious.

[Anonymous]

OP, would you rather be single or date a man who is 5’7”?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Sloppy man alert. There is a reason he is divorced. Find a man who focused on career achievements vs early life marriage. No need to dumpster dive.

I did both. At age 30 I had a PhD, a good job, a house, and a wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Sloppy man alert. There is a reason he is divorced. Find a man who focused on career achievements vs early life marriage. No need to dumpster dive.

PP here, far from it, my friend is very successful, in part their careers being far apart made it hard for them (I'm friends with both of them).

But hey, being judgmental is a great way to never end up with anyone. I mean, what if they're divorced something must be wrong but if they're still single must be something wrong, so just give up?

No offense, but unless you have been in an intimate relationship with him you don't know how he ( or she is as a partner) there's a lot of great and successful people out there that make good friends, even great boyfrends, but terrible husbands.

I can absolutely understand throwing out guys with kids for obvious reasons. But a guy could be divorced in his upper 30s for plenty of reasons, some being that the wife was terrible. To restrict that potential dating pool seems foolhardy to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend is 35, good guy, just got divorced (they just got married too young and grew apart, no kids). He meets people online.

Sloppy man alert. There is a reason he is divorced. Find a man who focused on career achievements vs early life marriage. No need to dumpster dive.

PP here, far from it, my friend is very successful, in part their careers being far apart made it hard for them (I'm friends with both of them).

But hey, being judgmental is a great way to never end up with anyone. I mean, what if they're divorced something must be wrong but if they're still single must be something wrong, so just give up?

No offense, but unless you have been in an intimate relationship with him you don't know how he ( or she is as a partner) there's a lot of great and successful people out there that make good friends, even great boyfrends, but terrible husbands.

I can absolutely understand throwing out guys with kids for obvious reasons. But a guy could be divorced in his upper 30s for plenty of reasons, some being that the wife was terrible. To restrict that potential dating pool seems foolhardy to me.

The pool of guys who are divorced in their late 30s just because their wife was terrible and through no fault of their own is extremly small Trust me on this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

I don't feel guilty about it. I have spent my life as the tall girl/woman and guys were not giving me a chance because she may be really nice even if she is a few inches taller than me. I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a guy who is at least my height in bare feet.

[Anonymous]

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What places? I'm a happily married man, but I have single male friends in that age range.

Primarily dating apps and websites. Meeting people in person is extremely difficult.

What's difficult about meeting in person? My single male friends in that age range often don't use apps. The reason is they assume (correctly or not) that any woman on there is getting inundated with messages from guys, and it's also less personal.

Try in person.

It’s harder post covid due to masking. That’s a huge barrier to serendipitous meeting

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your search criteria are too restrictive? Are you open to different ethnicities? I know a great guy around that age, and a big catch, but in a less-preferred ethnicity on American dating websites.

I don't have a racial criterion the only restriction I have is 5"9 and above and I still get guys who are 5"7.

Height restrictions are even more cringe than racial ones.

I don't feel guilty about it. I have spent my life as the tall girl/woman and guys were not giving me a chance because she may be really nice even if she is a few inches taller than me. I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a guy who is at least my height in bare feet.

That’s your choice. I think you are really oblivious just how much your age has reduced your market power.

Even 37 year old leggy model, actress, “baddie” types have to compromise on baggage or height.

Hope it works out for you but the value of dcum is unvarnished truth — it is exceedingly rare that you will lock down a 5’9+, not-fat, never married, childless dude.