Wanted: blunt truths from strangers about this marriage

[Anonymous]

Not a chance.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your DH has some major control (and likely other) issues. If he sees how they are impacting you and the family and wants to address them then this marriage can be saved. If not, obviously divorce him. The separate finances is a real red flag here for me. You’re married, you should be a team.

[Anonymous]

So, higher earner, most likely the H, doesn't drive?

Anyway, you both suck at this. Make man a sammich if that's all it takes to make him happy and initiate sex whenever you want it.

"Higher earner has a heavier workload and stress level and relies on lower earning partner to be on first for house responsibilities" Pretty typical. Work it out like adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:… no sex periods ….

You could have posted just that and I’d have told you to divorce

[Anonymous]

Yeah nope. Doesn’t drive, thinks making 25% more entitles him to do 100% less AND wants a vegan household? Boy bye.

Make sure the custody arrangement stipulates he drives 50% pickups/drop offs and make sure you get every dime you’re entitled to and with your new job you should be in good shape. Enjoy the rest of your life!

[Anonymous]

Either fix the sex problem or get divorced. The rest all stems from that. At this point though, it is circular, so you might need couples therapy to get to a point where you could even want to touch each other. Otherwise, divorce.