Former colleague messaged me on the ‘gram

[Anonymous]

I agree with PPs that this isn’t a big deal - it’s normal to feel flattered and attracted and excited, and you kept that boundary. What does it mean that he felt comfortable flirting with you? Probably nothing more than the fact that he’s a very good looking man who is used to those doors being open to him, and who gets away with a lot more then less attractive men, without seeming creepy - simply because he’s hot. It probably has very little if anything to do with whatever vibe you put out. Regardless, you did nothing wrong.

[Anonymous]

OP here, thought I would give an update. Went abroad immediately after this whole “Instagram incident” (I’m saying this jokingly), to meet the c suite of my new company. They are all men. They all interacted with me as if I am the most charming person they have met in a long time, and I got vibes from all of them, so I think I just need to keep the wall up. I think after being home for 2 years I forgot what men are like. They just want to be charmed! And apparently I missed charming people! That says something about my ego more than anything else.

It was of course a rude awakening when I got home and my baby was throwing up all over me, and my husband was being himself (which is to say, sweet but frustrating and not exciting at times). We’re good m vacation now and are planning a weekend away from the kids, but I would be lying if I said I’m not thinking about this Instagram message still. It’s annoying and it means something about myself. I guess this is grown up marriage, not doing the things you want to do.

[Anonymous]

You sound childish and full of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Send it to the news so he'll resign like cuomo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound childish and full of yourself.

Actually she sounds thoughtful and self-aware, you on the other hand sound like your comment - childish and selfish.

[Anonymous]

There will always be men who act on attraction whether they are married or not. You can't prevent that but you can control your own reaction to it which it sounds like you did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound childish and full of yourself.

I think women that aren't used to male attention are very easily flattered. I remember women like this from my Office, the same piece of crap had already hit on me half dozen times and they would come waltzing in like they were truly the hottest thing since slice bread . I remember also having one of those cheesy creeps in our underground give me a card and tell me I could be a model to call (5'5" and 26--ha! okay buddy)..and I was laughing about it with a co-worker and one of these ditzs came barging in to tell us 'OMG, guys some guy just scouted me!"

OP- the first thing I think of when I read your account is this guy is a MAJOR player. He wants to get laid. Period. You are an easy target and being groomed. All of these loser men and women try it with married people desperate for affection/validation. It's low-hanging fruit.