Does every kids event have to involve food?

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Anonymous wrote:OP maybe you need a second opinion. My DD has bad food-triggered eczema and the allergist sAys the best thing we can do is a very intense cream + bathing regimen and encouraging all of the foods even the trigger foods. She says this is the best way DD can grow out of the allergies.

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I can't believe only one person has brought this up. Both of my kids have severe eczema, as do many family members. We have seen lots of doctors and our allergist has always said to eat normally and treat the eczema. Not eating the trigger foods makes it worse, their bodies need to get used to them and that's how they eventually outgrow them. OP, you need a second opinion and frankly the fact that you are depriving your kid of all of these foods when that's not the standard medical advice gives me major pause here.

Same. My daughter had severe eczema. We followed the guidelines on bathing and using lotions. We were told to allow her to eat normally. She eventually outgrew it. Chlorine was a huge trigger for her. The allergist encouraged us to get her in the pool.

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I don't think you'll be able to change anything OP, but yes, I would agree, I'd prefer either fruit or simple crackers or something or nothing at all. A bag of chips after once-a-week t ball doesn't really bother me, but yea if that were happening several days a week, and especially at PLAYDATES (why...?), that would get to me.

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I think it’s very telling that Americans would rather smear their children with steroids instead of laying off the Doritos and whatever fell into the vat at the Kraft factory. I battled on and off horrible eczema for 20 years due to a gluten and dairy allergy and then topical steroid withdrawal in my late twenties for two years because my parents were told food allergies couldn’t possibly be causing my skin issues and to just smear on more creams. Children don’t NEED junk, they eat it because parents are lazy and don’t want to cook. Kids are perfectly fine with fresh fruit and vegetables and meat and fish. An apple and some carrot sticks is a snack, not Pirates Booty and granola bars that have more sugar that a Snickers. The western diet is killing all of us slowly, the rest of the world sees it, Americans just refuse to admit it.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like an eating disorder to me. It's very fashionable to blame all sorts of things on gluten or wheat or dairy or eggs. But there is absolutely no scientific proof that they are the cause of anything. Doctors are just fobbing you off because they don't know.

I’m OP, it’s not an eating disorder, he can eat those foods. He will happily eat those foods. But in a matter of hours his skin turns horrid. We have worked with several allergists and two specialists in eczema. No one has been fobbing us off, they’ve actually been extremely helpful and sympathetic. For now all we can do is avoid the foods. He does great with meat, rice, coconut milk, most fresh fruit and veggies minus corn and tomato (corn in particular is tough), fish, shrimp, etc. Hes not starving by any means, but we have yet to find any treats that don’t cause an issue unless I bake them at home with alternative flours and other things.

Helpful and sympathetic, sure. Because you are paying them but they are not giving you any real advice. And all you are doing is making your kid neurotic about food. Maybe not now. But wait.

Huh? What other advice do you recommend? He eat the food that makes him break out in a full body rash? Get wet wrapped at the hospital (yep, we have done that)?

OP, just stop responding. There are people out there who don’t believe allergies exist, vaccines cause autism and the moon landing was an elaborate farce.
It is what it is.

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I agree with you, op! So glad our soccer teams only do oranges. But the swim meets are out of control with the snack bar and the buddy gifts stuffed with candy. I pack plenty of foods and my kids end up eating crap (and no I’m not giving them money)

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You must pack food for your kid. You can't possibly expect thousands of kids that he will be in some contact with to change their habits for him. As PPS said.
However, why would you post eczema in your title? None of that sounds like eczema, it sounds like severe allergies that for now are not causing an anaphylactic shock but might in the future.
I think perhaps you are focusing on this as it is easier to worry about, rather than the whole fact that your child has serious, life-threatening allergies that will impact his life. Understandable to lash out about something that your kid finds difficult. Yet, the bigger battle of keeping your kid safe is ahead for years to come.
Is there any chance of some immunoglobulin shots to manage his allergies? I got those as a kid for other allergies, but not for food. It helped me tremendously. I could not touch or smell flowers without breaking out in a rash, getting a migraine, and having rashes on my body for days.

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My kids play soccer and basketball and so far no snacks offered - maybe this is a Covid thing?

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You have to man up and bring your own food, OP.

You can not make your problems be other people's problems. Other people will not feel your pain, that is not how the world works. Better you and your kid figure that out now.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like an eating disorder to me. It's very fashionable to blame all sorts of things on gluten or wheat or dairy or eggs. But there is absolutely no scientific proof that they are the cause of anything. Doctors are just fobbing you off because they don't know.

I’m OP, it’s not an eating disorder, he can eat those foods. He will happily eat those foods. But in a matter of hours his skin turns horrid. We have worked with several allergists and two specialists in eczema. No one has been fobbing us off, they’ve actually been extremely helpful and sympathetic. For now all we can do is avoid the foods. He does great with meat, rice, coconut milk, most fresh fruit and veggies minus corn and tomato (corn in particular is tough), fish, shrimp, etc. Hes not starving by any means, but we have yet to find any treats that don’t cause an issue unless I bake them at home with alternative flours and other things.

DP. But, you clearly said it is things in a can of a box? That sounds like he has an allergy to a material in those packaging. Gluten and dairy do cause eczema, I have that. I have a severe dairy allergy and had eczema-like nuts, nothing you described sounds like eczema at all. Are you working with pediatric allergies? Bcs what you wrote makes no sense. I have severe allergies, and what you describe is hardly eczema.
It sounds like the allergy to that chemical in Pfizer and Moderana vaccines. In fact, what you described is exactly what my sister got after getting her first dose of Pfizer. The culprit was that Polyethylene Glycol.

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Anonymous wrote:My youngest has severe eczema. We have met with several specialists and over the course of a year have identified what flares him up- wheat, dairy, eggs, corn, tomatoes, chocolate, nuts, preservatives, annatto, sorbitol, and some others. Basically anything that comes in a box or can triggers hives and then skin that looks like third degree burns on his neck, torso, legs, arms, back and cheeks. It’s absolutely miserable and takes weeks to clear up a flare. I travel with our own snacks but it’s so damn hard when every single kids event involves food that he cannot eat. He’s 5 and he understands that he can’t have that sort of stuff and we are praying that he outgrows his allergies, and I honestly don’t want to take away the joy of food for anyone else but I just want one kids event that doesn’t involve food. Swim team celebrates every meet with boxes of donuts. The meets themselves involve snacks that are candy bars and chips. Piano gives away lollipops and other candy as prizes. Baseball does ice cream after every game. Soccer does cookies. School does pizza parties and ice cream. Every play date involves chips, gummies, etc. I know it’s just bad eczema and nowhere near the stresses of anaphylactic allergies that other parents have to deal with, but it’s just tiring. Give me one school event or sports practice where everyone eats fruits and veggies to celebrate. Anyway, I know this is a first world problem and I wouldn’t dare bring this up anywhere but an anonymous forum so this is just a rant.

OP, I brought this up in “Why American Don’t Give a F About What They Eat” thread.

I can’t believe the amount of junk food our kids get from other people on daily basis.

This is purely an American thing. Nowhere else in the world kids are rewarded with do much junk. Americans believe their kids will die of starvation if they don’t eat for 3 hours. No other nation hauls around bags of goldfish crackers, chips, bars, etc everywhere they go.

Also, we have record obesity and diabetes rates.

This. I think I mentioned this in that thread too. When I first moved to the US with my then toddler, I was really shocked to see that strollers had cup holders and snack trays...and thst people put snacks straight onto the plastic trays in front of kids while they push them around the mall or wherever. Strollers aren't even made that way in other countries, and it doesn't occur to most people to feed kids on the move like that. Nobody needs to eat all the time. it's really weird.

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Did you do blood tests for food allergies? I presume yes? What did they come up with?
I mean such severe allergies surely showed up in the test? I was told that as I was eating dairy, basically my immune system was shot to hell and flare-ups were constant and it was not the other foods, not really, it was that I had to wait to clear from dairy for weeks.

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Anonymous wrote:The baseball coach every season 'assigns' each parent to provide a snack after every event. It's a snack schedule. T-ball, transitional ball, etc. are all 1 hour events. Kids don't need a snack every week. It's a hassle for the parents. The kids don't need chips and they already have their water bottle. Gimme a break!

When my kids were younger and DH coached (soccer and hockey) the first email he sent out included at "we will not be doing snacks" paragraph. You'd be surprised at the pushback he got, but mostly from parents whose kids were transitioning from rec to travel (where it's really not a thing as they get older/better).

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I don't food for playdates at our house. Maybe apple slices if my kid asks. There were no snacks at soccer last year or ice skating.

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Anonymous wrote:OP maybe you need a second opinion. My DD has bad food-triggered eczema and the allergist sAys the best thing we can do is a very intense cream + bathing regimen and encouraging all of the foods even the trigger foods. She says this is the best way DD can grow out of the allergies.

+100
I can't believe only one person has brought this up. Both of my kids have severe eczema, as do many family members. We have seen lots of doctors and our allergist has always said to eat normally and treat the eczema. Not eating the trigger foods makes it worse, their bodies need to get used to them and that's how they eventually outgrow them. OP, you need a second opinion and frankly the fact that you are depriving your kid of all of these foods when that's not the standard medical advice gives me major pause here.

DP. I just saw this thread, clearly after you guys, and this is on point. How is the kid having flares for weeks from food? The diagnosis makes no sense! I say this as ap person who has food allergies and eczema. I posted after your guys. This makes no sense at all, the list of foods that cause eczema! How is eczema causing hives?

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This absolutely sounds like allergies to plants or something in the environment.
Honestly, op, I hate to say it, but it sounds like doctors do not have a clue and are guessing.