My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t consider these friends to be as close as you perceive them to be?

But she lies. They ask how Larla is, and she lies and says she’s doing great.

People ask to be polite, not because they really care how Larla is and your cousin knows this. She may share with true, close friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t consider these friends to be as close as you perceive them to be?

But she lies. They ask how Larla is, and she lies and says she’s doing great.

OMG OP! Omitting personal info, especially about a child’s health IS NOT A LIE!!! It is protecting her child from vicious gossip. For all you know her child might have asked her not to tell people.

[Anonymous]

She doesn’t want to share her daughter’s private info?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t consider these friends to be as close as you perceive them to be?

But she lies. They ask how Larla is, and she lies and says she’s doing great.

Are you serious?

The daughter can have scoliosis and still be doing great.

And — news flash — you have idea what your other friends aren’t telling you, because you don’t have inside knowledge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It puts me in an awkward position where I know everyone shares and is being honest, and she acts like things are fine even when they are not.

No, you really don't know this at all. Everyone on the planet, you included, has things they share and other things they keep private. You just happen to have the advantage that one of your friends is your cousin so you know more about her. As to your other friends, all you know is what they present to the world. You don't live in their homes and get in bed with them every night. They too pick and choose what they share, you just are clueless about it.

[Anonymous]

Your cousin doesn’t owe any of you details of her life unless she decides to communicate them.


Grow up.

[Anonymous]

I’m a pretty private person about some things. For instance, I don’t really discuss marital issues etc with friends. I likely wouldn’t go into detail about my kids’ health.

Just because you want to share personal info doesn’t mean the person you are sharing with owes you theirs.

[Anonymous]

I’m glad everyone seems to be in agreement on this one. So weird to feel like you are owed details about another persons personal life.

[Anonymous]

That is so none of your business. She shares whatever she wants to share. Deep conversation my ass. You have too much free time on your hands.

[Anonymous]

Some people don’t dwell on the negative. Instead of bemoaning the curvature of their child’s spine, they feel lucky that there’s a minimally invasive way to correct the problem and they move on. These “glass is half full” types feel blessed that these are the biggest problems they have and they genuinely don’t believe they have anything they need to commiserate about. They’re the happiest people. Maybe your cousin really does feel like everything is great. If so, you should be happy for her.