SIL keeps ruining plans

[Anonymous]

You do know you're the crazy one in this scenario, right, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bring food for the kids! That way, if dinner is late, you can feed them, and of course you're free to bring them home and put them to bed on your schedule. Done.

This. Easy and obvious solution.

OP is a troublemaker putting this on her SIL when she really ought to be providing food for her own kids. Why would SIL not feed the kids? It's not her responsibility.

Are you as stupid as you sound here? SIL INVITED the family over for dinner. You FEED your guests. All of them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bring food for the kids! That way, if dinner is late, you can feed them, and of course you're free to bring them home and put them to bed on your schedule. Done.

This. Easy and obvious solution.

OP is a troublemaker putting this on her SIL when she really ought to be providing food for her own kids. Why would SIL not feed the kids? It's not her responsibility.

Are you as stupid as you sound here? SIL INVITED the family over for dinner. You FEED your guests. All of them

So if your host had not gotten dinner on and your kids were hungry to the point of crying you wouldn't leave and go feed them? As a parent, you wouldn't have a snack on hand for them?

SIl may be a bad hos, but OP AND her husband are bad parents.

[Anonymous]

Does your sil think your kids are autistic because they are so rigid? Have you had them tested?

She shouldn't spread rumors. A child is usually flexible enough to eat dinner an hour later. I deal with a lot of kids who are on the spectrum and rigidity with food and schedule is usually one of the signs. You dislike your sister in law so of course her observation isn't coming from a good place.

Your bil should enjoy time with your kids and I'm glad he is coming out to visit. Have a lovely time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can't you just say, "Actually Barb, this time we'd really like to host at our house."

+1

And: "It works better for our kids, so we want to take our turn this time. We'd love for you all to join us."

"And our kids want to show BIL their stuff. "

[Anonymous]

Maybe OP simply sucks as a hostess, cook and they hate her cooking and her organization skills? (probably a slob!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. BIL1 stood up to SIL and is coming to our house Monday. He’s taking the subway out and DH will drive him back. Our family is too cheap to use Uber or rent cars.

I generally try to keep my kids away from SIL since she spread nasty rumors about them. I do usually keep snacks for the kids, but didn’t have them last week when we were there.

What millionaire is too cheap to use uber? What culture are you all from? Crazy rich cheap .....?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People, this is not about the food.

It’s about SIL wanting to change the venue when OP has invited everyone to her house.

OP, I would tell SIL that the kids really want their uncle to see their rooms and bikes (or whatever) and that it’s just easier to have everyone at your house with dinner time and bedtime issues with the kids. Stand firm.

But this isn't true. OP has been very clear that she only invited BIL2 for the dinner at her house. She purposely excluded BIL1 and SIL from the invitation because she wants to keep SIL away from her children. She was fine accepting the invitation to SIL's house but does not want to invite SIL to her house. OP is the rude one in my book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, this is not about the food.

It’s about SIL wanting to change the venue when OP has invited everyone to her house.

OP, I would tell SIL that the kids really want their uncle to see their rooms and bikes (or whatever) and that it’s just easier to have everyone at your house with dinner time and bedtime issues with the kids. Stand firm.

But this isn't true. OP has been very clear that she only invited BIL2 for the dinner at her house. She purposely excluded BIL1 and SIL from the invitation because she wants to keep SIL away from her children. She was fine accepting the invitation to SIL's house but does not want to invite SIL to her house. OP is the rude one in my book.

OP here. No, I'm a chef. I made portabello wellington last time and a slew of vegan dishes because my SIL is a health nut and all she did was complain. Both of my BILs apologized for her behavior. She pulled all the portabellos out so only she could eat them, claiming that she needed the nutrients more. My own kids didn't even get a bite.

Inviting BIL over alone is for our family to spend alone time with DH's brother, without the other brother's wife complaining and butting in all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bring food for the kids! That way, if dinner is late, you can feed them, and of course you're free to bring them home and put them to bed on your schedule. Done.

This. Easy and obvious solution.

OP is a troublemaker putting this on her SIL when she really ought to be providing food for her own kids. Why would SIL not feed the kids? It's not her responsibility.

Are you serious? If you invite the entire family to your house, you feed everyone. What's wrong with feeding the kids? Are you that cheap that you can't even order them pizza or make mac and cheese?

I used to have relatives like YOU, PP. Key word "used to". I no longer invite them to my house or go to theirs. They were awful to my child.

[Anonymous]

OP, your story isn’t quite adding up. If BIL had no way to get to your house, were you expecting SIL and other BIL to drive him there? Is the real reason SIL kept changing things is maybe that no one wanted to make the 30min drive to your house to allow you to have your children played with by BIL?

The whole thing “they millionaires but won’t take an Uber or get a hotel” doesn’t doesn’t ring true with me.

[Anonymous]

I used to want to change the venue for family things, my house was bigger, had multiple bathrooms, was brighter and easier to move around in. I told myself I was helping, doing something nice. In all reality I was being judgmental and rude to assume someone would rather gather at my house, just because I liked it better. But it wasn't ill-intentioned at the time, just immature. I also was having a bad time in my marriage and life, and this felt like a distraction or something I could contribute or control. Is SIL proud of her house, and also maybe struggling with something else? Maybe feels more secure in her own home?

I wouldn't take it so personally, but I would not let her take over either.she needs to make her own plans.when she says let's do my house, then say well we could come by on Tuesday, but for sunday we are sticking with our dinner plans.

Idk, it's hard to explain but I don't think its nefarious.

[Anonymous]

And make plans to go pick BIL up.

[Anonymous]

She pulled out all the mushrooms from a dish, so she alone could eat them?

Ok, I thought OP was a bit... but just no, your SIL is crazy, rude, self-entitled biatch beyond compare! You should have posted that on Instagram or something. Next time film her and post on Youtube.
No advice here, your SIL is insane!

Team OP all the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bla, bla, bla, I do not believe a word this op posted.

Duck takes whoo ooh!