are second husbands/wives hotter than the first one or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend’s first wife is stunning, just stunning but incredibly difficult to live with. His second is pretty and a much nicer person. They are very happy.

This sounds like my situation. My husbands first wife is gorgoeus but unstable. I had my kids at 38 and 40 and l am heavier than her, who had them young (she is tall and thin like a model but with big boobs). I am decent looking but not a stunner like her. I'm no saint by any means but don't make him miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH’s first wife was hot in a very Barbie doll way. They are from the Deep South and he grew up with women wearing full face makeup and wigs or extensions. They married very young and she was completely dependent on him both financially and around the house. Most importantly, she was unfaithful while he was deployed.

I’d say that I’m hot, but in a completely different way. I almost never wear any makeup and might put on a little lip stain for planned photos. I prefer to wear my hair natural and up. I like fixing things and I have a career. Most importantly, I don’t cheat.

14 years between marriages. He dated a lot of women of all types in between.

That's great, of course. But in the majority of 2nd marriages, somebody did cheat and which is why they are on the market. It is risky business, subsequent marriages without good track records (75% end in divorce).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 50-something ex husband is currently dating a woman in her young/mid 30s. She is no doubt pretty but youth beats beauty, and the second wife of a successful man will be younger.

Not always. I had a former boss (biglaw partner) whose second wife was an age-appropriate c-suite type. He was looking for a peer/companion, not a second family or more kids. The point was to not re-do the years of heavy domestic focus. I don't see how it's possible to generalize here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No idea. We only have “firsts” in my family, for generations.

Your going to be in for surprise. I have heard this from friends but then their adult kids end up marrying, divorcing and trying to blend families. Rinse and repeat. Life is long. It will happen.

Or refusing to marry at all because they saw so many unhappy marriages go on for decades with no escape except death.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For wealthy, powerful men, generally yes, but for everyone else it depends.

Wealthy powerful men don’t date particularly hot women. Examples: Gates, Bezos, Musk.

Musk’s second wife was hotter but that relationship also didn’t last so…why does it matter? I doubt Bezos (his girlfriend is substantially less attractive than his ex wife) or Gates will ever remarry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Diana - the most beautiful woman ever
Camilla - a horse reincarnated as a shriveled old lady.

I don't think Charles even wanted to marry up as he always had low aspirations in keeping with his low intellect. He just wanted to be a tampon for this horse's cult.

I never understood why people though Diana was beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For wealthy, powerful men, generally yes, but for everyone else it depends.

Wealthy powerful men don’t date particularly hot women. Examples: Gates, Bezos, Musk.

Musk’s second wife was hotter but that relationship also didn’t last so…why does it matter? I doubt Bezos (his girlfriend is substantially less attractive than his ex wife) or Gates will ever remarry.

Uh, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No idea. We only have “firsts” in my family, for generations.

What made you think OP was asking about your family?