DH and I don’t see eye to eye on cost of baby items

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Sorry above for typos...nursing and typing

[Anonymous]

There’s not enough information here. If you’re comfortable, there is no reason to shop at Walmart— it’s poor quality AND you’re supporting poverty wages. I would (and did) spend on car seat (as someone pointed out it’s the object most likely to save your child’s life...) stroller, and on clothing and feeding options that reflect our parenting preferences (glass bottles, organic clothes, etc.). If you’re on a tight budget I would ask for hand me downs — people are always cleaning closets— and prioritize the car seat.

But...I am always a little uncomfortable with men who are cheap on other people’s behalf. When it is something for himself does he shop at Walmart? Does he drive the cheapest possible car? Or is budgeting only for other family members? If he’s cheap with everything it’s time for a discussion of how your family priorities spending. If he’s cheap with only other people...red flag.

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Who is repping Walmart? It’s horrible horrible stuff. I’m not even picky but Garanimals brand falls apart and looks like trash after the first wash. I was given some cute Walmart clothes but they only look cute the first time. It’s trash clothes. Carter’s and target are so much nicer.

I’ll never forget someone on dcum compared a graco stroller to pushing your kid in a garbage can. Ha

I am picky about brands and have really enjoyed the high end brands. They’re just nicer! Facebook marketplace is the best. I buy them, use them for a year and then sell for the same price I paid. It’s like renting baby stuff or borrowing basically.

[Anonymous]

Organic cotton just means it’s grown organically. If we’re worried about baby’s exposure, we should care more about how the cotton was processed/dyed, etc. but “organic” is an easy label.

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Separate accounts!

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Take him to a store to actually try out strollers. I was the one (DW) trying to cheap out on things and my DH didn’t really care either way but when we ended up testing them out we realized why ones were more expensive. Ended up with a higher end one but we really love it and both use it everyday.

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Anonymous wrote:OP a lot of this depends on your financial situation. Is a $500 purchase a major item for you you discuss? How much do you typically spend on your clothes and no essentials? Most importantly are you saving or in debt?

If you are in debt that is hard to pay off or have financial concerns going forward ( is one of you quitting your job to take care of the baby, or have you not yet budgeted for childcare?) then you might need to more carefully consider what is reasonable to afford.

Otherwise I suggest that you consider a compromise. A good car seat is probably important and if you will be doing a lot of walking Or especially running on tough terrain you need a strong stroller. But you probably shouldn’t splurge on 20 newborn outfits the baby will wear once and every baby is so different you might wait to understand more about your needs. And a lovely nursery can be done on not too much.

Good luck OP. I think a heart to heart with your DH to find the compromise that matches your finances is in order. Good luck.

OP here. Wow, didn’t know I’d get so much feedback! Our HHI is $300K, we have a hefty savings, no debt besides mortgage. DH easily spends $300 on shoes. He values certain things and I value others. I realize I am likely overreacting, and think a compromise is a good idea. Thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP a lot of this depends on your financial situation. Is a $500 purchase a major item for you you discuss? How much do you typically spend on your clothes and no essentials? Most importantly are you saving or in debt?

If you are in debt that is hard to pay off or have financial concerns going forward ( is one of you quitting your job to take care of the baby, or have you not yet budgeted for childcare?) then you might need to more carefully consider what is reasonable to afford.

Otherwise I suggest that you consider a compromise. A good car seat is probably important and if you will be doing a lot of walking Or especially running on tough terrain you need a strong stroller. But you probably shouldn’t splurge on 20 newborn outfits the baby will wear once and every baby is so different you might wait to understand more about your needs. And a lovely nursery can be done on not too much.

Good luck OP. I think a heart to heart with your DH to find the compromise that matches your finances is in order. Good luck.

OP here. Wow, didn’t know I’d get so much feedback! Our HHI is $300K, we have a hefty savings, no debt besides mortgage. DH easily spends $300 on shoes. He values certain things and I value others. I realize I am likely overreacting, and think a compromise is a good idea. Thanks!

He spends $300 on a pair of shoes for himself but thinks $500 is too much for a combo stroller/car seat? Sounds like a real jerk

[Anonymous]

Just order the stuff you want. It’s one thing if it’s a choice between putting food on the table or buying a nice stroller but that’s not the case here. Is he also going to nag you to buy the cheapest formula, cheapest diapers and so on?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP a lot of this depends on your financial situation. Is a $500 purchase a major item for you you discuss? How much do you typically spend on your clothes and no essentials? Most importantly are you saving or in debt?

If you are in debt that is hard to pay off or have financial concerns going forward ( is one of you quitting your job to take care of the baby, or have you not yet budgeted for childcare?) then you might need to more carefully consider what is reasonable to afford.

Otherwise I suggest that you consider a compromise. A good car seat is probably important and if you will be doing a lot of walking Or especially running on tough terrain you need a strong stroller. But you probably shouldn’t splurge on 20 newborn outfits the baby will wear once and every baby is so different you might wait to understand more about your needs. And a lovely nursery can be done on not too much.

Good luck OP. I think a heart to heart with your DH to find the compromise that matches your finances is in order. Good luck.

OP here. Wow, didn’t know I’d get so much feedback! Our HHI is $300K, we have a hefty savings, no debt besides mortgage. DH easily spends $300 on shoes. He values certain things and I value others. I realize I am likely overreacting, and think a compromise is a good idea. Thanks!

He spends $300 on a pair of shoes for himself but thinks $500 is too much for a combo stroller/car seat? Sounds like a real jerk

300 for shoes you can wear for years is different from a stroller a child will outgrow.

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Anonymous wrote:That sucks, op. It’s a special time. You should be able to get what you want.

Privileged much? What a stupid thing to say.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is repping Walmart? It’s horrible horrible stuff. I’m not even picky but Garanimals brand falls apart and looks like trash after the first wash. I was given some cute Walmart clothes but they only look cute the first time. It’s trash clothes. Carter’s and target are so much nicer.

I’ll never forget someone on dcum compared a graco stroller to pushing your kid in a garbage can. Ha

I am picky about brands and have really enjoyed the high end brands. They’re just nicer! Facebook marketplace is the best. I buy them, use them for a year and then sell for the same price I paid. It’s like renting baby stuff or borrowing basically.

You can buy the same baby stuff at Walmart that you can buy at Target that you can buy at Buy Buy Baby and even higher end stuff like Stokke/Cybex/Uppa.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP a lot of this depends on your financial situation. Is a $500 purchase a major item for you you discuss? How much do you typically spend on your clothes and no essentials? Most importantly are you saving or in debt?

If you are in debt that is hard to pay off or have financial concerns going forward ( is one of you quitting your job to take care of the baby, or have you not yet budgeted for childcare?) then you might need to more carefully consider what is reasonable to afford.

Otherwise I suggest that you consider a compromise. A good car seat is probably important and if you will be doing a lot of walking Or especially running on tough terrain you need a strong stroller. But you probably shouldn’t splurge on 20 newborn outfits the baby will wear once and every baby is so different you might wait to understand more about your needs. And a lovely nursery can be done on not too much.

Good luck OP. I think a heart to heart with your DH to find the compromise that matches your finances is in order. Good luck.

OP here. Wow, didn’t know I’d get so much feedback! Our HHI is $300K, we have a hefty savings, no debt besides mortgage. DH easily spends $300 on shoes. He values certain things and I value others. I realize I am likely overreacting, and think a compromise is a good idea. Thanks!

He spends $300 on a pair of shoes for himself but thinks $500 is too much for a combo stroller/car seat? Sounds like a real jerk

300 for shoes you can wear for years is different from a stroller a child will outgrow.

If you're having more than one kid, then you'll have your stroller for years, too.

That said, we had two strollers. The expensive "travel system" stroller and the cheap umbrella, and frankly got a lot more use out of the $50 umbrella stroller than we did the travel system. I found it much more convenience to use a baby carrier for the first year and then umbrella stroller after that. Lugging around the stupid click in car seat was a pain in the ass.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who is repping Walmart? It’s horrible horrible stuff. I’m not even picky but Garanimals brand falls apart and looks like trash after the first wash. I was given some cute Walmart clothes but they only look cute the first time. It’s trash clothes. Carter’s and target are so much nicer.

I’ll never forget someone on dcum compared a graco stroller to pushing your kid in a garbage can. Ha

I am picky about brands and have really enjoyed the high end brands. They’re just nicer! Facebook marketplace is the best. I buy them, use them for a year and then sell for the same price I paid. It’s like renting baby stuff or borrowing basically.

You can buy the same baby stuff at Walmart that you can buy at Target that you can buy at Buy Buy Baby and even higher end stuff like Stokke/Cybex/Uppa.

You can, and you can support a business whose model includes paying their employees so little they need food stamps...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP a lot of this depends on your financial situation. Is a $500 purchase a major item for you you discuss? How much do you typically spend on your clothes and no essentials? Most importantly are you saving or in debt?

If you are in debt that is hard to pay off or have financial concerns going forward ( is one of you quitting your job to take care of the baby, or have you not yet budgeted for childcare?) then you might need to more carefully consider what is reasonable to afford.

Otherwise I suggest that you consider a compromise. A good car seat is probably important and if you will be doing a lot of walking Or especially running on tough terrain you need a strong stroller. But you probably shouldn’t splurge on 20 newborn outfits the baby will wear once and every baby is so different you might wait to understand more about your needs. And a lovely nursery can be done on not too much.

Good luck OP. I think a heart to heart with your DH to find the compromise that matches your finances is in order. Good luck.

OP here. Wow, didn’t know I’d get so much feedback! Our HHI is $300K, we have a hefty savings, no debt besides mortgage. DH easily spends $300 on shoes. He values certain things and I value others. I realize I am likely overreacting, and think a compromise is a good idea. Thanks!

He spends $300 on a pair of shoes for himself but thinks $500 is too much for a combo stroller/car seat? Sounds like a real jerk

300 for shoes you can wear for years is different from a stroller a child will outgrow.

No it’s not. A stroller can be used for years.