DH and I don’t see eye to eye on cost of baby items

[Anonymous]

I can’t say who is being unreasonable without knowing whether you actually have money to burn on expensive baby stuff or not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
You do not want chemically-treated cheap rough cotton on your baby. Go with hand-me-downs that have been washed so much they’re chemical-free, or new organic. And if you tell people that’s what you need, you probably won’t have to buy much.

For the big stuff, it’s absolutely worth paying more for the quality, safety and particular features you want.

Just do your research.

Wash your stuff from Walmart. Think of all the crap your kids will be exposed to over their lifetime and chemically treated cheap rough cotton is none of your worries.

Wrong. Washing a few times won’t get rid of everything, and it’s the neonatal exposure that you don’t want. The older you are, the less impact carcinogenics and hormone disruptors have on the human body. This is why plastic baby bottles are PBA-free (although glass is better, OP). Babies and uoung children must be protected more than older kids and adults from environmental toxins.

Plus, if you have the money, it’s best to support fair trade businesses instead of paying Chinese companies to abuse their workers. That’s the stuff that ends up at Walmart and Target and all inexpensive stores.

[Anonymous]

Also remember sometimes 3 strollers is better than 1 expensive one that is not well suited for every situation. And you may want a double stroller in a few years. We started with a cheaper stroller and figured we would upgrade if it did not hold up. Lasted for 2 kids and was passed on perfectly functional afterwards.

[Anonymous]

I did not buy a stroller until my DD was 3 months old - didn’t need it as I just wore her, which she liked. Your DH might be less stingy if you wait to purchase some of the things until AFTER the baby is born.

[Anonymous]

We found some amazing things on consignment. I strongly preferred a rear facing stroller once we were out of the travel system. Then eventually o needed one that faded out or would switch. Both needed to lay flat. I wouldn’t have known what to get right away. Waiting a bit for bigger purchases is sometimes the right way to go.

[Anonymous]

Some things are worth the splurge- like the stroller. Car seat is also important but you don’t need to spend $500.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait to get a nice stroller. The frame ones are perfect for right now. Snap and go.

100% this. Your needs/wishes will change. The snap and go is great for newborns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some things are worth the splurge- like the stroller. Car seat is also important but you don’t need to spend $500.

Though someone once said to me that the carseat is the one that might be saving your child's life someday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some things are worth the splurge- like the stroller. Car seat is also important but you don’t need to spend $500.

Though someone once said to me that the carseat is the one that might be saving your child's life someday.

Sure but I don’t think any of the best bucket car seats (for infants) cost $500! Maybe one of the Britax Frontier ones is that much but that’s a high back booster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is right, you are wrong.
You won't use 90% of the crap you buy.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another one for DH team. What's wrong with Walmart? You think your baby will complain?

Save your money for later...that’s when you’ll need it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I disagree with the other posters, OP. A good quality stroller is worth it. I LOVED my Stokke Xplory, and it worked for two babies until I passed it on to someone else. I have a similarly cheap DH, but he recognizes quality too, so each time he complained, I showed him exactly what features I found better than in other items. I wanted organic clothing, and was given everything the baby needed by family, clothing-wise. We went with a cheap crib for our first, that we replaced with the Stokke one.

You will not regret well-thought-out, quality purchases. That’s my point.

I agree on the stroller front, but we live in walkable DC. We’ve had our city mini for nine years and just used it again today. Car seat is important too for safety. But other baby stuff? Save your money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is right, you are wrong.
You won't use 90% of the crap you buy.

Do not buy a $100 car seat stroller combo.

[Anonymous]

It’s hard to pick a side without more information.
Do you work, OP? Are your jobs stable? Is your financial situation comfortable?
We both work and have a HHI that would probably classify us among the DCUM poors. We had a baby after along wait and it was going to be our only child, so I don’t regret some of the purchases that seem unnecessary in hindsight. But it all depends on your individual situation.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is stressed thinking about he price if college, diapering, pre-school etc.

Ask him what is going.
Listen...

Come up with a budget and go together. He may realize that you have to spend more on certain things Bc if you are cheap you will have to buy another.

Don’t spend money on clothes. It is so wasteful. People will buy you a ton.