Boundaries with grandparents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to be there when you tell your mom and dad (or better yet, MIL and FIL) that they can’t kiss their grandchild because you believe they have herpes.

Because that’s what they’re going to hear, right? And there’s no returning from accusing one of your parents of sleeping around. (Because again, that’s what this will translate to for them.)

Pretty sure you need to read up on the difference between oral and genital herpes strains.
I've gotten cold sores since I was a kid. Guarantee I wasn't sleeping around then. I likely picked it up from preschool..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want to be there when you tell your mom and dad (or better yet, MIL and FIL) that they can’t kiss their grandchild because you believe they have herpes.

Because that’s what they’re going to hear, right? And there’s no returning from accusing one of your parents of sleeping around. (Because again, that’s what this will translate to for them.)

Pretty sure you need to read up on the difference between oral and genital herpes strains.
I've gotten cold sores since I was a kid. Guarantee I wasn't sleeping around then. I likely picked it up from preschool..

I know that. And YOU know that. But I can all but guarantee that the grandparents won’t hear anything in the sentence but “herpes.”

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm not sure why people are being so nasty to you. Just address things as they come up.

ex: "oh no, sorry, just kiss top of the head not face//no kissing yet"

And just turn her towards you and away from the tv if it is on.

We've had these requests made and survived with no hard feelings. If this damages your relationship then it wasn't all that great to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. To clarify, grandparents are not hosting. We are renting out a house by the water as a family and staying together because grandparents only have one grandkid and want to have memories of his first summer. We are paying for the rental. I love them but have never experienced living with them before and wanted to know what kind of issues people could encounter with grandparents and babies. So far the best tip I’ve got is about safe sleep to thank you to the poster who mentioned that.

They are certainly going to have memories after a summer with you, OP.

[Anonymous]

You people are ridiculous. My older cousins, both doctors, told me 5 years ago when I had my first not to kiss or touch baby’s face, and not to let others do so. We kiss the top/back of head, tummy, etc. even now. It’s not hard. And none of our kids have gotten sick frequently or badly, so maybe there’s something there. I actually wince a little whenever I see parents kiss their kids on the mouth or cheek!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people are ridiculous. My older cousins, both doctors, told me 5 years ago when I had my first not to kiss or touch baby’s face, and not to let others do so. We kiss the top/back of head, tummy, etc. even now. It’s not hard. And none of our kids have gotten sick frequently or badly, so maybe there’s something there. I actually wince a little whenever I see parents kiss their kids on the mouth or cheek!

Stupid, stupid advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You people are ridiculous. My older cousins, both doctors, told me 5 years ago when I had my first not to kiss or touch baby’s face, and not to let others do so. We kiss the top/back of head, tummy, etc. even now. It’s not hard. And none of our kids have gotten sick frequently or badly, so maybe there’s something there. I actually wince a little whenever I see parents kiss their kids on the mouth or cheek!

Stupid, stupid advice.

Stupid, stupid moron.