Ok, I'll bite. Isn't this framing part of the problem? That whether schools serve everyone is up to the individual choices of wealthy white parents? |
I really feel this too, OP. Especially in the winter time. We go to playgrounds everyday but it’s not enough and some days it really is too windy and cold. My kid just needs mental and visual stimulation. It’s not enough just bring around the same people all the time, the little socialization the playground, and then DL. We have been doing many of the things suggested on this thread— we go hiking a couple days a week, weather be damned. We try different playgrounds. We do 1:1 play dates and my DD has taken some outdoor dance classes. And it’s been ok, but realizing we’re just going to go on like this for another six months, maybe more? I can really feel the weight of it. I miss museums and libraries so much. I miss weekend family programming— we used to go to so much of that stuff, like the USO Symphony “In your neighborhood” and the family shows and classes at the Kennedy Center. Just impromptu neighborhood gatherings or picnics in the park. We do some of that now but it’s do restrained. I think it helps my DH and I because we at least get the stimulation of conversation. But little kids don’t stand around discussing current events over beers. They really need to interact, sometimes physically, and it’s so hard for them right now. I’m glad you have the cousins at least. We can’t fly do can’t visit family and it’s unfortunate. But you are right that we are on our own— we just have to figure it out because we still have no leadership on any of this. |
Like us, you can only to the best you can - which may fall short - because we're in a global pandemic and all. We aren't going to be able to fulfill 100% of their needs at this time, no matter how much we want to. |
Still called parenting... |
Yes, and thank you. Mental health issues don't go away completely, They are often treated with medication, coping skills, and therapy. If your child is suffering right now, it's pretty probable they're going to suffer with some type of issue even after they have graduated. |
My takeaway was when schools fail only wealthy white parents can make up for it. |
So my family falls into one of those categories that you listen above. And we're still enjoying family. Watching TV, playing board games, joking around with each other, etc doesn't take really any money. It could just be that a lot of those families didn't have strong relationships before Coronavirus, so now they are struggling. |
+1 |
Not being able to fly or go on vacation is not a hardship. We have not been socializing in person since March. It’s life. We draw a hardline as no one is fixing this and selfish people will continue the spread so we have no other choices. Thanks for not doing your share. |
Parents need to seek out professional help and support their kids. It’s not the schools fault as they are educators not mental health professionals. If a child is suicidal they probably had depression and other issues that got ignored. Parents need to be more aware and involved. |
Stop being such a histrionic ninny. Jesus. |
See, this is the thing. Nobody pays malls to only do curbside pickup. However libraries just closed and doing "virtual" stuff only, whereas they can safely reopen in person, just let in a couple families at a time for 30 mins or something like this. Yet it is so comfy for everyone to remain virtual. Except the kids of course, who now cannot go in and choose books, etc. Museums can also reopen with reservations, at 25% capacity. People want something besides the outdoors and the malls, it can be safely done, yet no one bothers. That's how I know no one is looking out for us. We need to find things to do on our own. |
This. |
Thank you for posting, PP. I am hoping as the weather gets warmer, the statistics are tweaked a little or really become better, and as the pressure to keep the economy going gets stronger - we will start reopening somewhat. Even in the most ridiculously strict places like CA. Honestly I am on the verge of just traveling to a republican state to experience more or less normal life. |
Have you noticed that there are no widely available data on spreading by setting/situation? If there were, guess what, you would see that the most spread is occurring in low income, tight knit communities where people are cramped into small houses in large numbers. The breakdown of cases by race is available though. Looking at it, it's easy to understand that unless you are on a plane with agricultural workers with no masks, you are at very low risk. Cue LA and San Joaquin valley in CA where most of the spread is happening for the state. And trust me, many people are traveling yet they do not account for any significant number of cases. This "do not travel do not see your family" thing is a one size fits all appeal, because they can't target it to a particular demographic for the fear of being non-PC. People need to think...not just listen to generic slogans. |