Do your in-laws buy you gifts?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I just got a nice set of Caphalon stacking pans, a $500 lululemon gift card, and a nice wallet from my MIL.

[Anonymous]

I've got three son-in-laws and next year will have a daughter-in-law. I spend the same amount on them as I spend on my children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My in-laws get me gifts, but I’m an orphan. Not the same but my sister gets him gifts every year. And it has made me feel better that someone besides me is gifting him gifts, when his family does the same.

His step mom gave me re gifted gifts our first year* and that year I’d rather had gotten nothing,initially.

I started using the regifted gifts, found one I really loved, and at the time was too expensive for me to purchase myself. I tried to buy it for myself and the cremes were way out of my budget D:

You are under the age of 18???

[Anonymous]

Lol they always send us a check for $200. Which is nice, but not needed, and it makes me feel awkward tbh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, for birthday, Christmas, mother's day, valentine's day, the start of summer, the full moon, etc.

In November I received a fluffy cardigan with stars with a note from my MIL saying "You are a super star of a mother! Stay cozy and safe!"

They would be mortified if they ever missed a holiday.

Oh, that is super sweet!!! You sound like a wonderful person if your MIL is thinking of you and sending spontaneous gifts. I hope someday I can be a MIL like yours!

+1

Sometimes MILs show us what not to be, and other MILs show us what to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I just got a nice set of Caphalon stacking pans, a $500 lululemon gift card, and a nice wallet from my MIL.

Wow, she is generous! That is awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, for birthday, Christmas, mother's day, valentine's day, the start of summer, the full moon, etc.

In November I received a fluffy cardigan with stars with a note from my MIL saying "You are a super star of a mother! Stay cozy and safe!"

They would be mortified if they ever missed a holiday.

Oh, that is super sweet!!! You sound like a wonderful person if your MIL is thinking of you and sending spontaneous gifts. I hope someday I can be a MIL like yours!

My in-laws are REALLY great people. One time my FIL called me to say they'd just gotten an electric kettle and it was a total game-changer and could he get us one? Then he sent it along with a huge box of various types of teas. The only thing they complained about (about me) was that I didn't let them hug me enough. I'm a WASP, it's not my style. They want DH to sit in their laps basically.

[Anonymous]

Are you 5 yrs old? If not, why care about gifts?

[Anonymous]

Expression of joy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but they ignore who I am completely and get me what they like. Like Vera Bradley-type bags or dark chocolates even though they know I only like milk chocolate. They even got me nuts when they know I am allergic. I wish they would get me nothing rather than the chore of donating or giving it away via a Facebook swap group.

Wow, I also got a Vera Bradley bag and literally saved the bag it came from to immediately regift to someone who might like. But it really is the thought that counts.

[Anonymous]

Only if others are around to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only if others are around to see.

PP here, and I just went back to read the OP. Honestly it would only bother me if everyone else in the room got a gift from them (including all the adults), and they didn't give one to him. Other than that, why do adults expect gifts from other adults? Unless it's a wedding, I would not expect a gift from in-laws for anything. Now inheritance, that's a separate issue and DH better get half that shit.

[Anonymous]

Also, you're in the middle of a divorce. I would not put much weight on statements made by STBX . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think it's rude to send gifts to the daughter, her kids, but not the son-in-law. The fact your gift to them is from "the family" is irrelevant to that. If it's from the entire family then it's an unreturned gift every year, basically.

But whatever, I'm sure your parents' rudeness is not why you're divorcing.

His complaint is that he only gets a Christmas card. I get a card too so it’s not like they’re only getting me and the kids something. My parents haven’t given me a Christmas gift since I graduated high school so that’s why it’s not really a big deal to me.

They give you separate xmas cards? That's just weird TBH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, you're in the middle of a divorce. I would not put much weight on statements made by STBX . . .

It’s a bad habit that developed during the marriage that I’m struggling to break.