Women dating in their late 40s and 50s:Standards for a NSA.

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Anonymous wrote:So I think there are 32 responses to this thread now and maybe one person has actually answered the OP’s question. The question was (to paraphrase) “What do you look for in a partner for a No Strings Attached (aka fwb) relationship?”.

First of all, NSA and FWB are not the same in my opinion. NSA is more like an f-buddy, while FWB is an actual friend....

For the former, he has to be good in bed, sane, single. For FWB, he has to be funny and smart and kind. A heavy drinker is ok for FWB but not a serious relationship.

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46 year old divorced male here. White collar professional, grad school educated, not bald, 5 ft 9, well groomed, work out every other day, nicely dressed.

Online dating is like shooting fish in a barrel if you're in the 40-50 range of women.

Literally have my pick of the litter all day long.

Problem is I prefer 25-35 year old women.

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Anonymous wrote:I fit your standards, OP, but date 20s.

LOL, sure you do.

In DC it's very easy if you have a career and stay in shape.

40-something men with successful careers who spend a lot of time working out and are having regular mind-blowing sex with 20-somethings are not sitting around posting about it on DCUM.

DP here. I know a few successful men in their 40s and 50s who are divorced, and they're all dating women who are in their 20s and 30s. This is not unheard of.

What is the appeal after the men are done having sex with them? Plus, if they are dating men this age, then they are probably golddiggers.

[Anonymous]

I’m 40s and date 20s women. There is a ton of appeal more than just sex.

This is sure to get a “sure you do lol” response but it’s true even if it makes you mad.

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Anonymous wrote:I fit your standards, OP, but date 20s.

LOL, sure you do.

In DC it's very easy if you have a career and stay in shape.

40-something men with successful careers who spend a lot of time working out and are having regular mind-blowing sex with 20-somethings are not sitting around posting about it on DCUM.

DP here. I know a few successful men in their 40s and 50s who are divorced, and they're all dating women who are in their 20s and 30s. This is not unheard of.

What is the appeal after the men are done having sex with them? Plus, if they are dating men this age, then they are probably golddiggers.

Is it impossible to believe a woman in her 20s or 30s might have a personality and be enjoyable to talk to and hang out with?

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Anonymous wrote:I fit your standards, OP, but date 20s.

LOL, sure you do.

In DC it's very easy if you have a career and stay in shape.

40-something men with successful careers who spend a lot of time working out and are having regular mind-blowing sex with 20-somethings are not sitting around posting about it on DCUM.

DP here. I know a few successful men in their 40s and 50s who are divorced, and they're all dating women who are in their 20s and 30s. This is not unheard of.

What is the appeal after the men are done having sex with them? Plus, if they are dating men this age, then they are probably golddiggers.

Is it impossible to believe a woman in her 20s or 30s might have a personality and be enjoyable to talk to and hang out with?

Yes, it is impossible to believe, particularly since people that age now are millenials.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40s and date 20s women. There is a ton of appeal more than just sex.

This is sure to get a “sure you do lol” response but it’s true even if it makes you mad.

So what is the appeal? Especially when you know that they are just with you for money and security?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40s and date 20s women. There is a ton of appeal more than just sex.

This is sure to get a “sure you do lol” response but it’s true even if it makes you mad.

So what is the appeal? Especially when you know that they are just with you for money and security?

Unlike women in their 40s who date men for... ?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40s and date 20s women. There is a ton of appeal more than just sex.

This is sure to get a “sure you do lol” response but it’s true even if it makes you mad.

So what is the appeal? Especially when you know that they are just with you for money and security?

Unlike women in their 40s who date men for... ?

At least most women in their 40s aren’t looking for a meal ticket.

[Anonymous]

I am a divorced mid-50s man, 6'4", athletic, PhD, GS-15, with a family trust. I much prefer dating women who are in their 20s. My current girlfriend is in her mid-20s. I doubt I would ever have an NSA with a woman in her 50s. They aren't attractive enough, and they also don't have a sex drive.

[Anonymous]

When I was newly separated, my main criteria was attractive, chemistry, and self-sufficient. Pedigree didn’t matter. I was just looking to have a good time. As a mid-40s woman who is fit and financially independent, I didn’t have any problem finding men.

Some men will prefer younger and I have no issues with that. Lots of fish in the sea. I personally am not usually attracted to men in their 20s and older than early 50s. As long as you’re not so picky that you’re really limiting your dating pool, still enough men to go around.

I didn’t use online dating. Just seemed to met men in life - gym, restaurants, work, traveling. Most start as NSA and some evolve into more and others fizzle out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced mid-50s man, 6'4", athletic, PhD, GS-15, with a family trust. I much prefer dating women who are in their 20s. My current girlfriend is in her mid-20s. I doubt I would ever have an NSA with a woman in her 50s. They aren't attractive enough, and they also don't have a sex drive.

Her parents must be so proud. And I bet your kids love her! If you're not already, you should definitely make very clear to her how deeply unappealing she will be as she ages. That'll keep her on her toes.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced mid-50s man, 6'4", athletic, PhD, GS-15, with a family trust. I much prefer dating women who are in their 20s. My current girlfriend is in her mid-20s. I doubt I would ever have an NSA with a woman in her 50s. They aren't attractive enough, and they also don't have a sex drive.

Her parents must be so proud. And I bet your kids love her! If you're not already, you should definitely make very clear to her how deeply unappealing she will be as she ages. That'll keep her on her toes.

I would find it very sad if my daughter dated such an old man. I would actually feel like I had failed as a parent

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Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced mid-50s man, 6'4", athletic, PhD, GS-15, with a family trust. I much prefer dating women who are in their 20s. My current girlfriend is in her mid-20s. I doubt I would ever have an NSA with a woman in her 50s. They aren't attractive enough, and they also don't have a sex drive.

Her parents must be so proud. And I bet your kids love her! If you're not already, you should definitely make very clear to her how deeply unappealing she will be as she ages. That'll keep her on her toes.

I would find it very sad if my daughter dated such an old man. I would actually feel like I had failed as a parent

He would be older than my parents were in my 20’s. They were in their 40’s. I would be mortified to date a man a DECADE older than my father! Ewwww!!

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Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced mid-50s man, 6'4", athletic, PhD, GS-15, with a family trust. I much prefer dating women who are in their 20s. My current girlfriend is in her mid-20s. I doubt I would ever have an NSA with a woman in her 50s. They aren't attractive enough, and they also don't have a sex drive.

Her parents must be so proud. And I bet your kids love her! If you're not already, you should definitely make very clear to her how deeply unappealing she will be as she ages. That'll keep her on her toes.

I would find it very sad if my daughter dated such an old man. I would actually feel like I had failed as a parent

I have a mid-60s friend who has three daughters. They are all in their 30s, and successful. As they complained about "no good men" he told them, why not look for older men? One of them did get married to a guy who is in his 50s.