Googled Date

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just be direct. You’ve been on one date with the guy, and it’s perfectly reasonable to google him. Don’t dance around it — it’s too big a deal.

This. Be direct.

I once caught a man I’d been dating for a month lying about 2 additional children and an additional marriage. He told me one ex wife, one child. How did I find out? I read his divorce papers - all of them.

I find this hard to believe. Where is it that "all" of someone's divorce papers are available to the public online? Typically, there is just a docket with the entries that give very few details of anything.

In the state of Georgia you can pay for copies of all filed records. I think it cost me something like $37 to get all 68 pages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be done. There are too many good people out there to waste your time on a dud.

I’d also be concerned about how he’s pushing for marriage and had a “deep” conversation....I’ve noticed men like that tend to try to lock you down quick because they have issues.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Arrests do not even show up on background checks.

Yes they do. I'm a landlord and the credit report I get on tenants include arrest records. Once it showed up for a potential tenant who got arrested for drunk in public in his 20s. I didn't care, but his g/f he was going to be moving in with did. They withdrew their application.

Yes they do!

[Anonymous]

After the date I googled him. I found an article where he got into some serious legal trouble and was arrested (don't want to say for what), but something I consider pretty serious

OP, can you be sure he didn't accept the blame (perhaps you know it as taking the rap or stepping in the trap) for a cousin, sibling, dear friend or even not-so close acquaintance so that they could go scot-free? Perhaps this serious legal trouble is evidence of how selfless this person really is, that he would take on this legal trouble to help a dear associate navigate such difficult circumstances. It may be that a corrupt law enforcement agency sought to frame this innocent party, and may have beaten and coerced them into coonfessing for a crime they not commit, only to be rescued by this noble man who came forward stating, "No, this goes no further. I am the perpetrator. I am the guilty one." Perhaps also the police wanted so badly to convict the originally accused that they threatened the new confessor with all manner of ill treatment but he did not waver. Also can you be certain he was affair you were on a "date."? Did he even know who, or whom, you are? Is it possible he thought you were someone else? Or that it wasn't clear who you claimed to be. What was the location?

[Anonymous]

Why does OP post a thread like this and not even tell us the type of crime

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does OP post a thread like this and not even tell us the type of crime

The charge was possession of a stolen firearm and dog fighting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To update everyone I decided to just call it quits. I sent a polite text explaining what I found online and that it made me uncomfortable so I didn’t think we should keep seeing each other. He proceeded to curse me out over text. So I feel like I dodged a bullet.

Lesson learned. Hopefully you will Google it before the first date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To update everyone I decided to just call it quits. I sent a polite text explaining what I found online and that it made me uncomfortable so I didn’t think we should keep seeing each other. He proceeded to curse me out over text. So I feel like I dodged a bullet.

Lesson learned. Hopefully you will Google it before the first date.

Considering the crimes and the text response, pretty easy to form a picture of this guy. Bullet dodged.

[Anonymous]

OP, how can you be sure he even knew you are? Was it clear you were on a date or could it have been interpreted as just another meeting of the minds, two ships sinking in the night, so to speak. Something doesn't add up here. If he committed this series of crimes were you able to investigate any other individuals who could have been in the area at the time and might have seen, heard, noticed something that could have exonerated your date or, if not, then someone else? If you texted him, are you certain you had the correct number. Is it possible you had the right number but the wrong zip code, OR vice versa? Perhaps also his response was made in jest, hoping you'd see the lighter side of this perfectly understandable misunderstanding. Where was the date conducted. Did anyone else se you there, or was it completely empty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how can you be sure he even knew you are? Was it clear you were on a date or could it have been interpreted as just another meeting of the minds, two ships sinking in the night, so to speak. Something doesn't add up here. If he committed this series of crimes were you able to investigate any other individuals who could have been in the area at the time and might have seen, heard, noticed something that could have exonerated your date or, if not, then someone else? If you texted him, are you certain you had the correct number. Is it possible you had the right number but the wrong zip code, OR vice versa? Perhaps also his response was made in jest, hoping you'd see the lighter side of this perfectly understandable misunderstanding. Where was the date conducted. Did anyone else se you there, or was it completely empty?

My new favorite character on this site, right up there with Open The Marriage Guy.