Googled Date

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just be direct. You’ve been on one date with the guy, and it’s perfectly reasonable to google him. Don’t dance around it — it’s too big a deal.

This. Be direct.

I once caught a man I’d been dating for a month lying about 2 additional children and an additional marriage. He told me one ex wife, one child. How did I find out? I read his divorce papers - all of them.

I find this hard to believe. Where is it that "all" of someone's divorce papers are available to the public online? Typically, there is just a docket with the entries that give very few details of anything.

After she confronted him with evidence from ALL of his papers, the whole restaurant clapped.

[Anonymous]

OP here. To update everyone I decided to just call it quits. I sent a polite text explaining what I found online and that it made me uncomfortable so I didn’t think we should keep seeing each other. He proceeded to curse me out over text. So I feel like I dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To update everyone I decided to just call it quits. I sent a polite text explaining what I found online and that it made me uncomfortable so I didn’t think we should keep seeing each other. He proceeded to curse me out over text. So I feel like I dodged a bullet.

Whoa, definitely dodged a bullet. Hopefully he won't find a way to clean his online presence. Thanks for the update--I'm not sure I'd have been as candid as you when calling it quits.

[Anonymous]

Drop him. First of all, it seems odd (immature, or manipulative) to talk marriage on a first date!

You obviously took the bait and are now contemplating dating someone you would never have swiped on if you had googled him first. Sorry, but I am your really check.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. I wouldn’t have told him what I found. Make sure you tell your close friends about him in case he knows where you live and was arrested for a violent crime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To update everyone I decided to just call it quits. I sent a polite text explaining what I found online and that it made me uncomfortable so I didn’t think we should keep seeing each other. He proceeded to curse me out over text. So I feel like I dodged a bullet.

He sounds crazy. Glad you followed your gut intuition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To update everyone I decided to just call it quits. I sent a polite text explaining what I found online and that it made me uncomfortable so I didn’t think we should keep seeing each other. He proceeded to curse me out over text. So I feel like I dodged a bullet.

I'm glad you decide to drop him, but OP you did not owe him an email explanation to a guy you went on one date with. Based on the email explanation and this thread I'm concerned you are a bit desperate, a bit of a doormat which makes you a target for guys like this. Maybe therapy for self-esteem and assertiveness is in order.

[Anonymous]

Now that it’s over, can you tell us what the crime was?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now that it’s over, can you tell us what the crime was?

This. Are we talking peeing in an alley or domestic violence?

[Anonymous]

I once met this HOT guy in a bar. He asked for my number and started texted me. I Googled him and discovered he was convicted on felony gun charges. Apparently 1) he was hanging out with a felon 2) allowing said felon to use his guns and 3) shot into his neighbor's home with the guns. Talk about STauPID. That said, I have no interest in being with a felon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Arrests do not even show up on background checks.

Yes they do. I'm a landlord and the credit report I get on tenants include arrest records. Once it showed up for a potential tenant who got arrested for drunk in public in his 20s. I didn't care, but his g/f he was going to be moving in with did. They withdrew their application.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Arrests do not even show up on background checks.

Yes they do. I'm a landlord and the credit report I get on tenants include arrest records. Once it showed up for a potential tenant who got arrested for drunk in public in his 20s. I didn't care, but his g/f he was going to be moving in with did. They withdrew their application.

This kind of thing can be expunged, it's just a matter of hiring an attorney to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just be direct. You’ve been on one date with the guy, and it’s perfectly reasonable to google him. Don’t dance around it — it’s too big a deal.

This. Be direct.

I once caught a man I’d been dating for a month lying about 2 additional children and an additional marriage. He told me one ex wife, one child. How did I find out? I read his divorce papers - all of them.

I find this hard to believe. Where is it that "all" of someone's divorce papers are available to the public online? Typically, there is just a docket with the entries that give very few details of anything.

I found out something similar from an ex too. Told me about the first wife and two kids. No mention of the 2nd wife. I found it because of the child support order following the divorce. Once I had her name, I got additional info from her social media.

[Anonymous]

But does he have a big ... wallet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To update everyone I decided to just call it quits. I sent a polite text explaining what I found online and that it made me uncomfortable so I didn’t think we should keep seeing each other. He proceeded to curse me out over text. So I feel like I dodged a bullet.

Good for you. I hope the next guy is a keeper.