what's your race/ethnicity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Northern Italians are light/fair skin/hair/eyes. It is an uneducated misconception that all Italians are dark.

PP, I would find any prejudice or anything that could be perceived prejudice toward Europeans unwise. They paved the way for an amazing amount of progress toward new Americans of any generation.

If they did not speak English, they did not eat. They did not expect that things be handed to them, like so many (NOT all) immigrants today (who would not admit it). They were treated horribly. Immigrants today should thank Europeans every single day. I do.

oh yea...blue-eyed, light brown hair italian here.

[Anonymous]

Me: 1/2 Cuban, 1/4 Swiss, 1/4 Scottish
Husband: 100% Cuban

[Anonymous]

zumbamama wrote:Mostly German and Filipino, with drops of English, Irish, Spanish and Japanese.

Fascinating mix. Curious, is the Japanese on the Filipino side? If so, is that rare, or not?

[zumbamama]

Anonymous wrote:

zumbamama wrote:Mostly German and Filipino, with drops of English, Irish, Spanish and Japanese.

Fascinating mix. Curious, is the Japanese on the Filipino side? If so, is that rare, or not?

yes, both the Spanish and the Japanese are on the Flip side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me, white American
Husband, Arab

Very curious to hear how you deal with some of the cultural difference-extended vs. nuclear family; o.k. to tell family members to stay in a hotel vs. very rude to tell family members to stay in a hotel; family has an opinion about everythings vs. everyone should mind their business, etc...

So far it hasn't been an issue (we've been married 5 years). They haven't visited the US, but when we go there, we stay in a hotel. I'm sure they are not thrilled with that, but we spend a good deal of each day with them. If they were to come here, I would of course offer my home to them. It's my being an introvert and needing some alone time that makes me get a hotel. I could find that balance in my own house more easily than in theirs.

I have a very cold, distant family, so I've been thrilled with how "busy-body" yet affectionate my inlaws are. Of course, if they lived here, that might get a little claustrophobic.

are you in a similar marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks to those who replied... I'm assuming its representative of the bunch... I've seen a few comments on dcurbanmom that verge into racism and have noted that no one called out the posters (these were on old threads i had searched, so i didn't comment myself and bring out a new thread that was X months old), so I've just been curious about what the make-up is...

Interesting you noticed OP. I feel the same way about DCUM. But then again, I'm one of the few Black people on here. The race/color categories in our country are ridiculous and have no bearing on reality. My husband is part Native American but looks completely white so he is just considered Caucasian. How is that at all accurate? My daughter has pale skin, red hair and green eyes (blue at birth). No one will know she has a Black mother by looking at her. Where does she fit in in everyone's rabid need to stereotype and categorize? It's all about what you look like and identify as, not what you actually are. Which, in my opinion, makes it meaningless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks to those who replied... I'm assuming its representative of the bunch... I've seen a few comments on dcurbanmom that verge into racism and have noted that no one called out the posters (these were on old threads i had searched, so i didn't comment myself and bring out a new thread that was X months old), so I've just been curious about what the make-up is...

Interesting you noticed OP. I feel the same way about DCUM. But then again, I'm one of the few Black people on here. The race/color categories in our country are ridiculous and have no bearing on reality. My husband is part Native American but looks completely white so he is just considered Caucasian. How is that at all accurate? My daughter has pale skin, red hair and green eyes (blue at birth). No one will know she has a Black mother by looking at her. Where does she fit in in everyone's rabid need to stereotype and categorize? It's all about what you look like and identify as, not what you actually are. Which, in my opinion, makes it meaningless.

ITA with this. DH is black, but he looks white so every single white person he encounters assumes he is white. DD looks white sometimes and black other times, but of course white people assume she is white because her parents both look white. Most of my friends are racially mixed themselves, and then their kids even more so. At some point, what does it even mean to say someone is one race or another?

[Anonymous]

Half Doberman and half Shitzue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Northern Italians are light/fair skin/hair/eyes. It is an uneducated misconception that all Italians are dark.

PP, I would find any prejudice or anything that could be perceived prejudice toward Europeans unwise. They paved the way for an amazing amount of progress toward new Americans of any generation.

If they did not speak English, they did not eat. They did not expect that things be handed to them, like so many (NOT all) immigrants today (who would not admit it). They were treated horribly. Immigrants today should thank Europeans every single day. I do.

What is your point?

I'm Southern Italian yet am very fair. My relatives have olive complexions, which I always envied. So who's stereotyping? I'm merely repeating what I've often heard throughout my lifetime. I stood out among my family members. a mistake in the gene pool????

Certainly my family had obstacles when they entered this country. However, never did they say they were treated horribly. My father came in 1947 - after his father had been here for years, establishing himself. Shortly after, the rest followed.

And FWIW, we ate very well! Nonna made homemade pasta weekly, and my nonni - both stone masons and bricklayers - had good business sense. In fact, I'm certain that if you've driven anywhere in the DC metro area, you'd see their work on walls, churches, homes, etc.

I love my background. I grew up with the dialect and learned standard Italian in college. So I'm "tri-lingual!" And I'm definitely NOT "uneducated," PP. In fact, I have three degrees, too!

Why the martyrdom, PP? Lighten up! Grab yourself a glass of wine, munch on some mozzarella fresca and enjoy the snow.

[Anonymous]

I'm Puerto Rican, of the brown skin, dark hair, dark eyes variety.

DH is German, of the white skin, brown hair, green eyes variety.

DD is a wonderful mix of both .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Northern Italians are light/fair skin/hair/eyes. It is an uneducated misconception that all Italians are dark.

PP, I would find any prejudice or anything that could be perceived prejudice toward Europeans unwise. They paved the way for an amazing amount of progress toward new Americans of any generation.

If they did not speak English, they did not eat. They did not expect that things be handed to them, like so many (NOT all) immigrants today (who would not admit it). They were treated horribly. Immigrants today should thank Europeans every single day. I do.

This sounds negative, like light is better. That is, don't insult the northerners by implying that they are dark.
BTW, I lived in Milan, they still look different than Germans, who look different than Scots. So, that is why in Scotland, people would say that people in Milan were dark.
Calm down, it is OK, dark is nice.

[Anonymous]

Arab women with American Man.
Major cultural clashes over hear but nothing we cant handle so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Half Doberman and half Shitzue.

[Anonymous]

12:32 - Nope. Just saying. It's okay.

12:37 - repeat.

In many countries (NOT just Italy) the North and South differentiate themselves from each other for historical reasons.

Are you sensitive to what you look like, PP?

It has NOTHING to do with good/bad or positive/negative unless you internalize that yourselves. Or your ancestors did (whether or not they realize it).

Again, this has to do with history, not YOU. Sorry if you feel it has to do with you.

I would encourage anyone who has immigrants from the "first waves" to visit Ellis Island and see what they went through. VERY different than now.

I love my background, family and education, pretty much everything (!) but they are not all necessarily interlinked.

My background is very cool!

Everyone should enjoy theirs *and* appreciate what others have done for them - should they realize it. It did NOT just happen overnight, is the point.

Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brazilian, maternal grandfather was italian and paternal grandmother was portuguese. I also have friends with light skin and blue eyes just as well as I have black and asian friends back home and I still consider myself latin, not white. Don't understand what 07:14 was talking about.


As far as different child rearing opinions go, most people on here don't even respect little differences in parenting from each other (co-sleeping or not, BFing or not, sleep training or not), so good luck with introducing a whole different culture into the mix.

I am 7:14 and I you don't understand because Brazil is very different than Uruguay, we are pretty homogenous and almost everyone is white, that is why I consider myself white, I was never really aware of the "hispanic" or "latin" concept until I came to live in the states.