If your son is shorter than average, how did you help him build confidence?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We try to encourage our son to be in shape & clean cut... but he doesn’t listen.

I’m not going to lie, I usually don’t think short men are attractive. And I *definitely* don’t think sloppy short men are attractive. A short man can be very handsome if his appearance is on point.

Also try to remind him how short Messi is when talking about soccer.

+1 Work with what you’ve got

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We try to encourage our son to be in shape & clean cut... but he doesn’t listen.

I’m not going to lie, I usually don’t think short men are attractive. And I *definitely* don’t think sloppy short men are attractive. A short man can be very handsome if his appearance is on point.

Also try to remind him how short Messi is when talking about soccer.

If your son is still a teen, he'll probably grow out of not caring too much about appearance.

[Anonymous]

Dr. Fauci is short, I work in the same building as him. He has lots of female admirers.

[Anonymous]

Shorter guys have to have good personalities...they can't be jerks and still get a girl. In the end, the shorter guy is the better catch.

[Anonymous]

16-yo son is very short and old enough to be frank with. He's also honest with us that he knows some girls are turned off by his height. We just try to tell him being short but clean cut, nice style, with straight As and ECs makes you a high-status male who can date just about any girl you want. However, short plus overweight plus sloppy appearance with mediocre career prospects limits your options quite substantially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:16-yo son is very short and old enough to be frank with. He's also honest with us that he knows some girls are turned off by his height. We just try to tell him being short but clean cut, nice style, with straight As and ECs makes you a high-status male who can date just about any girl you want. However, short plus overweight plus sloppy appearance with mediocre career prospects limits your options quite substantially.

I agree, except you can’t accurately assess a 16 yr old’s “prospects.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:16-yo son is very short and old enough to be frank with. He's also honest with us that he knows some girls are turned off by his height. We just try to tell him being short but clean cut, nice style, with straight As and ECs makes you a high-status male who can date just about any girl you want. However, short plus overweight plus sloppy appearance with mediocre career prospects limits your options quite substantially.

A high status male. Really?
How about kind, considerate, responsible, funny, interesting, hard-working.

If it’s not his height that kind of attitude will give him inadequacy issues about other sub-stellar attributes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 14-year old was 5’1-5’2”” most of last year. He is now 5’9” turns 15 next week. He still has a lot of growing- no facial hair. He was one of the shorter kids on his team last year and in school.

His younger brother is even shorter for his age.

My brother and I both grew in college. We are definitely late growers.

5’7” is not too short. He will be fine! The average American woman is now 5’3”-5’4”.

Thanks. My son turns 15 in three weeks and he is 5”4

My son is 15 and 3 months, and he is not even quite 5'4. But, he hasn't hit puberty yet. The only visible sign is his leg hairs are getting thicker. Delayed puberty runs in the family on both sides. His dad is tall, but I'm super short.

My son is 5'4" at 14. My husband is 6'4" but grew 8" in college. When we went to his high school reunion it's all anyone talked about all night long. I tell my son to not give up hope!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:16-yo son is very short and old enough to be frank with. He's also honest with us that he knows some girls are turned off by his height. We just try to tell him being short but clean cut, nice style, with straight As and ECs makes you a high-status male who can date just about any girl you want. However, short plus overweight plus sloppy appearance with mediocre career prospects limits your options quite substantially.

A high status male. Really?
How about kind, considerate, responsible, funny, interesting, hard-working.

If it’s not his height that kind of attitude will give him inadequacy issues about other sub-stellar attributes.

+1000 all dcum posters care about is HIGH STATUS

[Anonymous]

I've dated two men that were just around my height, 5-6-1/2.

Both had good self esteem.

Both had really good posture. Work on standing tall, shoulders back, all the time.

Having good posture really helps to exude confidence.

My personal trainer is not that tall, I'd say 5'7". He has amazingly good posture. He told me his Dad really pushed good posture when he was growing up. I actually hired him due to his posture since mine is so bad after 40 years of keyboarding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 14-year old was 5’1-5’2”” most of last year. He is now 5’9” turns 15 next week. He still has a lot of growing- no facial hair. He was one of the shorter kids on his team last year and in school.

His younger brother is even shorter for his age.

My brother and I both grew in college. We are definitely late growers.

5’7” is not too short. He will be fine! The average American woman is now 5’3”-5’4”.

Thanks. My son turns 15 in three weeks and he is 5”4

My son is 15 and 3 months, and he is not even quite 5'4. But, he hasn't hit puberty yet. The only visible sign is his leg hairs are getting thicker. Delayed puberty runs in the family on both sides. His dad is tall, but I'm super short.

My son is 5'4" at 14. My husband is 6'4" but grew 8" in college. When we went to his high school reunion it's all anyone talked about all night long. I tell my son to not give up hope!

What? That’s pretty average

[Anonymous]

Stand tall, shoulders back, good handshake, and looking people directly in the eye goes a long way for exuding confidence.

Work on posture, handshake, and eye contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shorter guys have to have good personalities...they can't be jerks and still get a girl. In the end, the shorter guy is the better catch.

This. This. This. Shorter men have to hustle in life. They have better personalities. They are more giving. Frequently they give back to the community.
Agree the shorter male makes a better partner.

Things come easier to taller men. Women. Jobs. Sports, Etc. Taller men don't have to work as hard at things.

[Anonymous]

My brother is quite short for a male at 5'3" but I never see him as short. If I focus on his height of course I see that he is but the thing is that his confidence and personality makes it a non-issue. I don't see his height as he is just a great guy and that is what I see. Others unanimously agree and feel the same. And so does his wife and the many girlfriends he has had prior.
OP, I do not know how he is like this but he is very comfortable in his own skin and that really is what is most attractive for any person.

[Anonymous]

Jared Harper

5'10" Auburn basketball player

SEC scholarship

Quote from the article:

"People might underestimate me because of my size," Harper said. "I think I'm pretty strong, and I'm just able to lead my team and continue to play every day."

Clearly the dude worked harder.

https://auburntigers.com/news/2018/1/19/Playing_big_Jared_Harper_uses_small_stature_to_his_advantage.aspx