People thinking I am “not divorced enough”...

[Anonymous]

So many people have gotten burned before with the not quite divorced aka being shady or outright lies about marital status, still occasionally sleeping with the ex, or the divorced less than a year and making up for lost time by enjoying the heck out of flings (both male and female). If you can’t move it to the first coffee date without being asked these question, just keep it strictly to the facts. Separated 3 years ago, divorced a year. I agree with the pp that said, separated should be real separation I.e. not living and sleeping together otherwise don’t mention the date. The reason for the divorce should be held close until it’s a serious relationship and it comes up in conversation.

As for looking for LTR, I know some people said it’s too much pressure but I think it’s important to know what someone is open to/looking for. If someone isn’t ready for a LTR and I am, it’s a waste of both our time if we know we don’t want the same things at the start. You don’t want to put too much pressure so it seems either anyone would do or it’s a job interview/audition but you do want to upfront about what you are looking for so each person has a better chance of finding the relationship situation that they want.

[Anonymous]

Why get into it at all? Presumably they know from your profile you’re divorced. If they ask “how long have you been divorced” say “we finalized everything a year ago.”

[Anonymous]

Be truthful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have found that women in the first 1-2 years after divorce whore around a lot, and even if they say they want to be in a long-term relationship, they really don't. So they are typically a waste of time.

Whore around??

You sound like a total jerk.