Am I out of touch? Is this what 7 year olds are doing now?

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely NO tiktok allowed for my 9 year old. I check his phone regulary and was horrified at snapshot too. Porn ads everywhere. Deleted it. I'm upset that his dad bought him a new Android phone. I can't monitor it like I did with iPhone.

Why on earth does your 9 year old have a phone? WTF?!

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Anonymous wrote:

NOT acceptable. Most families with teens have a screens-in-dock-downstairs rule at night. We do.

Most?

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A friend of mine has a cousin who discovered that her 8yo son watching porn on his iPad on a regular basis, when they thought he was just watching funny YouTube videos up in his room. He had apparently been doing it for months.

The internet is like a nasty Wild West, and parents really need to monitor what their kids are seeing.

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Anonymous wrote:They will do what you let them do.

THIS.
Your job as a parent is to regulate their access to toxic behaviors until they start regulating it themselves or turn 15, whichever happens sooner.

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I wont let my 9 year old watch tik tok videos. In fact i have stopped all games with messaging functionality just for mentsl health reasons. Your sister is a lazy parent.

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Absolutely not.

I rarely let my kids read on the library app at bedtime, let alone watching tiktoks!

Mom of a 10yo and a 7yo.

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It depends on the family. When we grew up, some parents allowed kids to fall asleep with the tv. We don't allow it.

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Anonymous wrote:It depends on the family. When we grew up, some parents allowed kids to fall asleep with the tv. We don't allow it.

TV is a heck of alot safer than letting them unrestricted access to the internet.

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My brothers children are like this. It makes it difficult for my own daughter to play with her cousins, who are the same age, because they have just been exposed to so much. My 8 year old nephew watches a YouTube channel where men in fancy cars drive around testing women to see if they are gold diggers. Then the men leave the women stranded on the side of the road once they determine the female is a gold digger. This was just one minor example of what he watches. A few weeks ago I saw his recommended videos on YouTube and surprise surprise they were porn videos. Took his phone from him and looked at his search history (only because I have occasionally let my daughter watch him play games over his shoulder and was concerned about what she may be seeing) and his phone was filled with porn websites and let me just say ... the stuff he looked up was not normal in any way. They go to bed with their phones. Sad, that their entire childhood went by so fast because their parents are not observant enough to keep on top of it. Both the boys have figured out how to delete individual history now, so while it may look like your children are just watching innocent videos, it’s not always true. Not saying this is the case for everyone, but just more of a heads up for some who think children will naturally self regulate and select appropriate videos all the time. Some will, most probably won’t imo.

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Anonymous wrote:

NOT acceptable. Most families with teens have a screens-in-dock-downstairs rule at night. We do.

Not “most.” A few. Usually those with arbitrarily strict parents hellbent on controlling their kids’ every move.

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No. Absolutely not. I don't even let my teen keep their phone in their room at night.

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Anonymous wrote:No, that’s what kids with lazy parents do.

Disagree

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Anonymous wrote:It depends on the family. When we grew up, some parents allowed kids to fall asleep with the tv. We don't allow it.

I was. I outgrew it by ~10 because of the noise and light. The horror!

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious, for the people who don't let their teens keep their phones in their rooms, what do they do for alarms? I teach HS and at least 95% of my students say they use phone alarms. Please don't tell me you are still waking your kids up at their ages!

They have alarm clocks. The things that plug in, have a radio, alarm, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine has a cousin who discovered that her 8yo son watching porn on his iPad on a regular basis, when they thought he was just watching funny YouTube videos up in his room. He had apparently been doing it for months.

The internet is like a nasty Wild West, and parents really need to monitor what their kids are seeing.

Omg that’s horrifying